Happiness is just a smile away from you

2011-11-15T00:01:00.000-08:00

Its quite a while since my last post. As usual, life goes one with busy routine and sometimes we need some time out. Here is what's is happening to me for over a year. I summarize it in a video. Do enjoy :)

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2011-01-23T20:02:00.000-08:00

The answer to my question over the year still remained as a mystery and when each day passes by, a lot of new challenges added to my life experiences. These challenges that happened seem to have no answers. People said, no matter how dark a room is, God will always open a window to en light us . But for now, i really wanna know where is my window?

2010-02-07T18:12:00.000-08:00

Beginning of a brand new year with homeless by the end of the year

After almost 2 months of 2010 have passed, it was like never ending nightmares where I could not get myself out of the nightmares. Last year December 2009, that was when I started to have this nightmare. A real true nightmare that even now I could not get myself out of it. It was one real bad news that causing me to suffer from depression.
Here, is how the nightmare goes: I received a call from my youngest sister stating that she received a lawyer letter wanting us to evacuate from our house by the end of Jan 31 2010. My siblings n I were traumatized and shocked after reading the content of the letter, as followed:

2 weeks before Chinese New Year? How can we moved out in such short notice plus where are we going to move to? This "developer" or I would say the irresponsible board of director of SMJK Heng Ee did not mention or release any notice. Fortunately a few weeks before CNY the board of director called out a meeting and delayed the demolishing period or else I will be homeless for this CNY.

During the meeting, the board of director discussed on the matter of the compensation but so far the school could not decide on what to compensate us as they expected us to move out of the land peacefully and they can get the land without compensating us anything or at the lowest cost.

The director was paranoid enough saying that we did not sacrifice anything for the future chinese studies prospect and expecting to get a 3 rooms house. Rumors were spread saying that they only give us RM20K for the compensation. If this rumors is true RM20K will never going to be enough as the price for a normal 3 rooms house required at least RM80K.

Is it what an educator should be doing, by demolishing people house and let people or even the older generation people to be homeless or add another burden to maintain another new loan for the new house?

According to an article from a press, this school wanted to upgrade their school into college. As this news was spread, the neighbors were complaining that how come the school have the money to upgrade but doesn"t have the sum to compensate us? Hence, the school immediately changes their plan to use the land to make parking lot.

I realize that we could not do anything as the government already sold the land to Heng Ee high school. But can the board of the school at least be nice by giving us a small house that we can call home and lets not accusing the neighbors(us) for not scarifying anything for the sake of the future of the Chinese studies.

We sacrificed our home, although it's wooden, but we have 5 bedrooms, 3 toilets, and 2 living rooms, plus plenty of parking space. Plus with this demolishing going on, a lot of us will be homeless, not mentioning the older generations. Chinese cultures that we practicing since our great grandmother's generations will all be demolished together along with the house.
Like for myself, how can i afford a new house and continue the practice of Chinese culture while I'm just only a fresh grad?

Besides this, I knew that all these while the only person that held on to this family is my granny and now that she is gone, nobody is the family has the strong determination in holding the family together. Every one in the family was thinking on how to get their benefits from this family, even the 20k they wouldn't mind to divide it and get only a few thousand. Some in the family was saying "let's divide the money and we can go one our way".. while others were like " I wanted this and I wanted that". I was so upset that I could not stand bursting into tears. How can a family be unite in defending the only memory that granny left for us? That house was full of granny and our memories.

What should I do or we do just to have a place we call home?

2009-10-27T09:01:00.000-07:00

4 more days to go and I will be leaving connaught. Well, this is the place where I had rooted myself for over the past 3 years. I still remember when i first came to kl with my parents on one particular Wednesday and i had to take my dinner alone in this famous pasar malam.. *terrible* as i do not know any one over here. Along those way, i knew a lot of friends and particularly I met my darling here.Over these 3 years i lost more than i gained. I have a wonderful boyfriend but I lost my granny and most importantly the homey feelings that i had last time. I guess it's going to be very difficult to retrieve it back. Furthermore, I regretted for what I did to my granny when she was trying to concern about how I was doing while i in hostel. I'm really really sorry!!! When I started my relationship with Cavan,I had never have the chance to let Cavan meet this spectacular and wonderful women in my life. That was such a shame!! But i always believe that Cavan is always the best present that my granny sent to me as my guidance angel, taking care of me. Although granny had never meet Cavan, but i know that deep down, Granny will like and love Cavan.. Am i right??
No matter what, cavan and i will be together along with Granny living deep down in each on of us.. Isn't that wonderful??

Well, after living Connaught, Cavan and I will be moving over to Section 17, Petaling Jaya due to my working place. Oh ya, that's my another stages of life. In another 6 more days, I will be starting my new chapter of my life, working in a company known as Materialise Software Asia Pacific as a medical conversion engineer.Hence I won't have the chance to play play and couch potato-ing anymore. *sob sob*

This is going to be a tough job for me. I am worrying whether i have the ability to cope with this position. But no matter what happens, I hope that I could manage, learn and adapt it in a short time. With blessing and guidance from granny and love and care from my siblings and Cavan, I really hope that I can toughen myself and faces the everyday challenges.

Besides them, my beloved friends will support me too right?? I'm sure you guys will. hehe!!..Thanks ya..

I guess that's all for now.. Will further update more on myself.. Take care everybody!! Love ya all..

2009-10-13T11:11:00.000-07:00

Time to move forward..

It's been a while since my last blog. Ever since i completed my internship in Sime Darby, my life has been like so relaxing as in everyday i wake up, Internet, sleep and eat. That's all. But that wasn't about all. Besides that, i still had to clear up my viva presentation and all those corrections to be made. After spending like exactly a year on my final year project, finally i got it done and ready for hard cover binding. Ended up, my hard cover binding got rejected due to the font type too small. There goes my RM 40 bucks.. (Fly away) Then i purposely made another trip down to Serdang and on my way back in the KTM, i almost got picked pocket. Fortunately, i felt it else not only 80 bucks disappeared but also my RM 620 mobile phone.When i returned to college that very monday, i noticed that i'm the only one who had to send in for hardbound twice and what pissed me off others with the same cover (previously done as mine) need not have to do second time.[*speechless*] What can i do?? Nothing but to swallow it deep down my stomach. That was the unfortunate moment i ever had this year. After went through all those sweat and tears, here goes..

My thesis with all the sweat and tears..

and now, i can say that.. I'm officially OUT from UCSI.. [evil laugh]

As for a month later, i was in dilemma whether to continue master or start working. I was hesitating. I really had no idea. It's like as if, I'm lost in no where. Therefore, i applied for job and prepared for my master application. It was really a tough decision to make. Then as i received a call from the company to attend for an interview, i wasn't sure that i'm making the correct decision. Cavan told me, why not just attend the interview.. just go get interview experiences. Then on the other side, my sister called and said the same thing. It wasn't a bad decision after all, in order to apply for master degree, the most important thing is to have a potential supervisor which i could not find one. I could not risk my 2 years of master with somebody unknown and end up i could not grad.

At the end, i went to the interview and made it for my 2nd interview, i told myself that, even i have to postpone my dream and start working first, it wasn't a bad idea after all. Everybody eventually needs to enter this realistic society sooner or later and it;s good to have working experiences and then further improve and upgrade ourselves. Other than that, Cavan will not have travel over 70 Km each days anymore.

Now, i made it through the 2nd interview and being offered the job as medical conversion engineer. I wanted to thank everybody for all their help especially my parents, siblings and Cavan. They supported me well enough. Soon i will be starting my work and i may not carry out my responsibility or assignments given well, but for those who i loved and supported me all these while, I will try my very best to be fit for this position.

P.S.

Granny, if you see this, i really hope that you will be with me, guide me all the way. I really hope that i can make you feel proud of me. Loving you always.

Cavan, my dear, i'm sorry for being such a self center and causes you quite a lot of trouble. Soon, we together will gambate and make our dreams come true.

2009-07-13T08:34:00.000-07:00

Haze in Kuala Lumpur on 13th July 2009 caused by some barbarians from Sumatera

On this day, i was awakened by this smelly burnt smell.. and i knew this going to be another day with HAZE. I was correct and shocked when I saw that the blurry image of the buildings in KL as shown in the picture above.

Haze is traditionally an atmospheric phenomenon where dust, smoke and other dry particles obscure the clarity of the sky. The WMO manual of codes includes a classification of horizontal obscuration into categories of fog, ice fog, steam fog, mist, haze, smoke, volcanic ash, dust, sand and snow. [1] Sources for haze particles include farming (ploughing in dry weather), traffic, industry, and wildfires.

Seen from afar (e.g. approaching airplane) and depending upon the direction of view with respect to the sun, haze may appear brownish or bluish, while mist tends to be bluish-grey. Whereas haze often is thought of as a phenomenon of dry air, mist formation is a phenomenon of humid air. However, haze particles may act as condensation nuclei for the subsequent formation of mist droplets; such forms of haze are known as "wet haze."

In the United States and elsewhere, the term "haze" in meteorological literature generally is used to denote visibility-reducing aerosols of the wet type. Such aerosols commonly arise from complex chemical reactions that occur as sulfur dioxide gases emitted during combustion are converted into small droplets of sulfuric acid. The reactions are enhanced in the presence of sunlight, high relative humidity, and stagnant air flow. A small component of wet haze aerosols appear to be derived from compounds released by trees, such as terpenes. For all these reasons, wet haze tends to be primarily a warm-season phenomenon. Large areas of haze covering many thousands of kilometers may be produced under favorable conditions each summer.

Haze is also use to describe turbidity in clear glass or plastic as a percent value, or turbidity in beer or wine.

Haze often occurs when dust and smoke particles accumulate in relatively dry air. When weather conditions block the dispersal of smoke and other pollutants they concentrate and form a usually low-hanging shroud that impairs visibility and may become a respiratory health threat. Industrial pollution can result in dense haze, which is known as smog.

Since 1991, haze has been a particularly acute problem in Southeast Asia. In response the ASEAN countries agreed on a Regional Haze Action Plan (1997) and later signed the Agreement on Transboundary Haze Pollution (2002). Under the agreement the ASEAN secretariat hosts a co-ordination and support unit.[2]

aze causes issues in the area of terrestrial photography, where the penetration of large amounts of dense atmosphere may be necessary to image distant subjects. This results in the visual effect of a loss of contrast in the subject, due to the effect of light scattering through the haze particles. For these reasons, sunrise and sunset colors appear subdued on hazy days, and stars may be obscured at night. In some cases, attenuation by haze is so great that, toward sunset, the sun disappears altogether before reaching the horizon (see, for example, Figure 1 in http://www.spc.noaa.gov/publications/corfidi/haze.html). Haze can be defined as an aerial form of the Tyndall effect therefore unlike other atmospheric effects such as cloud and fog, haze is spectrally selective: shorter (blue) wavelengths are scattered more, and longer (red/infrared) wavelengths are scattered less. For this reason many super-telephoto lenses often incorporate yellow filters or coatings to enhance image contrast.

Infrared (IR) imaging may also be used to penetrate haze over long distances, with a combination of IR-pass optical filters (such as the Wratten 89B) and IR-sensitive detector.

With production of plastic films haze has technical significance as the percentage of light that is deflected more than 2.5° from the incoming light direction.[3]
(WIkipedia)

Here are some facts, adapted from the star

Settle this burning issue of haze, now

Something’s in the air these days and it’s not really very nice – in fact it’s downright dangerous and I am not talking about the swine flu. It is the particulates from burning taking place across the Straits of Malacca in Sumatra and in the Riau archipelago carried into Malaysia, Singapore and Thailand by the winds.

It irritates the throat, waters the eyes, increases the risk to asthma patients, multiplies respiratory ailments, raises the air pollution index to unhealthy levels, discourages tourism, puts a pall of gloom in the air and probably has resulted in more direct and indirect deaths than the total number of people killed throughout the world from the A (H1N1) or swine flu virus.

In 1997/98, a particularly bad period when visibility was so low that one could not see the building sitting across the road in Kuala Lumpur, total damage to the environment, health, tourism and other activities was estimated at a staggering US$9bil (RM32bil), most of it to Indonesia itself.

Since that year, the haze has recurred yearly in our part of the world. In addition to fires in Sumatra and Riau, there are others in Kalimantan. Mostly, the fires are due to clearing of land for agriculture.

Using fires to clear land is illegal in Indonesia, but many plantations and farmers routinely use this method for agriculture because it is the cheapest way. The perpetrators don’t care for the health, economic and environmental damage they cause.

They are in effect aided by Indonesian authorities who routinely turn a blind eye to this practice and allow it to go on during the dry season. This burning has recurred every year since 1997 and sometimes has become extremely serious, such as in 2006.

Every year, the west coast of Peninsular Malaysia, Thailand, and Singapore are blanketed in smoke from burning in Sumatra while parts of Sarawak and Brunei are affected by similar burning in the Indonesian part of Borneo.

Every year, when we are supposed to be enjoying blue skies and sunshine, and the sometimes unwelcome hot weather, we get instead gloomy skies, haze and smoke with unseasonably, intense thunderstorms from moisture in the air.

For weeks and months on end from June to September, we have to endure this until the advent of rains from October quells the fires and we move into the rainy season.

The thing that grates is that this whole episode repeated year in and year out is so easily preventable and this will benefit not only countries affected by the Indonesian burning but is most beneficial to Indonesia itself.

Following the major haze in 1997/98, Asean countries signed an agreement called the Asean Agreement on Transboundary Haze Pollution in 2002. That agreement provides a comprehensive basis for the control of haze in the region, imposing obligations on the countries to take appropriate measures where the haze could affect other countries.

However, to date, Indonesia, although a signatory, has not ratified the agreement, which means that the provisions of the agreement are not binding yet.

Thus, the main perpetrator of cross-border pollution is not clearly held to account.

Indonesia’s stance previously has been that it tries to stop the fires but because of the dry weather and the nature of the fires, it is often very difficult to put out once the fires start. The truth is probably somewhere in between, and even by accounts in the Indonesian press itself, fires are most often started by farmers and plantations deliberately and then subsequently rage out of control.

While the short-term costs are lower when debris from land clearing is burnt, the long-term damage to the environment, health, tourism and other economic activities are much, much bigger than the costs.

While unremitting pressure should be put on Indonesia by all the other Asean countries to ratify the agreement, there should be a plan to help Indonesia as well.

Asean countries should seriously consider the setting up of a fund not just to put out fires after they start but to prevent it altogether. That means to stop the people whether farmers or plantations from starting the fires to burn the waste in the first place.

There are measures which can be employed to get rid of organic waste in an environmentally friendly manner. They can for instance be broken up into small pieces and spread on the ground in plantations and farms, providing a source of nutrients as they rot.

A properly administered system of incentives, subsidies and severe penalties will quickly shift plantations and farmers into adopting more environment-friendly measures as they directly gain or lose according to the methods they use.

But for all this to take place, Indonesia must be willing to be part of the process. Asean countries must do their part to pull Jakarta into the circle by applying pressure and by standing ready to provide technical and financial help as and when required.

Admittedly it’s a delicate act which requires not just diplomacy, tact and negotiation but toughness, too. We cannot be pussyfooting around this issue forever as we have not had a haze-free dry season for more than a decade now.

We must extinguish this smouldering, burning issue once and for all.

Managing editor P Gunasegaram says take care of the environment and it will take care of us, too.

Until today the hazes in KL continues, I'm wondering..Does people especially the Authorized personnel have the concern even to solve this problem?? I guess not, they won't give a damn to it also. All they know is just fight for wealth, power, status and just do whatever things in order to get back what they wanted.I really hope that we do our part in making sure that this earth is a safe place for us to have a better future.

No more burning of forest. No more deforestation. No more pollution. Give those lovely animals and creatures a chance to live happily on earth. They have the rights as much as we do.

2009-07-07T20:53:00.001-07:00

A chat with Dr.Devi Shetty, Narayana Hrudayalaya
(Heart Specialist) Bangalore was arranged by WIPRO for its employees .
The transcript of the chat is given below. Useful for everyone.

Qn: What are the thumb rules for a layman to take care of his heart?

Ans:
1. Diet - Less of carbohydrate, more of protein, less oil
2. Exercise - Half an hour's walk, at least five days a week; avoid lifts and avoid sitting for a longtime
3. Quit smoking
4. Control weight
5. Control blood pressure and sugar

Qn: Is eating non-veg food (fish) good for the heart?

Ans: No

Qn: It's still a grave shock to hear that some apparently healthy person
gets a cardiac arrest. How do we understand it in perspective?

Ans: This is called silent attack; that is why we recommend everyone past the age of 30 to undergo routine health checkups.

Qn: Are heart diseases hereditary?

Ans: Yes

Qn: What are the ways in which the heart is stressed? What practices do you suggest to de-stress?

Ans: Change your attitude towards life. Do not look for perfection in everything in life.

Qn: Is walking better than jogging or is more intensive exercise required to keep a healthy heart?

Ans: Walking is better than jogging since jogging leads to early fatigue and injury to joints

Qn: You have done so much for the poor and needy. What has inspired you to do so?

Ans: Mother Theresa , who was my patient

Qn: Can people with low blood pressure suffer heart diseases?

Ans: Extremely rare

Qn: Does cholesterol accumulates right from an early age
(I'm currently only 22) or do you have to worry about it only after you are above 30 years of age?

Ans: Cholesterol accumulates from childhood.

Qn: How do irregular eating habits affect the heart ?

Ans: You tend to eat junk food when the habits are irregular and your body's enzyme release for digestion gets confused.

Qn: How can I control cholesterol content without using medicines?

Ans: Control diet, walk and eat walnut.

Qn: Can yoga prevent heart ailments?

Ans: Yoga helps.

Qn: Which is the best and worst food for the heart?

Ans: Fruits and vegetables are the best and the worst is oil.

Qn: Which oil is better - groundnut, sunflower, olive?

Ans: All oils are bad .

Qn: What is the routine checkup one should go through? Is there any specific test?

Ans: Routine blood test to ensure sugar, cholesterol is ok. Check BP, Treadmill test after an echo.

Qn: What are the first aid steps to be taken on a heart attack?

Ans: Help the person into a sleeping position , place an aspirin tablet under the tongue with a sorbitrate tablet if available, and rush him to a coronary care unit since the maximum casualty takes place within the first hour.

Qn: How do you differentiate between pain caused by a heart attack and that caused due to gastric trouble?

Ans: Extremely difficult without ECG.

Qn: What is the main cause of a steep increase in heart problems amongst youngsters? I see people of about 30-40 yrs of age having heart attacks and serious heart problems.

Ans: Increased awareness has increased incidents. Also, s edentary lifestyles, smoking, junk food, lack of exercise in a country where people are genetically three times more vulnerable for heart attacks than Europeans and Americans.

Qn: Is it possible for a person to have BP outside the normal range of 120/80 and yet be perfectly healthy?

Ans: Yes.

Qn: Marriages within close relatives can lead to heart problems for the child. Is it true?

Ans : Yes, co-sanguinity leads to congenital abnormalities and you may not have a software engineer as a child

Qn: Many of us have an irregular daily routine and many a times we have to stay late nights in office. Does this affect our heart ? What precautions would you recommend?

Ans : When you are young, nature protects you against all these irregularities. However, as you grow older, respect the biological clock.

Qn: Will taking anti-hypertensive drugs cause some other complications (short / long term)?

Ans : Yes, most drugs have some side effects. However, modern anti-hypertensive drugs are extremely safe.

Qn: Will consuming more coffee/tea lead to heart attacks?

Ans : No.

Qn: Are asthma patients more prone to heart disease?

Ans : No.

Qn: How would you define junk food?

Ans : Fried food like Kentucky , McDonalds , samosas, and even masala dosas.

Qn: You mentioned that Indians are three times more vulnerable. What is the reason for this, as Europeans and Americans also eat a lot of junk food?

Ans: Every race is vulnerable to some disease and unfortunately, Indians are vulnerable for the most expensive disease.

Qn: Does consuming bananas help reduce hypertension?

Ans : No.

Qn: Can a person help himself during a heart attack (Because we see a lot of forwarded emails on this)?

Ans : Yes. Lie down comfortably and put an aspirin tablet of any description under the tongue and ask someone to take you to the nearest coronary care unit without any delay and do not wait for the ambulance since most of the time, the ambulance does not turn up.

Qn: Do, in any way, low white blood cells and low hemoglobin count lead to heart problems?

Ans : No. But it is ideal to have normal hemoglobin level to increase your exercise capacity.

Qn: Sometimes, due to the hectic schedule we are not able to exercise. So, does walking while doing daily chores at home or climbing the stairs in the house, work as a substitute for exercise?

Ans : Certainly. Avoid sitting continuously for more than half an hour and even the act of getting out of the chair and going to another chair and sitting helps a lot.

Qn: Is there a relation between heart problems and blood sugar?

Ans: Yes. A strong relationship since diabetics are more vulnerable to heart attacks than non-diabetics.

Qn: What are the things one needs to take care of after a heart operation?

Ans : Diet, exercise, drugs on time , Control cholesterol, BP, weight.

Qn: Are people working on night shifts more vulnerable to heart disease when compared to day shift workers?

Ans : No.

Qn: What are the modern anti-hypertensive drugs?

Ans : There are hundreds of drugs and your doctor will chose the right combination for your problem, but my suggestion is to avoid the drugs and go for natural ways of controlling blood pressure by walk, diet to
reduce weight and changing attitudes towards lifestyles.

Qn: Does dispirin or similar headache pills increase the risk of heart attacks?

Ans : No.

Qn: Why is the rate of heart attacks more in men than in women?

Ans : Nature protects women till the age of 45.

Qn: How can one keep the heart in a good condition?

Ans : Eat a healthy diet, avoid junk food, exercise everyday, do not smoke and, go for health checkup s if you are past the age of 30 ( once in six months recommended) ....

2009-03-08T10:13:00.000-07:00

Events for last two months!!

End of January (Chinese New Year 2009)

Cavan's visit to Penang (Together with H.Ting)

Valentine Eve (Faye and Emily)

March (Supper of the Month)

2009-01-29T00:49:00.000-08:00

Happy Lunar New Year... maybe not so happy after all

This year.. it will be the 2nd year i am celebrating Chinese New Year without my granny.. my beloved grandmother. Without her, it's like everything also did not go well. This year no matter what happen i thought i can face it and try to mend every not necessary sadness, but when this thing came up, it just prove that i am a failure. I am useless in everything. It's not what i want and i cannot predict what's going to happen. Out of sudden, i became the bad guy of everything that happened. This is not what i want. All i want is just to be happy.. celebrate this new year.. Looks like.. my new year is getting worst from years to years.

Anyway.. to the rest.. Happy Chinese New Year..

2009-01-07T07:09:00.000-08:00

The Past and the Future

There, 2009, end of another decades.. Welcome 2009!!!... To be frank.. i ain't the person that very excited over something that is not very exciting.. Okay.. I'm crapping here.. Anyway, my purpose for today's blog is to let people know what i did for the year 2008 and how i feel over the coming days.

Every year, during new year eve...we will sure never going to forget to make ASPIRATIONS.. hehe.. and when over to Gurney Plaza..squeezing with other people just to see fireworks.. This year, it was different.. very different.. i not only get to see fireworks, celebrate with friends and most importantly i don't have to squeeze with people...

Let ya see how i celebrated my New Year.

Isn't it great.. can be able to celebrate with group of friends.. in 19th floor where can see fireworks of the whole KL.. hehe..

there's one thing that i won't forget... that happened last year...
Prom Night ¬ everlasting memories... organized by Faculty of Applied Sciences May 06.. That was the best prom night i ever attended. Not only that, i managed to a title for that night..

Let ya see..

Best couple of the night.. wakakaka!!!

Other pictures...

In fact i wanna thank my friends who voted Cavan and me else i won't had the opportunity to get it.. Thanks ya..!!

Besides that.. i really wanna take this opportunity to wish everybody.. all the best in your future undertakings. 3 years.. it's not a long or a short time, we played, we studied together everything we did was indeed a memory.. Though we could not stop the time from moving forward, but we do have the ability to keep the memories we had to be everlasting. Love ya everybody, i do really missing you guys now..

In the mean time, what's really keep me frustrated, is the damn thesis.. and for now.. that's my worst nightmare.. cause i cannot finish my lab work... Sometimes there is time that i do really feel like giving up but i can feel that somewhere in me keeps telling to keep going. No matter how long is it i'm going to take to end my lab, i will sure to be going tough.. Although the road may be tough right now, as long as we do not fear them, we will easily cross the road to reach our very own destinations.

"Never Let the fear of Striking out, keeps you from playing the game"

2008-12-01T07:40:00.000-08:00

Thesis...

Currently, i am still cracking my brain, scratching my forehead..over the thesis that i am doing. To be frank, i do not really have the mood for thesis right now, but i am running out of time. Got to finish the result part.. as i will be having a short presentation on it. I have over 50 isolates from the faecal samples, which means i got to do 50 over pages just for the result part only. But now, i managed to stain only about Seven samples, and average for one sample to have isolate of bacteria is 5 types. Therefore, i will 35 pages of result at this moments. For now, i still have another 15 pages to go.. If you guys really wanna know what type of bacteria is it.. i can only tell you they are gram positive bacteria. Hehe.. Below are one of my favourite bacteria that i managed to stain and viewed under the microscope. Have a look at it. I'm sure you will like it as well..

Isn't it cute?? For now, i name it as Staphylococcus josephinese. Wakakaka. and it's just temporary.. as soon as i manage to identify what is it... i will definitely let you guys know what it is actually.

It's interesting to see such a result.. but when you are facing result such as below, you might as well just throw the whole thing rather than letting your eyes pop out in order to check the shape of the bacteria

Tomorrow, i got to take bus back to KL and i will have to start my lab life again for another month or two. It's very tiring when you have to leave for lab at 8 or 9 and come back at 5 in the evening. it's like working.. with no salary and got to pay for the fees.

I came back last friday just to practice my driving skill.. Hehe.. It was a good practice after leaving my skills for almost a year although i have a little problem with breaking, and going into 2nd lane from the 3rd lane when the road is crowded with moving cars. Anyway, i really pity my sister as she is having some phobia sitting in the car i drove.. I should really say that.. my driving skill is suck to the maximum. Even myself see stars after driving back from Auto City.. Hopefully my skills will be better next month as i got to drive over the penang bridge a few times in a week.. else.. i might be able to blog again..
Guess got to stop right now, i got to pack my stuff d.

Take care, my readers

Josephine will love you guys always.

2008-10-29T09:11:00.000-07:00

A Day in Italiannies

Soup of the Day (Minestrone Soup)

Sky Juice of Italiannies

Cavan in Italiannies

Josephine in Italiannies

Increasing appetite with the soup

Here comes the lasagna

and the pasta...

after an hour...

Unable to finish the lasagna... got to take away...

We had a wonderful lunch in Italiannies... But the price for the food are quite expensive...

Don't think of going there again.. too costly...

You guys.. might wanna try... !!!

2008-10-17T06:06:00.000-07:00

introducing.. my babies..

Gal Gal

DiDI

Both of them together

2008-09-13T07:47:00.000-07:00

Happy Mid-Autumn 2008

The first Mid-autumn, mooncakes i got it for CH's parent

2008-08-18T19:17:00.000-07:00

Hehe, One of my recipes

2008-08-12T23:57:00.000-07:00

More recipes..

2008-08-12T09:54:00.000-07:00

more foods.. yesterday and the day before yesterday...

2008-08-10T03:03:00.000-07:00

Golden Fish Egg

the Cooker!!! wakakaka

Stay tune for more foods..!!

2008-08-05T00:12:00.000-07:00

Meal of the day...

Prepared by Myself!!!..

2008-07-05T00:05:00.000-07:00

Hello everybody,

Cavan here,

My new video trailer on Ever Lasting Memories.. Enjoy!!!

2008-06-26T08:42:00.000-07:00

Malaysian Government Destroy Temple

SHAME on you!!!!

2008-06-22T08:43:00.000-07:00

Parents.. to be.. Friends and Relatives...
NEED your attentions..

I here by, informing..EVERYBODY of future parents... or parents of NEWBORN babies.. age LESS than 5 MONTHS.. who are feeding their babies.. using INFANT FORMULA Feed.. pls, do let me know ya.. NEED the baby feces for my final year project... PLS HeLP me to yet sample ya...

THANK YOU...

LOVE YA...

BEST regards..

Josephine..

2008-06-07T03:52:00.000-07:00

Save your gadget.. save your money..

no harm trying it..

2008-05-29T05:12:00.001-07:00

Prediction of the coming Disaster

> Mr. Juseleeno, born in 1960(reportedly still alive in 2008), is a Brazilian
> who has made many predictions, and MOST have come to pass, including
> Princess Diana's death by car accident (which is instigated by someone near
> her and will probably unfortunately be written off as a car accident), 911
> and the 2004 Indonesian tsunami. He sees the future in his dreams, and has
> an average of 3 to 9 such predictions per day. When he wakes up, he will
> write them down, and send warnings to those concerned.
>
>
> If it concerns only a normal individual, he will write a letter to warn
> him/her.
>
>
> If it is a famous person(celebrity, politician etc.), or matters concerning
> the public, he will not only send it to the individual himself/herself, but
> also related agencies, government, and media. He urged the media to
> publicize these predictions, but the reply always went along the lines of
> rejection for fear of arousing public panic.
>
>
> Future predictions:
>
>
> 2008, July: There will be an earthquake in Japan, which will cause a
> tsunami of 30 plus metres high to occur as well.
>
>
> 2008, 18th September: An earthquake with magnitude of approximately 9.1
> will rock China , simultaneously causing a tsunami of more than 30 metres
> to occur, resulting in the deaths of more than 1 million people.
>
>
> Although this huge earthquake will happen after the Olympics have ended,
> there will be a series of relatively smaller earthquakes occurring in China
> before the huge earthquake. The China government, which is more concerned
> with the success of the Olympics, will most likely neglect to employ
> appropriate cautionary measures, thus the high casualty rate. If the China
> government does not publicise the occurrence of these minor earthquakes and
> evacuate people, the number of deaths will be as predicted.
>
>
> 2008, 17th December: terrorist attack in America
>
>
> 2010: The temperatures in some countries of Africa could be as high as 58
> degrees Celsius, and there will be a serious shortage of water.
>
>
> 2010, 15th June: The New York Stock Exchange market will fail, causing an
> international financial crisis.
>
>
> 2011: The research on the treatment of some cancers will be completed, but
> a new life-threatening virus will appear. People who are infected will die
> after only approx. 4 hours of coming into contact with the virus.
>
>
> 2013, 1st - 25th November: Research on treatment of cancers, except for
> brain tumors, will be completed. An earthquake, caused by volcanic
> eruptions, will happen on Bahama Island of the Canary Islands. A gigantic
> tsunami of roughly 150 metres will result. America mainlands, Brazil etc.
>
>
> will be affected, with the tsunami pushing into the land as far as 15 to 20
> kilometres. Before the occurrence of this gigantic tsunami, the sea/ocean
> water levels will sink by about 6 metres, and large flocks of birds will
> start to migrate.
>
>
> 2014: A small planet that has been gradually closing in on Earth might
> eventually collide with Earth, and this collision, if come to pass, will
> affect the survival of humans as a whole.
>
>
> 2015: By the mid of November, the average temperature of Earth could be as
> high as 59 degrees Celsius. Many people will die from the overheat, and
> international confusion and terror ensues.
>
>
> 2016, April: A huge typhoon will invade China, causing massive damage. The
> 43rd USA president, George Walker Bush, will enter the hospital, and faces
> a life or death situation.
>
>
> 2026, July: A super earthquake will occur in Sans Francisco, and it will be
> named "The Big One". Huge damage to surrounding areas. Many volcanoes will
> re-activate, and the height of resulting tsunami will be more than 150
> metres.
>
>
> Mr. Juseleeno made known his predictions in hopes that people will take
> heed of his warnings, so that these disasters may be avoided. He hopes
> there will be a major change in the thinking of people's mindsets in the
> time period 2007 - 2008. One factor will be the environmental issue of
> global warming, which is more serious than what some meteorologists assume.

Got it from a forwarded email..
Not sure whether it's true or not??
Hopefully it's an ordinary email..

2008-05-21T09:47:00.000-07:00

The End of the World- 2012 December 21

Recently, i heard a lot of these 2012 predictions saying that, the world will end in another four years time. Isn't it scary when you heard of it especially after the two incidents that happened in Myanmar and China which causes thousand of lives. Those predictions includes that a lot of destruction will happened in that particular year. I personally do not want it to come true, i guess nobody wants it, right? Some predicted that the world will suffer from shortage of food supply before this, well it really came true as everywhere food prices are rising. To be frank, i am really worry about this predictions might come true. I do not want myself or see other people that i love be the victims of any nature disasters. In the mean time, i guess there is nothing that we can do but wait and pray that this predictions will just be a rumors.

2008-05-19T10:11:00.000-07:00

"Coated" Snacks in JB

2008-05-19T10:05:00.000-07:00

Do you dare to try lobster again??

Do not eat these mini lobsters.

These mini crustaceans are literally the garbage cleaners in the sewage treatment plants.

The "dirtier" the water, the fatter these mini lobsters
become.

Their lungs are full of worms and their flesh saturated with poisonous metals.

Unscrupulous merchants somehow found a way to get these marketed to eateries.

2008-05-19T10:01:00.000-07:00

Before marriage…

He: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.

She: Do you want me to leave?

He: No! Don't even think about it.

She: Do you love me?

He: Of course! Over and over!

She: Have you ever cheated on me?

He: No! Why are you even asking?

She: Will you kiss me?

He: Every chance I get.

She: Will you hit me?

He: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!

She: Can I trust you?

He: Yes.

She: Darling!

After marriage…

Simply read from bottom to top.

2008-05-19T09:49:00.000-07:00

The wonder of OKRA (Ladies Finger)

For those who do not really like to consume ladies finger, well hopefully after seeing it.. you might fall for it..Otherwise, love it for your health purposes. For me.. i love to take it.. you have tons of it.. i can finish it in a while.. It really taste good especially with curry

2008-05-19T09:41:00.000-07:00

Safety tips with Green Potatoes

Green = vegetables = good, right?
Not when it comes to potatoes.
Here's an important piece of information that my mother taught me years ago, but fewer and fewer people these days seem to know about. Green in potatoes indicates the presence of a rather harmful toxin . When you see patches of green in your potatoes as you peel them, cut out the green parts entirely and discard them.

What is the green? Actually it's chlorophyll. Not bad for you at all. But the chlorophyll indicates that the potato has been exposed to sunlight. And where the potato has been exposed to light is where a natural toxin in the potato (solanine) becomes concentrated at harmful levels. So, never store your potatoes on the counter. Always keep them in a cool, completely dark ple.

According to the Wikipedia , deep-frying potatoes at a high temperature (306°F) effectively lowers the level of toxins. But boiling them (212°F) has no effect. Best to stay on the safe side and just cut away the green parts. The NIH website mentions that the potato sprouts can also have concentrated solanine, so those too should never be eaten.

Links:
Potato Poisoning - Green Tubers and Sprouts - Medline Plus, of the National Institute of Health
About solanine - Wikipedia reference
Green Potatoes are Poisonous: True - Snopes Urban Legend Reference Pages
Harold McGee on green potatoes

2008-05-07T07:17:00.000-07:00

3 in 1 Vacation.. (Perhentian-Redang-Lang Tengah)

After my final exam, i managed to spend a few days in these few places.. Well, i kinda enjoyed myself there... with nice views, baby shark, and all fishes in South China Sea. (Laughing) although i do not know how to swim at all. It's nice to go there if you guys out there have the opportunity before the sea got really polluted. Here are some pictures that i would like to share with u guys. Sit back, relax and enjoy..

On the way to Perhentian Besar

Redang

Lang Tengah

If u guys really wanna go for holiday there.. remember to apply tons and tons of sun block.. otherwise.. u will become a barbecued human.. that's when u will cry.. especially for girls.. i had the experience.. Enjoy.. Tata

2008-03-26T23:07:00.000-07:00

i found this from an email and feels that its kinda interesting to share with everyone.. Enjoy!!

Why wedding ring should put on the fourth finger??

Thumb represents parents
Second finger represents brothers & sisters
Center finger represents own self
Fourth finger represents your partner
Last finger represents your children
Really interesting

Why wedding ring should put on the fourth finger??
Pls follow the below step, really god made this a miracle (this is from a Chinese expert)

Firstly, show your palm, center finger bend and put together back to back Secondly, the rest 4 fingers tips to tips

Game begins....follow the below arrangement,

5 finger but only 1 pair can split.

Try to open your thumb, the thumb represents parents, it can be open because all human does go thru sick and dead. Which are our parents will leave us one day.

Please close up your thumb, then open your second finger, the finger represent brothers and sisters, they do have their own family which is too they will leave us too.

Now close up your second finger, open up your little finger, this represent your children. Sooner or later they too will leave us for they got they own living to live.

Nevertheless, close up your little finger, try to open your fourth finger which we put our wed ding ring; you will be surprise to find that it cannot be open at all. Because it represent husband and wife, this whole life you will be attach to each other.

Real love will stick together ever and forever. . .

2008-03-26T23:01:00.000-07:00

This column is specially dedicated to all women in the world..Pls do not wear heal so often..As people says.. (Prevention is always better than cure)
Interesting facts.. and enjoy..

Regards,
Josephine Tan

2008-03-23T06:53:00.001-07:00

'The Journey Of A Mother'

For those who are fortunate enough to still be blessed by having your
Mom with you, this is beautiful.

For those who aren't...it is even more beautiful.

'The Journey Of A Mother'

The young mother set her foot on the path of life.

'Is this the long way?' she asked.

And the guide said 'Yes, and the way is hard. And you will be old
before you reach the end of it. But the end will be better than the
beginning.'

But the young mother was happy, and she would not believe that
anything could be better than these years.

So she played with her children, she fed them and bathed them, and
taught them how to tie their shoes and ride a bike and reminded them
to feed the dog, and do their homework and brush their teeth. The sun
shone on them, and the young Mother cried, 'Nothing will ever be
lovelier than this.'

Then the nights came, and the storms, and the path was sometimes dark,
and the children shook with fear and cold, and the mother drew them
close and covered them with her arms, and the children said, 'Mother,
we are not afraid, for you are near, and no harm can come.'

And the morning came, and there was a hill ahead, and the children
climbed and grew weary, and the mother was weary. But at all times she
said to the children, 'A little patience and we are there.' So the
children climbed, and as they climbed they learned to weather the
storms. And with this, she gave them strength to face the world.

Year after year, she showed them compassion, understanding, hope, but
most of all...unconditional love. And when they reached the top they
said, 'Mother, we would not have done it without you.'

The days went on, and the weeks and the months and the years, and the
mother grew old and she became little and bent. But her children were
tall and strong, and walked with courage. And the other, when she lay
down at night, looked up at the stars and said, 'This is a better day
than the last, for my children have learned so much and are now
passing these traits on to their children.'

And when the way became rough for her, they lifted her, and gave her
their strength, just as she had given them hers.

One day they came to a hill, and beyond the hill, they could see a
shining road and golden gates flung wide.

And mother said: 'I have reached the end of my journey. And now I know
the end is better than the beginning, for my children can walk with
dignity and pride,with their heads held high, and so can their
children after them. And the children said, 'You will always walk with
us, Mother, even when you have gone through the gates.'

And they stood and watched her as she went on alone, and the gates
closed after her. And they said: 'We cannot see her, but she is with
us still. A Mother like ours is more than a memory. She is a living
presence.'

Your Mother is always with you.

She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street, she's the
smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick and perfume that
she wore, she's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling
well, she's your breath in the air on a cold winter's day.. She is the
sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a rainbow,
she is Christmas morning. Your Mother lives inside your laughter.

And she's crystallized in every tear drop. A mother shows every
emotion .happiness, sadness, fear, jealousy, love, hate, anger,
helplessness, excitement, joy, sorrow... and all the while, hoping and
praying you will only know the good feelings in life.

She's the place you came from, your first home, and she's the map you
follow with every step you take. She's your first love, your first
friend, even your first enemy,but nothing on earth can separate you.
Not time, not space...not even death!

2008-03-21T17:18:00.001-07:00

"Happiness is just a smile away from you" What a code!! But when somebody is really not happy, how can they ever smile to get happiness? Maybe it is real that when you smile you can get happiness but to smile, it is really one tough job to be done especially when you are not at the mood. Now for me, i really want that particular person to smile all he can from his heart no matter what happen. Unfortunately, i am going to have disappointment.

I do not want this to happen and its out of my control. I thought today, i could go for a seminar happily with him to learn something from it but in the end, it just not what i think. Everything happened because of mine unorganized attitude, did not bothered or think properly first and just wasted 20 bucks for nothing. Worst of all, it makes everyone so unhappy. Now i think i can consider myself as "pai ka chai"

Sometimes, i really cannot think of a reason why do i come to this world.. i just wish that i never come to this world at all. All i can describe myself is just Stupid, useless, good for nothing, wasting everybody's time and money. Even in my love life, wanna be a good girlfriend also seems impossible. Even when Cavan is upset and scare, i cannot even do a single thing for him.
I wish i just die and leave this world...so that i wont give Cavan or my family anymore worries or trouble..

2008-03-07T00:02:00.000-08:00

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2008-02-21T22:57:00.000-08:00

歌手:陶莉萍专辑:好想再听一遍

好想再听一遍
陶莉萍

最后一眼最后一面
最后害怕会有明天
泪水会在每一个夜
紧紧跟随着思念
是我不该是我依赖
是我靠着你而存在
把你当作整个世界
不知该往哪离开
为了爱为了梦
为了情为了你
放弃一切
有了爱有了梦
有了你没了永远
好想再听一遍
你曾说过的誓言
让我再重温
被爱的感觉
被需要的滋味
就算只是在一瞬间
好想再听一遍
你说会爱我不变
让我在最后
记着你的温柔
记着你的脸
记着在爱情里最美的画面
不知该怎么离开
记着在爱情里最美

This song best describe my feelings now..

2008-02-16T21:39:00.000-08:00

True color revealed

Based on true story!
Happy Lunar New Year!!! Everybody..Today is the 10th day of Lunar New Year and i am suppose to study for my coming examinations but there is something that just keeps my attention away from my notes. Lunar New Year should be a very happy and joyful occasion for every Chinese in this world maybe there is an exceptional this year. Everybody was happily reunion with their family but this year, why i can't get such opportunity. I really wanted to have such dinner where everyone in the family gets together for this reunion even though my granny is no more with us. But i am very sure, my grandmother would definitely want to see everyone in the family reunion on this day even without her present. But how many people in this family really care for this? It was such a great disappointment for my granny if she saw this. I am really sad to say that this year, there is no reunion dinner for me, for my mother's side.

Well, today is there will be a function whereby to join my grandmother's ashes with the ancestors. Unfortunately, there is someone particular, Z wanted to so called "clone" the ashes for himself. What is this attitude?? Well, it won't be wrong if he wants the ashes but what if he did it for bad intentions and never wanted to come " ancestor's house" again? To be frank, Z was the one of them who did not want to have the reunion together as he was complaining that the house is warm and he cannot stand the heat but he did not remember that was the place he grew up and how he grew up, in other words, it can be also called " Bagai kacang lupakan kulit" and when being asked to make the reunion at his house, he rejected in the first place. Oh ya, i remember that, he once said that the Cheng's people are all stupid and useless. Funny, or i guess he forgot that his surname is Cheng too. That's human nature. Thinking again, i should be happy if Z do not want to come to my granny's house forever but i am not happy cause i know that this is not what my grandmother wants. My grandmother knows the attitudes of Z but every year when my granny was alive, she spent with her own money pocket to buy a lot of steamboat materials and asked Z to come along for the reunion dinner.Can anyone figure out the point? If for me, i would not want to spend my own pocket money for the one with irritation and self centered people. Worst of all Z did not even be bothered to think back what my granny had done for both Z and his wife, fine if he did not do that but at least can't he think about this? If i had an opportunity, i really hope that, i could whack them up but i could not do anything for my granny. With this, i sincerely hope that someday Z will realize and appreciates my granny in a way more and not just thinking of his own good.

Shall see, whether these days will come or it's just a dream of mine..

2008-01-14T04:45:00.000-08:00

Can somebody tell me a way to enter the other world??? i guess nobody can tell me how. All i ever want is to see my granny again as i miss her very very much. I just wish that there is no such thing as DEATH... but there is one very important lesson that can be learned from it. As when our loves one were here, we will not know how to appreciate them but until we lost them, then only we realize how important they were to us. I really regretted that i did not really appreciate and treat my granny well until now, i want to see or treat her nicely, i will not have the chance to do so. After what she did for my siblings and me, and i did not do anything back for my granny. I'm so sorry!!!

It's going to be a year which is this coming Chap Goh Mei since i last met my granny, until now, i can always feel her present as if like i were hugging my granny, her body temperature, so comfortable till like i am the happiest girl on earth. I sometimes do remember how my granny looked like, so young and so energetic. But someday, will i forget how my granny looked like or the way my granny used to pat me when i lied my head down my granny's leg? i really scare i do.

I know i should have let my granny go a year ago as it was the best way for my granny to be free from all the sufferings and to be happier but i cannot help but missing her. Now, even if my granny appears in my dream, i will be also be happy as i could see my granny and talk to her although i know that its just only my brain who is responsible for all the dreams. No matter what, i still wish that someday i could meet my granny and go through all over again even though it is impossible.
Lastly, no matter where my granny goes, i want my granny to be happy..and i will remember n love my granny forever.

Figure: My beloved granny. Isn't it my granny sweet with her smile??

2007-12-31T05:02:00.000-08:00

i am very glad that finally, 2007 is reaching the end, Disasters, sad memories, and seeing the person you love going away, all bad news about people deceases will finally going to end.. HOPEFULLY!!! But towards the end of December, at least i can see my sister's happy face as she got married and she is very beautiful. I really wonder if my granny will ever see my eldest sister on her very big day?? i am sure my granny will be happy and feel joyful with smile on my grandmother's face seeing her beautiful granddaughter is walking down the aisle. Unfortunately, my granny cannot see it with her own eyes as my granny was waiting for it for ages.

Well, happiness should be shared and i sincerely hope that the couple will live happy ever after as this is also what my granny would like to say. My dear sister and brother in law.. Congratulations and of cos, my big brother in law, welcome to our family.. Here are some happy moments that could cheer a tearful heart。Enjoy!

end of the year..

2007-10-31T05:24:00.000-07:00

October.. best month of the year..

It is great when you know that, besides you, you are surrounded by friends and care and loving partner... I had a great time this month especially on the 7th. I guess that was my first time celebrating my birthday with the one who care and love me. I really really wanted to thank Cavan for all of the hardship that he went through just to celebrate for me.This year, besides Cavan, i wanna thank my friends Poh Han, 29, Sabrina, sisters and those who wished me. I really hope that i'm not too late in thanking you guys back.. I received beautiful roses and a teddy bear, cake and surprises, earrings,clothes and many more from my friends. thanks guys!!! If i am really too late, i'm really sorry as i got to spend around 2 weeks to clear up my assignments, report and studies for my final.

After my final, we planned all of sort of things such as enjoying ourself in genting and so on... for our holidays, but situation did not allowed us to do so.. The next day right after my final,Cavan almost lost his wallet and fortunately, We managed to get it back but at the same time.. i forgot that i had the appointment with Cherlyn that we going to have lunch together. Ended up i had to fly her aeroplane, making her got to come early and waited for me..i am so sorry it i had red eye and we ended up in a clinic for some treatment.. the next day.. we planned on going to the themepark.. but we ended up half hill of genting, visiting Uncle Lim, Tan Sri Lim Goh Tong.. to pay respect and seeing him for the last time. it was an lifetime experience. May him rest in peace. The next day, Cavan was attacked from fever which lead to skin infection.. and for the second time, we visited clinic.. Last week was really a one true experience.. will never going to forget it.

2007-09-29T23:39:00.001-07:00

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2007-09-28T21:41:00.000-07:00

i received an email about a story written by a husband and the story goes like this:
Happy reading it..

Story from a husband

To my married and unmarried friends:

This is a very touching story, please read it slowly, I've read it more than twice....

When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arms

On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy.
I was a strong and happy bridegroom.

This was the scene ten years ago.

The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.

Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.

Dew came into my life.

It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her.

Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls' eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we were just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls.

Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. But I couldn't help doing so.

I moved Dew's hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.?
I've got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised to do it together with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.

However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt.

Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner.
I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew's body. This was the means of my entertainment.

One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn't imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.

When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.

Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.

When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I've got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the serious topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I'm serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.

Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.

She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month s time before divorce, and in the month's time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she
didn't want him to see our marriage was broken.

She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day? This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when
we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning.

I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked
over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don't tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for a bus, I drove to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.

On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vague.

On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn't tell Dew about this.

I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have
grown bigger. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.

Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it's time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step.
Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old.

I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn't notice that our life lacked intimacy.

I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won't divorce. I'm serious.

She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of life, not because
we didn't love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the office.

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card.
I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until we are old.

p/s :

Just feel like sharing this with all. Appreciate this article real much. For those who are in love for a long time, don't ignore the minor things in life. U may miss out so much of the good things life offers to us.

May all couples appreciate the good things that ever happen in life and be blessed with happiness.

2007-09-19T06:55:00.000-07:00

How pork meat come about??

Cavan sent me a video clip and as when i watched that clip, it was like Oh my gosh, how could they do such thing to poor little innocent creature. Well, i would like to share it with everyone but unfortunately i could not embed it on blogspot so i can only put copy paste the URL for everyone:

http://club.6park.com/ghostp/messages/15561.html

Please do have a look and i hope that no such things will happen again. If someone really want to slaughter a pig, please let the pig die with dignity. Do not let the pig suffer before ending its life. Please spread around this video, let everyone in the world witness the cruelty that has been done. Save them as they really need your help.
Thank you

2007-08-14T06:56:00.000-07:00

hehe.. Raymond Lam Fung.. especially in the clip.. the last breakthrough

2007-07-31T23:27:00.001-07:00

Click to play | Make your own Smilebox

2007-07-26T08:34:00.000-07:00

Queen of the day to be

Isn't it cool to see your siblings to be happy especially on her special day? when i see her in wedding dress, i just feel happy cause she is happy. What am i doing, it just wedding dress tried out.. lovely.. i just don't really know why.. out of sudden, i feel that my sister is very pretty and i am sure going to miss her. Well, here is one of the pictures.. i cannot post too many cause afraid.. someone else might fall in love with her.. Just kidding.. just wanna share..my feelings..

Haha.. sorry.. i cannot reveal too much of her true face.. just a side is more than enough.. let ya guess..how beautiful my sister is..

2007-07-20T05:37:00.000-07:00

2007/2007.. double 2007..!!!
What a special day.. once in a life time..!!!
Do you think that a special day such as today, can be meaningful enough..??
Maybe to someone else but it will never going to be me.

Today, everything came across my mind.. and i have nobody to talk to..and i found out that my very best friend.. is my precious notebook.. then i guess i really got to thank my parents for this notebook. Without them.. i might not have the chance to meet my best friend here. Whenever i am down or happy, my one and only precious laptop accompany me. I guess without it.. i might be able to go through my life.

All these while.. i always wonder, Why God.. loves to play a fool on people by stealing the person of you love, making you cry because the person that you love is not going to be by your side and you will never going to have a chance to meet them again. I was once been told that, everything that happens, happens only within your limits and you will sure to handle it. But how truth is it??

For a year, my life changed drastically till i don't even know who myself now. I used to be a happy go lucky girl with hardly have temper and i was surrounded by friends. But now, i can hardly tell a joke and i am not as happy as i used to be. Everything changed.. everybody changed.. and my face shines no more.. Things that happened will not going to come back again and there will be no way that i can ever get back to my world. Granny went away, friend passed away... friends no more.. health declining.. There are times that i really wanna question God?? Why wouldn't God just take me instead of taking the people around away or making them suffer?? Why would God wanna take the good, smart and young people whose future going to be bright?? Why can't he just take me?? I have nobody, no future and just a dumb ass. I really wish that, if there's an option, just take me.. cause i am really really tired and wish that i will have a place that belongs to me.. Just wish that.. i have never come to this world!!!

2007-07-06T22:06:00.000-07:00

Where are justice, animal rights and humanity gone to??

I found these pictures from an email and i felt that such things should not have happen on this mother earth as they are also part of the nature. N i would like to share with everyone and hopefully such lovely creatures should not be killed to satisfy the joy of the human. I hope you guys out there will feel the suffering out these creature as much as i do

2007-07-01T07:13:00.001-07:00

雙魚星座的男人

田希仁

如果你是個追求浪漫的女人，那麼魚座的男人是不會讓妳失望的，清晨看日出，星光下划船，都可能是他採取的行動，他的溫柔體貼和無比的想像力，會給你帶來前所未有的甜蜜和歡樂。魚座男人的愛情像一張柔軟的床，讓你很容易養成賴床的壞習慣。就好像很多愛情小說中的人物一樣，每天什麼事都不做，只要談戀愛就能過日子一樣。

但是，現實生活中，愛情畢竟不是全部，如果你運氣好碰上了一條深諳水性的魚，他懂得掌握每一次機會，發揮自己的才華及想像力，那你就安心享受他帶給你的財富和名望吧！若是你遇上的是條弄不清潮汐擱淺在沙灘上的魚，快點斬斷情絲吧！否則你這輩子除了陪他作夢之外，就得面對一切現實生活的壓力了！

魚座的男人是很浪漫的幻想家，很多魚座的男人也真的在夢想中度過了一生的。因為他的夢想實在跟現實離得太遠了，他大部份的時間都花在如何把他的夢做的更完美一點，而不是如何實際的一步一步讓夢想實現，許多的機會就這樣從他眼前溜走，註定一輩子擱淺在沙灘上。他或許仍然覺得過得不錯，因為他心中始終有夢。但是如果你要跟他相守一生，那就恐怕有一點淒慘了。不要責備他沒有責任感，他的浪漫不正是令你心儀的原因嗎？只不過你沒料到他會「浪漫」到如此地步罷了。

當然，我也說過，還是有一些深諳水性的魚，你最好天天禱告你能遇上一條。對一個女孩來說，真的沒有比這個更好的際遇了。他浪漫多情，溫柔體貼，他有著豐富的想像力，他的夢想偉大而燦爛，更重要的是，他能夠把握每一次有利的時機，讓一切美夢成真。他會慷慨的讓你分享他的成就感，以及他贏得的榮譽、地位、財富，還有好多好多羨慕又嫉妒的眼光。

不要說我言過其實，這兩種類型的魚我都曾經看到過。我認識的那條擱淺的魚，他的夢想是找到一個有錢的老婆，少奮鬥二十年，而且可以有充足的資本，愛做什麼就做什麼。所以，他從來沒有認真工作過，一年當中有一半的時間都在失業，窮得連房租都交不出來，常常連睡覺的地方都沒有。好不容易賺了一點錢，就去弄頭髮，買衣服，東借西湊的買了一部拉風的摩托車，騎了幾天就撞壞了沒錢修。當然，到現在還沒等到他夢想中的有錢老婆。倒是女友換了好幾個，每個女孩子開始的時侯都是滿懷愛心的想幫助他、照顧他，因為他是那麼的溫柔、善良、又可憐。但是最後傷心絕望的離他而去。

我認識的那條深諳潮汐的魚，是一位優秀的企劃人才，他以豐富的想像力和思想，創造了許多奇蹟般的成功案例，好多次他所企劃的事情，在剛開始的時侯大家都以為絕對不可行，但是他卻能夠把握住有利的時機，所有的機會連結在一起。所以每次能出奇制勝。在工作上，大家都很佩服他，他在自己從事的行業中有著崇高的地位。在家裡，他是個溫和的丈夫，有愛心的爸爸。而他的妻子，始終靜靜的欣賞他把夢想變成真的魔術。當他有需要時，給他誠懇的建議和幫助。

上述的兩種魚都是極成功和極失敗的典範，事實上我也見過曾經擱淺，後來又重回大海的魚，還有曾經掌握多次漲潮，風光一時的魚，最後在沙灘上乾涸而死。對於他的成功失敗，其實你還是很有影響力，但是幫助他的方式應該是溫柔、有耐心的。

魚座男人難免都有頹廢的傾向，經常需要別人的肯定和讚美，你的鼓勵對他來說是很重要的，用冷酷實際的言語打碎他的夢，將是失去他最快的方式。

溫暖又有愛心的魚座男子，將是朋友們傾吐心事的好對象：其中當然也不乏是異性朋友。收斂一下你的醋勁，加入他們的行列，才是避免外遇的好方法。他經常需要獨處的時間，以平衡他容易受到外界影響的心情，請不要在他心情低落的時侯，對他喋喋不休，抱怨個不停，這很可能會讓他從你面前消失好一陣子，甚至再也不出現了。

魚座男人的溫柔本性，會讓他收集到很多的秘密，事實上他敏感而機警的心靈，讓他本能的能看穿別人的心，想要欺騙他可不是件容易的事情。但是他如果想要唬你可就輕而易舉啦！以他的想像力，編故事實在太簡單了。但是多數的魚座男人都很善良，少有惡意的欺騙。

不過說些無傷不雅的小謊倒是可能的。似乎隱藏一些事實他會比較有安全感！不必太小題大作！你就睜一隻眼、閉一隻眼算了。魚兒再靈活總也游不出海的懷抱，如果你有著海一般的胸懷，你就永遠會是他夢境中的愛麗絲，有幾個女孩能像你那麼幸運，一輩子都能享受浪漫的愛情呢？

雙魚座的男人與「性」

雙魚座的男人在性方面是追求自己快樂，也希望讓對方快樂的。雙魚座的男人有些縱慾，在性愛的表現上也是想像力十足，可能會想出各種新鮮的花樣，來刺激彼此的樂趣，他是溫柔浪漫的，冷漠的女孩會讓他不滿足，甚至給他挫折感。

雙魚座的爸爸

雙魚座的男人會是個討好孩子歡心的爸爸，他鮮活的想像力足以滿足小孩的幻想，他們會喜歡跟他一起瘋，一起玩，一起說故事。他的溫柔和體貼，會給他們很大的安全感，他的愛不會給孩子壓迫感，他總會體諒他們的情緒和所犯的錯。教孩子們守紀律，恐怕不是他內行的事，因為雙魚座的男人本身就沒有什麼紀律的歡念，關於這一點你就得多費心思了。

2007-07-01T07:08:00.004-07:00

雙魚星座的女人

田希仁

若說「女人是水做的」，那他大概指的是雙魚座的女子了。因為，沒有人比她更柔情似水了。「她是個標準的女人」，我相信你也一定會同意，典型的雙魚女子，根本就是男性夢中情人的化身。即使她不是絕世美女，她的舉手投足也都充滿了女人味。

更重要的是，魚座女子的女人味，絕對不只是外表的假象，她連骨子裡都徹底是個女人。在十二個星座的女子當中，魚座的女人是最沒有統御男人慾望的。她總是用那雙溫柔的眼睛看著妳，很認真的聽你說話。不管你是在講道理、還是在吹牛，她都不會潑你冷水，而且她的情緒也隨著你的喜怒哀樂而起伏。

當我心情不好的時侯，我通常不願意找魚座的女友訴苦。雖然她是那麼善解人意，但我實在覺得於心不忍，把自己的壞情緒感染給她。

如果你正在和一個魚座女子交往的話，你該發現到，她幾乎不會問你什麼事俗現實的問題，也不會逼你去多賺一點錢。你不會感覺她給妳任何壓力。尤其在你飽受現實摧殘的時侯，聽她溫柔浪漫的言語簡直是無上的享受。她的懷抱就是你的世外桃源。

雙魚座的女子通常會讓她的男人充滿信心。她可以時時讓妳感覺到--欣賞你，信賴你，需要你。她願意事事以你為主，她甘心依靠在你身邊，受你的保護。這麼可愛的女人，你說，會有哪個男人不喜歡呢？

然而，如此完美的雙魚座女性，畢竟還是有一些缺點的（否則，老天豈不是太不公平了嗎？）。不過，我相信權衡取捨下，你還是不會捨得放棄她的。

* 魚座的女孩很愛幻想，不夠實際。有時侯她會為人生畫下理想藍圖，因而覺得生命充滿希望，雀躍不已。她的情緒常因為一點點風吹草動而起了變化。朋友的遭遇、悲傷的電影，甚至於她的幻想，都可能是影響她情緒的原因。
* 雙魚座的女人很缺乏自信，即使她擁有了那麼多的優點，她仍然經常地覺得自己不夠好。她可能覺得自己不夠堅強，不夠有上進心，不夠能幹。她總是愈想愈擔心，愈沮喪。因此，她非常需要你給她鼓勵和安慰。你大聲說話或是一個不耐煩的表情，都可能讓她心碎。更不要說你變心囉！那很可能對她是致命的打擊。魚座女人的心是玻璃做的，既然她交給了妳，你可得小心呵護才行。
* 許多魚座的女子有自我放逐的傾向。主要原因還是她們很容易深陷於一種情緒之中無法自拔（尤其是悲傷的情緒）。傷心的遭遇加上她們豐富的想像力，終於把自己變成了被全世界遺棄的悲劇角色。有不少的雙魚座女子在遭到家庭變故、感情挫折等等打擊之後，耽溺於酗酒、吸毒，甚至於習慣性的自殺。
* 雙魚座的女子幾乎都不怎麼有金錢觀念。你知道嘛！追求浪漫的女孩，多半都不太會打算盤，「預算」的觀念；她們或許要在幾次慘痛的經驗之後，才能稍微培養一些。我有魚座的女友，本身工作的收入不怎麼高，嫁得老公也是中等收入的公務員，可是每次我們一起逛街的時侯，她總會忘情的買一些令她「眼睛一亮」的東西。八千塊的的皮鞋，一萬多一條的裙子，往不加思索就帶回家了。回家之後，當然是打折又打折的向老公報價。不過，這種把戲在信用卡帳單寄來的時侯就穿梆了。

這兩年她們買了一幢新房子，在經過了兩次貸款付不出來，臨時東借西湊的教訓之後，她強迫自己減少逛街的頻率。還有，停止使用信用卡。這麼「方便」的東西太不適合她了。當然，這樣的決心是有一點令她沮喪的。

其實，多數的魚座女子都很願意在婚後做個快樂的家庭主婦（當然「少奶奶」會更理想），在社會上與男人一爭長短的魚座「女強人」實在少之又少。偶爾你或許會看到一兩個表面看來冷漠幹練的魚座職業婦女，但那純粹極度害怕受傷所作的偽裝。因為，沒有任何女人會比魚座的女人更需要被男人擁有和保護了。光是這一點就足夠讓男人響往了吧！所以，對百分之八十以上的女人來說，她們最害怕的第三者，就是雙魚座的女性。

至於我們剛才所提到，她們個性上的一些缺點，其實都是「多一點愛」「多一點關懷」就可以解決的問題。不要在你心情不好的時侯，對她大吼大叫，不要對於她的情緒視若無睹，否則你會迫使她游向另一個溫柔的懷抱。你可要知道，在後面排隊的人多得很呢？不要責備她不懂得預算，可以的話，你自己管帳好了。要不，看到她那雙淚汪汪的眼睛，你反而會愧疚自己賺得太少了。

她快樂的侯像隻活潑的小白兔，憂傷的時刻又像是受了驚嚇的鹿。總是讓人覺得應該要多疼愛她一點。最讓我羡慕又嫉妒的是，魚座的女子永遠可以保持那一派天真的女人味。即使她談過八次戀愛，離了三次婚，生過二個小孩。飽經世故的滄桑怎麼也沾染不到她。天啊，那究竟是怎麼作到的呢？

雙魚座的女人與「性」

她是一個不願意讓對方失望的溫柔女子。正因如此，魚座的女人往往經不住對方積極的要求，而有事後責備自己的情況。

她是個混身充滿著敏銳神經的女人，經過短暫的調情就會燃燒起來。本身可以完全沉浸在興奮的情緒中，不會隱藏自己的感受，能夠大膽的提出要求，性愛的快樂可以持續很久。應該是可以讓對方覺得非常愉快的性伴侶。

雙魚座的女人與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：有時侯他會對妳的情緒不耐煩。而妳總是會因為他的粗心大意而覺得沮喪。
2. 金牛座：他忠實的愛讓妳覺得溫柔而有依靠。但偶的大發雷霆和牛脾氣，妳就必須忍耐一下囉！。
3. 雙子座：跟他在一起，妳可能受傷的機會很大。妳總在擔心自己是否只是他一時的玩伴而已。
4. 巨蟹座：這樣的男人可能是最能給妳安全感的。妳們的情緒總能彼此配合、了解。他也會耐心的培養妳「金錢觀念」。
5. 獅子座：你們星相並不合，但彼此間卻有極大的吸引力。國王般的獅子座男子令妳傾心，而妳的溫柔完全滿足了他男性的虛榮。
6. 處女座：他是個良師益友型的男人，他或許不能配合妳的浪漫，但卻能給妳實際的安慰和幫助。
7. 天秤座：開始的時侯，彼此或許會互相吸引。但是妳幻想在他的理性分析下，會變得荒謬又太情緒化。
8. 天蠍座：他濃烈的情愛完全符合妳起伏洶湧的情緒，是可以轟轟烈烈的愛一場的對象。
9. 射手座：他是直率而缺乏耐心的。因此，許多時侯你們都完全不配合。或許保持朋友關係會比較理想。
10. 摩羯座：在許多方面你們都能配合的很好，而且有著互補的作用。這是可以成為妳精神支柱的男人。
11. 水瓶座：他會試圖理解妳的喜怒哀樂，但步調上依然難以配合。妳也無法適應水平座男子的漠然態度。
12. 雙魚座：兩隻魚的搭配，自然「永浴愛河」的機會很大。就怕情緒暗潮洶湧時，兩人會游向相反的方向。

2007-07-01T07:08:00.003-07:00

雙子星座的男人

田希仁

你小時侯一定很喜歡看魔術，或是湯姆歷險記，否則，你怎麼會跟一個「謎」樣的雙子座男人戀愛呢？

我們都不得不承認，他真的很可愛，腦子裡裝滿了千奇百怪的新鮮點子，談話中盡是幽默和機智。如果你在一個社交場合遇見他，你真的會很容易被他吸引，他總是妙語如珠的逗得大伙兒很開心。他的態度親切自然，一點都不給人壓迫感。從政治、人生，到黃色笑話，保證絕無冷場。跟他在一起真是有趣極了。但是：如果你是個佔有慾極強的女人，我勸你趁早死心吧！否則氣死自己是遲早的事。想要他每天一大早向你報告行程，讓你隨時找得到他，幾乎是不可能的。就算你事先知道他的行蹤，這一天當中也會有太多事情可能讓他改變原先的計劃。他是「雙子」座的！兩個腦袋加在一起，念頭當然會轉來轉去，讓人捉模不定囉！

他很可能昨天對你情話綿綿，今天卻好像沒有這麼一回事似的！如果你追求的是安全感，那你真的挺悲慘的。他的表現並不真的意味他不愛你了，很可能他只是暫時把心思放到別的事物上去了而已，。

如果你的反應是又哭又鬧，痛不欲生，那只會加速他離開你的腳步。告訴你一個故事，你可能不太相信，但我發誓這是千真萬確的：我有一位獅子座的女朋友，愛上了一個雙子座的男人。你知道獅子座的女人是很需要安定感的，而這位雙子座的男人從事的是旅遊業，經常帶團出國，有時侯一個星期，有時侯十天半個月。她只知道他出國了，「大概」什麼時侯回來，完全無法掌握他的行蹤。而他在台北的日子，有時侯表現的熱情如火，好像一分鐘也不願分開；有時侯又對我的朋友百般挑剔。每次他們吵架，不歡而散之後，我的朋友都以為一切結束了，可是過了幾天他又帶著鮮花登門造訪。

有一次他們起了很大的爭執，甚至大打出手。原因是他發現了其他的男生到我朋友家作客，我的朋友發誓再也不忍受他的神經質了。可是三天之後，他開始送鮮花，送情歌錄音帶，甚至哭著認錯，幾個招式交錯進行，終於又把那母獅子感動了，在他帶團到澳洲之前，他們甚至說好了，等他回來就談婚嫁。

然後呢？你一定不會相信，然後那個雙子座的男人居然不見了。打電話到家裡沒人接，打電話到公司再三查詢之下，才知道他決心留在澳洲讀書，暫時不回來了。我的朋友幾乎發瘋，相信換了你也會瘋掉。我們費了好大的精神，好長的時間，才讓他的心情平復過來。你知道嗎？半年多以後，那個男人居然回來了，而且若無其事的去找她。好像完全沒有意識到自己造成的傷害。我的朋友躲了好一陣子，深怕自己又被那個雙子座的男人哄回去。這個故事很離譜是不是？當然，不是每一個雙子座的男人都會這麼過份，但是他多變的行為，確實把雙子座的男人善變的個性表露無疑。從這個實例中，我們還可以發現雙子座男人的另一個特性，那就是當他真正墜入情網的時侯，他會故意做一些莫名其妙的事情，來掩飾他的真心，弄得對方一頭霧水。

總之；掌握他的心，和掌握他的行蹤一樣困難。

記得有一首歌，歌詞是這樣的----「風往何處從不說，留下空白線索。」沒錯！雙子座的男人就是風，想要抓到一陣風，那是你跟自己過不去。

你應該習慣而且欣賞他的多變、分享他每一個新奇的念頭、配合他廣泛的興趣，你們會把日子過得多采多姿。我有個朋友嫁了個個雙子座的老公，他的婚姻座右銘是「該我的就是我的，不是我的，留也留不住」，因此，她過得很開心，她甚至常以好玩的心情等待她雙子座老公的新花樣。千萬不要把所有的心思全放在他身上，這樣會讓他覺得壓力很大，而你自己也很痛苦。

你可以盡量去發展自己的潛力和事業，不必害怕他會擔心你超越他。雙子座的男子是很有度量的，他喜歡你擁有更寬的視野，更豐富的思想（這樣才能配合他的多變嘛！）不要整天只想跟他風花月的談情說愛，他會覺得很無趣，你可以跟他聊你的事業，談你對人生的感觸，任何新鮮的話題他都會喜歡。

你能與他分享的愈多，你們相處的機會和時間就會愈多。用一種輕鬆淡然的態度和他相處，愛他；但不要企圖綁住他，他反而會願意和你永結同心。你會比你的女朋友們擁有更多的自由，你會有更多的時間作自己想作的事。

嫁給一個雙子座的男人，絕不表示你將註定作個篷頭垢面的家庭主婦。天啊！可以同時享受愛情和自由，你還真是挺幸福的！

雙子座的男人與「性」

他很容易給人一種花花公子的印象。他的性伴侶可能很多，其實，他一直很想尋找一個心靈和肉體完全與他相融的女性。

只是很少有一個女人能完全滿足他多變而豐富的思想，因此他的思想和肉體經常是分開的，「性愛」可能只是他多種社交活動之一。當他身體燃燒時，內心卻能保持冷靜。

雙子座的男人在「性」方面是很有技巧的。如果你想要求他忠實，那你必須先在思想上征服他，然後給予他完全的信賴。你的猜疑往往會成為他偷腥的藉口。

雙子座的爸爸

興趣廣泛，十八般武藝樣樣都懂一些的雙子座爸爸，會是小孩子仰慕的對象，也會是孩子們的好朋友。只是依據他自己的個性，他很難自己訂下一些規矩讓孩子們遵守，他的父愛不會給小孩壓力。也不會給孩子約束，他們通常會相處得很好。不過，你要記得「扮黑臉」的責任可落在你身上了。如果把教育孩子的工作交給他，那你的小孩很可能會被寵壞的。

2007-07-01T07:08:00.001-07:00

雙子星座的女人

田希仁

雙子座女人像一個萬花筒，一會兒變一個花樣，你似乎永遠弄不清她真正的形狀。有人說一個女人欣賞或吸引的男人，總會有一定的典型。但對於雙子座的女子來說可就不一定了。由於她雙重，甚至多重的個性，她所欣賞的、吸引的男性，可就是各種類型都有了！

這麼聽起來，你的處境好像有點四面楚歌的樣子！不過你應該能夠了解，其他的男人也跟你一樣很難抵抗她的魅力。憑良心說，雙子座的女子實在很有趣，她可以像個小男生一樣，陪你上山下海的瘋狂玩樂；也可以正經八佰的跟你聊天文地理！當然，她更會像個小公主一樣跟你花前月下溫柔纏綿。她是那麼的充滿著樂趣和變化！只可惜她你的態度，也是變化多端，難以捉摸。你以乎很難理解，為什麼昨天才令她痴迷的優點，今天竟成了被她嗤之以鼻的缺點。先不要傷心，也不要生氣！你應該先冷靜下來，認真的了解一下這個讓你開心又叫好你煩心的小精靈。

雙子座的女子有著豐富無比的想像力，而在現實的生活中，愛情似乎是讓她發揮想像力的最佳園地，她幾乎可以在每一個愛情故事中，成功的扮演著不同的角色。因此很多人批評雙子座的女子把愛情當成遊戲。對於一些年紀很輕的雙子座女孩來說，遊戲的成分多少是有那麼一些的，但是請你務必相信，在每一個雙子座女子的心裡，都有著對於愛情天長地久的渴望。但是她們的多重個性，總是讓她在欣賞你某些優點的同時，又在挑剔你可能有的缺點。比方說，她很可能在讚美你的藝術天份的同時，又批抨你太過軟弱！這樣反覆的情緒下，最困擾的人並不是你，而是她自己。因為雙子座的女子通常都會獨自處理自己的心情，你頂多只會覺得她忽冷忽熱而已。

我有位雙子座的好友，她的戀愛史也是多采多姿。但是每當她開始一段感情的時侯，我總是相信這一次她是終於找到白頭偕老的對象了。因為，她是那麼的喜悅，喋喋不休的對我說對方的好處，滿臉幸褔的模樣，讓我猜想，大概不出兩個月就可以收到她的喜帖了。結果，大概兩個星期之後。她就會非常沮的數落著對方的錯（有的也並不是錯，而是與她種種的不適合）。而當她發現了這些問題之後，就漸漸和對方疏遠了，我真的很替她難過，看著她的愛情一次次的破滅。雖然過不了太久，又可以聽到她生趣盎然的談著她的新戀情，但是，我真的相信，每當愛情開始的時侯，她是真的有著天長地久的誠意的。雙子座女子的確對於學習適應對方的一切比較缺乏耐性，但是隨著年齡的增長，她會慢慢學著收斂自己善變的個性，而將它轉變成單調生活中，求新、求變的力量。

聽到這樣的結論，你應該覺得前途大有可為了吧！不過，你除了需要多一點耐心之外，我仍然要提醒你----跟一個雙子星的女子相處，唯一避免自己受傷，又能與她相處融洽的方式，就是自己不斷的變。多變的生活和氣氛會讓她生趣盎然，更會保持她對你的熱愛。你可以儘情的發揮自己多樣的才華，不必擔心她會無法適應，雙子座的女子不會是個黏人的橡皮糖。不過，不要冷落她太久，寂寞的等待，不是個雙子座女子容易忍受的事，否則，她忘記你的速度，肯定會讓你心碎。

我剛才說過了，雙子座女性的善變會隨著年齡的成長日趨穩定。尤其是當她答應與你攜手共度此生之後，聰明的她，會很理性的要求自己做一個稱職的妻子。你應該相信她的反應靈活，適應性絕佳，辦事效率極高，扮演妻子的角色是難不倒她的。除非你非要嚴格地要求她作個傳統的家庭主婦。否則你一定會慶幸自己娶了個可愛又多變的嬌妻。

你不會有一個整天板著臉，抱怨家用錢不夠的黃臉婆。相反地，當你煩惱錢賺得太少的時侯，她可能會幫你想一大堆賺外快的點子。你可能那天下班回家的時侯，發現她把家裡所有的家俱都重新安置的煥然一新。也可能打開門之後發現她一個人沮喪的躲在牆角，渴望你給她一個浪漫的擁抱。當你們邀請朋友到家裡作客的時侯，她總會成為一個俐落又大方的女主人，給大家製造愉快的氣氛。你不要太限制她的自由，當然她也不會過分的限制你。不要在她興緻沖沖告訴你她的新計劃時，表現得漠不關心。她可能今天滿臉甜蜜的告訴你，她覺得自己是全世界最幸褔的小女人，明天又憂傷的告訴你，她很擔心你們之間愛的感覺已經不再了。這時侯，你需要的是一點幽默感。你不妨跟她說：「真的嗎？那真是太糟糕了，妳是不是能給我一個機會，讓我再追你一次呢？」俏皮而機智的言語，是永遠討雙子座女子喜歡的，她本身就是一個極具表達愛情技巧的精靈，若是碰上了一塊木頭，豈不是太掃興了嗎？

請你記得，時時牽牢她的手，隨著她變化的節奏，你會發現，生活就是一個萬花筒，五彩繽紛，刺激有趣。

雙子座的女人與「性」

雙子座的女子對性愛的本身有些好奇，由於她活潑多變的個性，她往往可以把性愛的場面烘托出愉快有趣的氣氛。機智的言語能讓對方覺得快樂而充滿自信。然事實上，雙子座的女人通常都不是肉慾主導的，她們很難全然的沉浸在肉體的歡愉之中。這一點，對她們本身來說，是一件挺掃興的事，如何在性愛中擺脫自己冷靜的頭腦，往往會是她們的困擾。

雙子座的女人與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：他熱情讓妳覺得刺激有趣，而妳的甜言蜜語總是讓他快樂的沾沾自喜。至於長期相處，你們彼此或許得再培養一點耐性。
2. 金牛座：他是穩如泰山，而妳卻像一陣風，個性上南轅北轍。剛開始的時侯，或許會引起妳的好奇。
3. 雙子座：甚稱世界魔術大觀，變、變、變，看誰技高一籌，這是刺激有趣的組合。
4. 巨蟹座：妳的忽冷忽熱，可能讓他陷人沮喪的深淵。妳雖欣賞他種種優點，但這樣的愛情會給妳沉重的負擔。
5. 獅子座：妳喜歡他戀愛的方式，他欣賞妳的機智可愛，你們很快就能親蜜起來，但真的談起戀愛，妳會有些害怕他國王的霸道作風。
6. 處女座：同樣在水星守護下的你們，有著原始的引力，尤其他知性的頭腦，很容易令妳激賞，不過時日一久，妳或許會嫌他有嘮叨瑣碎。
7. 天秤座：同屬風向的你們，很容易成為彼此了解的朋友，正因如此，談起戀愛的時侯，反而對對方有一點不放心了。
8. 天蠍座：天蠍座強烈的個性原本就不是很吸引妳的，因此你們似乎很難拉近彼此的距離。
9. 射手座：雖只有著不同的屬向，但你們是非常容易互相吸引的，往往成為興趣相投的愛侶。
10. 摩羯座：對妳來說，他很像是教官、老師一樣的男人，不容易引起妳「愛」的感覺。
11. 水瓶座：跟他相處妳會覺得十分自在，但有時侯又覺得他似乎總是熱度不太夠。
12. 雙魚座：妳的性格多變，他的情緒多變，如果你們都能接受方「變」的本質，或許還有可為。

2007-07-01T07:07:00.002-07:00

摩羯星座的男人

田希仁

對穩健固執的摩羯座來說，浪漫的愛情是深藏在內心的夢，雖然他看來那麼堅強，一副「誰需要你」的樣子，事實上他是很需要溫柔鼓勵的。「缺乏真正的自信」常是摩羯座的通病，你必須經常的讚美他、鼓勵他，他表面上看來可能是「受不了的酷」，其實心裡「快樂的不得了」。摩羯座的男人是背著沈甸甸的包袱，奮力爬上山巔的大公羊。傳統、責任、理想，以及對財富和社會地位的慾望，全裝在大包袱裡，那就是負擔，也是催促他向上的力量。「堅忍」是摩羯座男子個性中最大的魅力，沒有人能像他一樣，那麼不怕苦、不怕難、不怕失敗。

連強悍的蠍座男子偶爾都需要情緒上的發洩。摩羯座的男人卻始終堅持到底，不達到目標，絕不休息。

有的女孩愛上一個摩羯座男子時，周圍的朋友可能會說：「天啊！你怎麼會愛上一個那麼無趣的男人呢！」不過，我倒覺得你真有遠見。的確，摩羯座的男人基本上是不喜歡社交的，他情願自己一個人安安靜靜的做事。

甚至他們喜歡的休閒活動，也是比較靜態的，例如，看書、聽音樂等等。

有些摩羯座的男人由於環境的關係，必經常參加社交的活動，他也很少是社交場合中風頭最健的人物，他通常比較沈默，讓大家非常驚訝。通常摩羯座的男子不能給你很豐富刺激的社交圈，這一點你要有心理準備。

他很少主動讓別人了解他，這當然跟他保守的個性有關，開朗天真的女孩可能會讓他比較容易打開心門，如果你真的了解他，他會很安慰。給他適時的鼓勵和讚美會讓他信心大增。不過如果你期待他熱情的回應，恐怕會有點失望，彼此心照不宣就成啦！

當然光是懂得讚美無法得到如此實際又努力的男人的。他通常會選擇一個「好媽媽」型的女人做妻子，經常對孩子表示愛心，會是令他心儀的美德。他是非常重視家庭的；大多數的摩羯座男子，不會把一個不被他家人接受的女子娶回家，如果一定要他在家人和你之間作選擇，是一件很痛苦的事，通常你贏的機會不大。所以，讓他的家人喜歡你，那你就成功了一大半了。

我說過摩羯座是實際的，對未來他也有著實際的野心。許多摩羯座的男子都娶了一個對他事業或是社會地位有幫助的女人為妻。因此就算你不是系出名門，至少你也得是舉止合宜，給他上司良好印象的淑女。叛逆少女實在不是摩羯座的典型，至少不是作「妻子」的典型，你可以熱情大方，開朗活潑，但是行為舉止還得在傳統社會規範中。或許在某些場合，他會難得放鬆說些輕佻的話，但那絕不表示他將認同你有這樣的表現。尤其是在他的上司、老闆或是員工面前，很少有男人比摩羯座男子更重視社會地位、社會評價的。你可不要做他的絆腳石。

他是固執而傳統的人，婚姻對他決非兒戲。一旦他決心要娶你，他肯定已經對你細細的觀察，深入的了解，實際的評估。摩羯座的男人很少會衝動的決定一樁婚事。他對婚姻的忠實度是值得信賴的，對於家庭美好未來的努力是肯定的。你最好也要尊重這件婚事。我在前面所強調的種種事情，婚後你最好也不要忘記，否則等他掉頭而去，你很難有第二次機會。

嫁給一個摩羯座的老公，就像買了終生保險，雖然不會常有甜蜜語可聽，但你會得到一切最實際的照顧。對多數摩羯座的男人來說，把太太照顧好是他們的責任，愈能讓太太過得好，代表他們的事業愈成功，社會地位愈高。或許你的摩羯座老公會要求你把家庭開支簿寫得清清楚楚，但事實上，摩羯座的老公常對太太大方極了，只不過他要你時時記得「他」才是一家之主就是了。

他重視社會地位，同樣也重視自己在家中的地位。等他的事業有了基礎之後，他會把更多心思放在家裡，你們的婚姻會像倒吃甘蔗一樣，愈吃愈甜。就如同我一再強調他們對財富、名望的追求，正因為這兩樣東西會帶給他們安全感，給他們信心，當他們內心因缺乏自信而產生的抑鬱消失時，你將看到摩羯座的熱情、詼諧與浪漫。那真是一個值得期待的男人。

幫助他早日完成他的理想，你就是他心目中永遠的賢內助，等你們金婚紀念日的時侯，他說不定會用玫瑰花把你的床圍起來，你會慶幸自己真是個有遠見的女人。

摩羯座的男人與「性」

多數摩羯座男人的性觀念是保守的，不太善於技巧性的誘惑，通常是被動的。但對於自己的女朋友或妻子就不同了，他往往顯得主動而且霸道。

摩羯座的男人一般說來性慾很強，而且很有持續力，但是缺乏調情的技巧和氣氛的營造，如果你是一個追求浪漫氣氛的人，那摩掌握氣氛的工作都得由你來負責了。

摩羯座的爸爸

你的摩羯座的男人會是一個很有威嚴的父親。可能還會有一點點獨裁，他很重視紀律，以及孩子們對他的尊重。他很難成為小孩的「玩伴」，他是很像爸爸的爸爸，而且是位負責、可靠、值得孩子們信賴的父親，偶爾，你或許有必要提醒他不要太過嚴格。

當然，你千萬不要當著孩子的面做這件事。

2007-07-01T07:07:00.001-07:00

摩羯星座的女人

田希仁

許多年以前，我對於摩羯座的女孩有些排斥。因為我覺得她們總是緊閉心門，自己走自己的路，你似乎永遠無法真正的靠近她。然後，經過了這幾年，我又多認識了不少摩羯座的女性之後，我不得不說，摩羯座的女性實在有擁有許多令我崇拜的優點。她們的堅強鬥志，真的不是其他星座的女孩可以相提並論的。

摩羯座的女子在外表上看來，多半是平靜而且傳統的，但偶爾你也會看到幾位穿著大膽新潮，行為表現前衛的摩羯女性。事實上，她們雖然身處在各種不同的環境，從事著各種不同的行業；摩羯座女子力爭上游的意念是不會改變的。那是她們個性上最大的特點。

在土星守護下的摩羯座女子，個性上多少會有一些抑鬱的傾向。她們絕少有輕易吐露心事的習慣。所以，如果你愛上她，你可得用心體貼她的感受。大體上說來，她是不怎麼樂觀的。妳很難讓一個摩羯座的女人相信「神話」和「奇蹟」。她不是不相信會有美好的未來。但是她肯定所有的未來必定要靠自己的努力去奮鬥。她的潛意識中對自己有點缺乏信心，對環境沒有安全感。因此，摩羯座的女人很少全然信賴別人（尤其是男人），她沒有依賴心，而且非常實際。因此有許多人說，摩羯座女人的「現實」居十二個星座之冠。

很少會有摩羯座女人有興趣陪你玩愛情遊戲。那種不食人間煙火，只羨鴛鴦不羨仙的愛情故事是感動不了她們的。摩羯座女子的愛情多數總要在一切有了保障的況下產生。我並不是說她一定要你家財萬貫，位尊權高，但是你起碼得要有顯而易見的光明前途。只要她認定你們是有前途的，你放心，摩羯座女子有得是陪你一起奮鬥的恆心與耐力。所以，如果你想追求一個摩羯座女子，請千萬不要做個遊手好閒的懶惰蟲，否則你是絕無希望的。

摩羯座女子的固執一如她的實際一樣有名。想要改變她的觀念，恐怕比豋天還難。一旦她對你有了惡劣的印象，可望翻供的機會是微乎其微。而對於她喜歡的朋友，她就會在可以接受的範圍之內，儘量包容他們的缺點。

多數的摩羯女子有著傳統的家庭觀念，對於自己的家人，有著相當程度的忠誠。因此，能與他的家人相處和諧的男性，獲得芳心的機會會大許多。千萬不要隨便批評她的家人，她極有可能因此跟你翻臉。

你最好不要輕易的跟一個摩羯座的女子開玩笑，尤其是略帶一點人身攻擊的玩笑。她很可能當場就板下面孔，讓你下不了台。就如我先前說到的，摩羯座女子在冷靜的外表之下，內心受著多重的情緒（憂鬱、悲觀、壓抑）折磨。這樣的女子，你當然無法要求她擁有十足的幽默感。她經常把每件事都看得太認真了。於是，多數的摩羯座女性給人一種嚴肅而重視紀律的印象。

在我們電視台中，有一位導播就是摩羯座的女性。她可是大家十分敬畏的鐵娘子。只要大家知道那一天是她當班，包管很少有人敢遲到。如果發的是下午一點的通告，絕大多數的人會選擇十二點就到電視台吃中飯比較穩當些。因為她肯定一點整就會準時點名，遲到的人就等著挨訓吧！雖然大家想到她會有點頭痛，但不能否認的，只要有她在，工作效率一定會提高。

或許在你看了這許多描述之後，你會把所有摩羯座的女性都想成不苟言笑，毫無情趣的老古板。這一點就不太正確了！她們雖然多半都不是你敢輕易造次的女性，但也絕不是缺乏女性魅力的男人婆。尤其是當一個摩羯女子遇到了那個給她信心、給她安全感的男性之後，她立刻就會變成一頭溫柔又熱情的小母羊。但是在她還沒有找到理想人選之前，多數摩羯座女子，會努又做一個成功的職業女郎，為自己的事業前途奮鬥。她們腳踏實地的累積自己的財富、社會地位以及生存實力。絕不浪費時間幻想白馬王子的出現。我在許多行業中都看過十分成功的摩羯女子。她們對於工作壓力的承受能力很少有人能比。而且當她們立下目標的時候，便有不達目的誓不干休的決心和勇氣。她們的態度一點都不誇耀，但往往有一種你難以解釋的威嚴。

能夠娶一個摩羯座女子回家，對男人來說實在是一件很有保障的事。第一，你會有一個很整潔、很有「秩序」的家。無論她是個家庭主婦或是職業婦女，她都會把家庭做最妥善的安排。第二，一旦她選擇了你，她會勤勞不懈、吃苦耐勞的陪著你為理想前途而奮鬥。她不會隨便耍脾氣。摩羯座女人不會是一個丈夫加班，而她在家裡鬧情緒的女人。不過你也不要以為尊重傳統的她，只要嫁給了你，就會認命的忍受你婚後所有的錯。她認清了你們不會再有光明的未來之後她肯定會毫不留戀的離你而去。

摩羯座的女人幾乎都有很有金錢觀念，非常懂得預算。她們的確是喜愛一切有「價值」的事物。即使手上的錢有限，她們也不會去買一大堆廉價品回來。她們會精挑細選的買一件合用、又有價值的品牌商品。她或許會經常督促你要積極努力，但想想看，這對你絕對只有好處沒有壞處。

我有幾個摩羯座的女友，經常會讓我覺得很自卑。看到她們如何為家裡打算，如何去上會、存錢。如何兼差補貼家用。我真是慚愧的很。想想，什麼樣好命的男人才能娶到如此的賢內助呢？記著！好好的努力奮鬥，同時肯定她的價值，常常給她鼓勵，給她信心。下一個好運的人，就是你囉！

摩羯座的女人與「性」

摩羯座的女子在性愛方面依然有著保守、內斂的特質，內心就算有所渴望，也經常會壓抑自己的需要。

對男性來說，摩羯座的女人是本份、而且容易滿足的。事實上，情緒內斂的她，極需要長時間的調情，才能真正的燃燒起來。因此許多摩羯座女子的真正需求，往往很容易被忽視。也有很少數的摩羯座女性在性愛表現中，有極大膽而且嗜虐的傾向。

摩羯座的女人與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：你們的個性有著激烈的對比，彼此都不是對方夢中情人的典型。
2. 金牛座：你們彼此都有足夠吸引對方的條件，個性上也很能配合，極有結為佳偶的機會。
3. 雙子座：他對妳來說似乎是太缺乏穩定性了。而妳給他的感覺可能不夠刺激有趣。
4. 巨蟹座：這樣的男人可以給妳溫柔的鼓勵，幫助妳建立信心。但是，妳對待他的方式不宜太死板，應該溫柔一些。
5. 獅子座：妳會欣賞他的善良、慷慨。但對於他的做事態度可能無法認同。而妳對於他來說，似乎太堅強獨立了些。
6. 處女座：你們的屬相一致，都是謹慎又腳踏實地的典型。和平相處不成問題，但是在一起的氣氛可能比較不生動有趣。
7. 天秤座：基本的人生態度顯然不同，靠得太近容易產生摩擦，保持距離反而很可能相互欣賞。
8. 天蠍座：他有能力激起妳壓抑的熱情。同時彼此都會欣賞對方在工作上的執著態度。在生活上也能密切配合。
9. 射手座：他不太有機會成為妳傾心的對象。而妳的人生態度很容易使他覺得格格不入。
10. 摩羯座：性格相同，很容易起共鳴。如果攜手共創前程，前途應該是一片光明美景。
11. 水瓶座：你們的人生觀有很大的差別。雖然相處不見得會衝突，但很少會選擇對方做為人生的伴侶。
12. 雙魚座：你們或許可以傾心交談，成為相互了解的知己。但實際生活在一起，就會有許多相牴觸的地方。

2007-07-01T07:06:00.001-07:00

獅子星座的男人

田希仁

你一定知道萬獸之王是什麼吧？對了！是獅子，而且，你現在腦海中必定出現一隻公獅子雄糾糾的模樣是吧？獅子座之所以稱之為「獅子」嘛，自然與「王」有關，獅子座男子一生最喜歡的職業就是「國王」，可惜這個世界上國王的名額實在有限，所以，最起碼他也得在他的女人和家人面前做一個國王。

其實，想要得到獅子座男人的愛並不難，如果你愛上了一隻公獅子，你只要做到三點----愛他、哄他、崇拜他。尤其是「崇拜他」，這一點最重要。

獅子座的人很傲氣，很愛面子，就算他對你有好感，在不了解你對他的感覺之前，也不敢冒然展開攻勢。他不喜歡打沒有把握的仗，事實上，應該說是丟不起這個臉。你不必主動追求他，那可能會把他嚇跑，而且獅子座的男人通常不喜歡處於被動的地位。你不妨在言談中流露出對他的崇拜。當他對你發表演說的時候，你不時發出「真的啊∼」「好棒哦∼」之類的驚嘆句。他會覺得非常愉快，如果他對你有意思，追求的行動馬上就會展開了。

他的女人最好有些皇族高傲的氣質，然而卻仍舊臣服於他的魅力之下，成為他最忠實的臣子。獅子座的男人多半外表看起來神氣活現，其實內之軟柔，渴望愛情，他是很容易被感動的，柔和的燈光，優美的音樂，浪漫的氣氛，還有你崇拜的眼神，都可能讓他一下子就陷人愛的陷阱，無法自拔。

戀愛中的獅子座男人大方極了，他簡直恨不得用鮮花和禮物把你圍起來，你很快就可以體會到做楊貴妃是什麼滋味，他的康慨跟熱情，會是每一個女人的渴望，你的朋友們會羨慕得要死。

獅子座的男人在他的王權沒有遭受威脅的情況下，是既體貼又溫和的，他會用快樂的大手，把你捧在雲端上。不過，我得提醒你，千萬不要對別的男人亂拋媚眼，他的醋勁可大的嚇死人。這一點你恐怕要先有個心理準備，獅子的男人對他們的女人有嚴重的佔有慾和支配狂，他希望你最好一切都聽他的，最起碼所有的大原則得經由他決定(這已經是最大的讓步了)。

要是你在他面前跟一個男子講了一個小時的電話，他很可能大發雷霆，或是拂袖而去，一定要等你把對方的身世背景和你們的談話內容詳細報告之後，他的火氣才會稍稍平息。你最好寫下切結書保證從此斷絕來往，他會比較高興些。

時下一般男女的正常社交活動，比方說一起吃個飯，喝個咖啡，跳個舞啦。在妳有了獅子座男朋友之後，大概都不要想囉，除非，他陪你一塊兒去。即使如此，你還是要記住，不要在他面前和其他的男生太熱絡，否則你是自找麻煩，而且有可能傷及無辜。他可能看起來很花，其實多數獅座男人對美女僅限於看看而已，在他找到公主之後，他才懶得對其他女人獻殷勤呢！雖然他自已是個醋罈子，可是他卻不覺得你應在他和別的女孩子談笑風生的時候，亂發脾氣。

他不見得會霸道到把你鎖在家裡，不讓你出去工作，不過當你選擇一個獅座男人之後，最好不要事業心太重，至少要讓他感覺到他在你心目中排名第一，記住，愛情和崇拜是他一生不可缺少的東西，你要源源不絕的供應才行哦！

他的社交圈很廣，朋友很多，如果你能做到上述提醒你的事情，多數的場合他會很願意帶你一起去參加，不過，有些時候，你的獅座男人會喜歡和他自已的一票朋友出去「鬼混」一下。所以請你大方一點，不要太約束他的自由，他自會有分寸。

如果在婚後，你變成一位多疑、嘮叨的母老虎，你的獅座男人可能在多次爭吵後，開始逃避你，每天深更半夜才回家，甚至夜不歸營，我看過好幾個這樣的例子，公獅子在愛情破滅之後，往往會採取很消極的辦法----逃避，然後很可能就逃到另一個愛情陷阱去了，婚姻關係自然就破裂了。

如果他有點積蓄，他可能經常會投資一些莫名其妙的事情。因為朋友的邀約他實在很難拒絕。大伙兒吃喝玩樂，只要每個人都尊稱他一聲「大哥」，那麼付帳的八成就是他了。

獅座的男人正直，善良，卻經常自得於一種莫名其妙的傲氣中。他的自尊心很強很容易受傷；別人一句不禮貌的話，或是工作上的提案遭到拒絕，都會讓他抑鬱不快好久。這種情況之下，他可能在家會變得暴躁易怒。你一定要心平氣和的找出問題的癥結，千萬不要跟他發脾氣，火上加油，當心你們的愛巢付之一炬哦！

你知道他很容易相信別人(尤其是拍他馬屁的人)所以，受騙上當的事可能經常發生。在他受到挫折時，請給他溫柔的安慰，當他得意忘形的時候，請給他適時的提醒。國王有英明的，也有昏庸的，身為宰相的你有很大的責任哦！我相信你一定希望自已的愛情、婚姻，永遠處於太平盛世吧！

當你面對獅子座男人時，請你記住一個口訣：「面子都給你，裡子是我的。」沒錯，在任何場合都把他捧成你的國王，等你們私下相處的時候，你就會發現，你自已才是太上皇呢！再告訴你一個秘密，神氣威武的獅座男人是會怕老婆的，不過，他怕的是溫柔的百靈鳥，而不是張牙舞爪的母老虎。

你知道該怎麼做了吧！很簡單嘛，你一定會做得很好的。

獅子座的男人與「性」

在「性」的方面，獅子座的男人依然有著強烈的自尊心和自信心。所以妳千萬不要在性愛場面中佔優勢，這對他來說是一種侮辱。他期待你的讚美和熱烈的反應。一般來說，獅座男人的性愛，是重「激情」而不重「技巧」的。如果你想採取行動，請用溫柔誘導的方式。記住，永遠讓他覺得他才是個控制全局的人，而你是個熱烈的配合者。

獅子座的爸爸

對孩子來說，他有時候嚴格得很、有時候又極度寬容，獅子座的父親當然一定會要求孩子對他的尊重。他會訂下很多規矩，但是多數時候他都不會嚴格執行。他溫暖而仁慈，總是盡可能滿足孩子的要求。

獅子座的爸爸往往會比較偏心那個最聽話的孩子(尤其是那個最會拍馬屁的那個)。

他喜歡帶著孩子玩，對著孩子們演講，但管教小孩的那些瑣碎事情，他真的不會有什麼興趣，所以執行紀律的工作，到頭還是會落到你身上的。還有，千萬別因為有了小公主、小王子之後，而忽略你的國王哦！

2007-07-01T07:05:00.002-07:00

獅子星座的女人

田希仁

你正在追求一個獅子座女孩嗎？那我猜想你應該是個充滿自信的男子囉！聰明、開朗又耀眼的她，雖然真的很吸引人，但是，多數獅座女孩特有的那股皇族傲氣，卻真的會讓很多仰慕者望之怯步。因此，我們不難發現常有一些條件很好的獅子座女孩，到最後竟嫁了一個大家跌破眼鏡的對象。許多男人都不得不後悔自己當初的羞怯。

想要接近一個獅座的女孩，在一開始的時侯，你必須表現出對她絕對的尊重，千萬不要嘻皮笑臉的去跟她套交情，絕大多數的獅座女人都十分厭惡不懂得和她保持禮貌距離的陌生人。但事實上，她們在熟識的朋友面前是非常隨和而有趣的。當你在她面前出現時，穿著應該得體，我並沒有說你非得穿得很講究（雖然高尚的服裝的確比較容易使她有好感），但至少你不要邋遢到讓她覺得與你同行有些丟人的地步。良好的家世、背景和學歷固然會是獅座女人欣賞的條件，但她絕不會現實的以此來選擇她的愛情。

喜歡接受讚美是所有獅座女孩共同的弱點，她的耳根子的確很軟，幾句好聽的話，很可能就會把她騙得暈淘淘。因為多數獅座女子的外表看來總是比實際精明多了。不過，你也不要以為所有甜言蜜語都會管用。粗俗的奉承，她嗤之以鼻，深怕接這樣讚美會降低自己的格調。因此，你的修辭可得有一些創意。

獅座女孩絕不能忍受一個會對她發號施令的男人。我們雖然不能說她是個大女人主義的女人，但她絕不會讓一個大男主義的男人來傷害她的女性尊嚴。她喜歡你寵著她、順著她，當然，我也建議你這樣做。因為，當一個獅座女孩覺得自己受到公主一般禮遇的時侯，她會是個最可愛、最善解人意的小女人。你不用擔心，你的溫柔愛意絕不會讓她變成一個蠻不講理的女暴君。

你或許會覺得她有些喜歡支配你的時間、安排你的事情。多數獅座女孩都有著良好的組織及領導能力，很多時侯她在同性的朋友中也是扮演著領袖的角色。對於獅座女子來說，唯有在她喜歡你的條件下，她才會有這樣的舉動，若不是她真心關愛的人，她才懶得如此費神呢！因此你就別太在意了吧！不過，你得記得，她愛的是一個寵愛她的王子，而不是個只會卑躬屈膝拍馬屁的應聲虫。在寵愛她的同時，你必須要保持自己的尊嚴。

驕傲的母獅子會堅持在你心目中排名第一，千萬不要讓她懷疑有任何人比她更重要。否則你那隻溫柔可愛的貓咪，很可能就要變成在河東怒吼的獅子了。其實，一般來說獅座的女人都很有肚量，而且不會疑神疑鬼的神經質。因此你常會看到一些對於丈夫逢場作戲睜一隻眼閉一隻眼的獅座妻子。但事情的大前提就是，她得確信他只是逢場作戲，對於感情出軌的情人或丈夫，獅子座的女人是很難原諒的，因為那嚴重的傷害了她的自尊。

獅座的女人極愛面子，因此最好不要在她面前隨便跟別的女孩眨眼睛，也千萬不要有什麼花邊新聞從她好朋友傳到她耳裡。否則的話，你就準備接受一場大風暴吧！不過，相對地，當你跟一個獅座的女子戀愛的時侯，肯定會有很多引得你醋勁大發的情況發生，因為她迷人的微笑可能會招來許多異性欣賞的眼光。坦白說，多數獅座女子都非常喜歡，並且享受被異性喜愛和讚美的感覺，她們經常下意識的用甜蜜的微笑，或是嫵媚的眼神鼓勵別人這麼做。請不要因此而憤怒，或責備她的不貞。那只是小公主的孩子氣而已！獅座女子的愛情是很忠實的。

除非你賺的錢實在多得花不完，否則婚後你還是讓她繼續她的事業好些。一來，獅座的女性原本就有表現自我的慾望，單調的家居生活，很快會令她焦躁不安，她是需要接近人群的，因為她需要聽到掌聲和讚美；二來，你的獅座公主通常是不太有金錢觀念的。而且，她的品味十分高「貴」，多數的獅座女人會喜歡簡單舒適質地很好的服飾，而且她經常買一件運動衫就花了別人買一套西裝的價錢，不過那些衣服穿在她身上的確氣質不凡。當然，偶爾也有些比較誇張的獅座女人，喜歡把名牌的衣服、飾品堆在身上，把自己打扮得像個活動聖誕樹一樣。花錢對獅座的女性來說是一種享受，貧窮會令她覺得沮喪。不過，你大可放心的是，獅座女人多半都有良好的工作能力，賺取她所需要的金錢，整天向你伸手可不是她喜歡過的日子，她可是一點氣都不能受的，就算她花你的錢，你還得表現出無上光榮的樣子。

當你跟一個獅座女子相處一個星期之後，你就應該對她的脾氣摸得一清二楚了。直率、開朗、沒有心機的獅座女孩，總是很輕易的把她的喜惡表現出來。她有一種光明，令人感覺生趣盎然的特質；善良而富有同情心。有些從小嬌生慣養的獅座女孩，或許會有點趾高氣昂的令人受不了，但是，假以時日，只要你耐心的開導，她會慢慢變得溫和而不尖牙利爪的。當她多愁善感的時侯，她需要你溫暖的臂膀，而當你沮喪時，你又能感染她樂觀的氣質。能夠娶到一個獅座的女人，誰說你不是比中了第一特獎還幸運呢？

有空的時侯不妨多邀請上司或是同事們到家裡來。獅座的女人是天生的女主人，她熱情親切的款待，會讓每位客人都有賓至如歸的感覺，朋友們必定會羨慕你娶到了一位可愛、風趣又能幹的妻子，甚至於他們會因為「她」而對你刮目相看呢！

獅子座的女人與「性」

獅座女子在性愛方面依然喜歡保持她王者的氣質，她似乎仁慈、慷慨的把快樂帶給你。是屬於那種非常喜歡使對方覺得滿足愉悅的伴侶，如果你的表現不夠興奮，她會覺得非常掃興。

一般來說，獅座女人的性慾很強，表現的方式也比較大膽和誇張，是懂得享受性愛樂趣的女性。

獅子座的女子與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：你們的步調、氣息經常一致，以星座學的觀點來說是極佳的組合。
2. 金牛座：對他來說妳似乎是太過活躍的女性。來自其他異性讚美的眼光，很容易使他慍怒不安
3. 雙子座：這樣的男人雖然有點陽奉陰違，但面子總會留給妳。而且他的機智風趣讓妳的生活很有情趣。
4. 巨蟹座：他像是寵愛妳的兄長；尤其在妳多愁善感的時侯，他永遠是最佳的傾吐對象。
5. 獅子座：基本上你們的氣質很接近，但是當彼此意見不合的時侯，國王和女王總是互不相讓。
6. 處女座：剛開始時妳會有些不了他的囉嗦。久而久之妳會習慣，並且感激他無時無刻的細心呵護。
7. 天秤座：他通常是標準的王子典型，一開始你們很容易有童話般的愛情。爾後，你會因為他猶豫不決，自圓其說的個性而惱怒。
8. 天蠍座：兩種極端的個性，卻往往有著極大的吸引力。很容易成為彼此心中「永遠的痛」。
9. 射手座：通常會成為興趣相投的好朋友，友情成功的機會似乎比愛情大得多。
10. 摩羯座：他很欣賞妳有如陽光般的快樂個性。而妳總在抱怨他沒情調的同時，欣賞她堅持自己個性的男子氣概。
11. 水瓶座：他是個愉快的談心對象，你們之間的愛情即使發生，也絕不會是火山爆發型的，他不是屬於那種讓妳燃燒起來的典型。
12. 雙魚座：他絕對可以滿足妳渴望戀愛的慾望。但是當你們一起面對現實生活時，衝突可能就要發生了。

2007-07-01T07:05:00.001-07:00

處女星座的女人

田希仁

你想擁有一個處女座的女子嗎？首先，請把肩膀上的頭皮拍一拍，頭髮梳梳整齊，指甲剪乾淨，換一套清清爽爽（還帶點洗衣粉香味）的衣服。然後你再慢慢的走近她。處女座的女子雖不見得個個貌美如花，但她百分之百是乾淨、清爽的。而且，她會要求你同樣合乎她的標準。

很多人對處女座的女人有著傳統、純潔、保守的印象。就像古時侯養在深宅大院的黃花大閨女。關於這一點我們可得要修正一下。

處女座的女性比較含蓄害羞是沒錯的，你幾乎無法看到一個處女座的女人在大庭廣眾大聲喧嘩，或是作出誇張的粗俗的動作。他們很細緻，很像個大家閨秀的樣子。至於是否純潔、傳統、保守，那就得看你對這些形容詞如何解釋了。

處女座的女人雖然不會是女性運動的發啟者，但也絕不會傳統盲目的接受一些不合理的安排。她雖然很少大聲疾呼，但內心卻很有自已的主張，而且固執的很呢！對於愛情、婚姻，她當然十分尊重，同時她也會盡心盡力的付出。但是當認定了這是一段不值得眷戀的感情之後，她會義無反顧的轉身而去。平時的她，看起來總有一種寧靜安詳的氣質，但請不要因此而忽略她絕頂冷靜、實際的頭腦。

處女座的女子往往會傳達出一股自我壓抑的氣氛。這對許多男性來說，反到是一種特殊的吸引力。不過你千萬不要用過度熱情的方式追求她，粗俗的求愛行動會把她嚇跑的。處女座的女人的確會壓抑自已的情緒，但是她絕對不是沒有情緒。只是你必須要有耐性罷了。尋找到理想中愛情的處女座女子，是非常熱情而且浪漫的。這一點肯定值得你期待。

你一定聽說過，她是個完美主義者，一切事情都要求盡善盡美。處女座的女人實在很難忍受一個粗心大意笨手笨腳的人。還好她不是個喜歡要求別人幫忙的人，多數的時侯，她都會把自已的事情打理的妥妥貼貼，只是拜託你不要雞婆的去打擾她就行了。

而至於你所做的事情，如果你要請教她意見的話，最好先有一點心理準備。處女座的女人總能在你認為一切完美的情況下挑出一大堆毛病來。真的，她們往往有著與生俱來的分析與批評能力。我認識一對夫妻，太太是處女座的，她的老公有一次告訴我說：「我們結婚快十年了，好像從來沒有做過任何事情是完全符合她的標準的。她總會在我剛打掃完的浴室裡找出一大堆頭髮。我剛洗過的碗上面發現油漬。我剛記完的帳上挑出錯誤。我學聰明了，這些事兒乾脆全拜託她了，省得自已嘔！」這一招倒是挺管用的，也正因為如此，處女座的女人往往給人一種辛勤工作的印象，反正，能者多勞嘛！

不過，你最好要記得，不要隨便批評一個處女座女人。關於這一點她們的確是比較缺乏雅量的。在任何情況下，要她低頭認錯都是很困難的。或許你會覺得不公平，但是請你了解她嚴苛的自我要求已經對自已造成很大的壓力了，別人的批評她自然會受不了！其實她嘴上不承認，心裡可明白的很！

不要對你的處女座情人訴說一大堆遙不可及的夢想，她要的可是真真實實的人生。你那些不夠實際的計劃，會被她批評的漏洞百出。結果只是你自已討沒趣而已。但憑良心說，當你真的遇到問題的時侯，處女座的女人是非常好的談話對象。她會非常樂意為你分憂解勞。同時，以她冷靜清晰的頭腦，幫你理出事情的頭緒。處女座的女人總是能以理性而且溫和的態度，扮演好一個賢內助的角色。

你們的家會很乾淨，但也可能太乾淨了一些。我有個朋友說他最害怕請朋友到家裡去了，因為他那位處女座的太太總是五分鐘倒一次煙灰缸。要不就是把客人喝了還剩小半杯的咖啡，以迅雷不及掩耳的速度收走。只要是有人用過洗手間，她一定趕快進去清理一遍。弄得大家都十分的尷尬。當然，你的那位處女座小姐應該不至於那麼離譜。不過，你還是要有心理準備。她可能每天得花一兩個小時在浴室裡，從頭洗到腳，她可是一絲不苟，而且，她討厭你催她。

不要打亂她的生活秩序，處女座的女孩喜歡生活按部就班，如果你遲到、爽約，把她的時刻表弄得一團糟，她會非常生氣。當一個處女座女子生氣的時侯，她雖然不會張牙舞爪，但是她會一條條的數落你的罪狀，遣辭用句精準有力。而你唯一的辦法就是誠心認錯，別做無謂的辯駁。

娶了她，你就有了一個一流的會計師。你的帳本會清清楚楚，分毫不差。她不會喜歡鬧情緒。她會把自已打理的整整齊齊，不讓自已變成黃臉婆。你每天下班回家，都會有熱騰騰的晚餐。至於你的一切煩腦，她都會樂於分擔，他會耐心的聽你訴苦、冷靜的為你分析。你知道她是個完美主義者，她會努力地做一個完美的妻子。

因此，對於她那點吹毛求疵的毛病。和她要求你每天一定要洗澡的要求，你當然應該「欣然」的接受啦！

處女座的女人與「性」

顧名思義，處女座的女子在性方面是內向而害羞的。雖然她內心對這一件事情有著無比的渴望與好奇，但實際付諸行動仍要耗費許多時間和努力。

同時，許多處女座的女性在性方面有著潔僻的傾向。過度的調情會讓她心生恐懼。明亮的場所，大膽的動作，她都很排斥。但本身器官的感應度十分敏銳。對異性來說反而有另一種型態的性感。

處女座的女人與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：雖然屬向不合，卻常有配對的可能。彼此之間有著特殊的吸引力。
2. 金牛座：他的穩重踏實，是妳欣賞的特質。而妳的含蓄內斂，正是他所追求的女性典型。
3. 雙子座：你們彼此都欣賞對方冷靜機智的頭腦。但做事的方法卻有很大的差異。
4. 巨蟹座：他謹慎含蓄的態度，讓妳覺得與他相處是一件愉快的事。不過你們都應該學習避免挑剔對方的毛病。
5. 獅子座：妳或許不太能接受他有些誇耀的態度。而妳的愛的方式，或許對他來說不夠熱情。
6. 處女座：過多相同的時侯，會讓你們一起工作時得到共鳴，但失去創意。至於「來電」的感覺，恐怕有待努力。
7. 天秤座：在許多方面你們都能配合的很好。至於實際的生活，天秤座的男人講求的是「大原則」，而處女座的妳可就太注重細節了。
8. 天蠍座：你們之間的距離可以拉得很近，天蠍座的男人有能力激發出妳原本壓抑的熱情。
9. 射手座：雖然他的粗心急躁跟妳的謹慎保守完全不同，但這樣的男人卻很容易成為妳牽腸掛肚的對向。
10. 摩羯座：你們相處在一起的氣氛可能有點沉悶，但彼此卻是可以了解與配合的對象。
11. 水瓶座：你們的思想方式有很大的差距。所幸彼此都不是很有支配慾的人，因此和平相處的問題不大。
12. 雙魚座：雖然彼此都很樂於分擔對方的喜樂憂傷，但是，基本上雙魚座的浪漫和處女座的實際卻有著很大的衝突。

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處女星座的男人

田希仁

瓊瑤式愛情小說中的男主角，絕對不會是處女座的男子，抽象的觸電感覺，對一個典型的處女座男人來說實在是太不實際了。那種四目交接，立即就會勾動天雷地火的事情，只會發生在封神榜之類的神話故事裡。所以如果你遇上了一個處女座的男人，如果你愛上他，請不要期待一份激情浪漫的感覺，更不要一下子熱情如火的把他給嚇跑。處女座的男人不會喜歡這種戲劇化的情緒。

這絕對不表示他不懂得「愛」，從小，他對於家庭，父母、親人、朋友都有著濃厚的感情，對於可憐的人更是深具同情心。他的感情必須是慢慢累積，或是有明確出發的。對某些處女座的男性來說，追求愛情甚至是一種自私的表現。

許多有成就的單身漢都是處女座的，擁有廣大讀者及觀眾的趙寧就是其中之一。一方面可能是曾經有過愛的傷痕，因而從此埋守於工作，或服務人群的事業。處女座的男人在受過感情創傷之後，會倍加小心，如果想再敲開他的心門，可能就難上加難。

另一方面，處女座的男人是很挑剔的，能夠符合他要求的女性，恐怕不太多。但是如果你不能合乎他的條件，他怎麼可以愛上你呢？所以，想要和一個處女座的男人建立男女的關係，你必須先具備讓他喜歡你的理由，然後再進一步的培養你們之間的感情。

首先，你一定要是很潔淨的，無論是外表或是心靈。穿著邋遢，行為放肆的女孩幾乎與他無緣（多數處女座的男子都有點潔僻傾向）。

第二，你要有接受批評的雅量。他的分析批評雖然有點吹毛求疵，不過多半都很客觀而準確。

第三，你要懂得上進，學習思考，因為他實在難以忍受一個無知又粗心大意的女人。發表任何言論前，請三思，不要常說些意氣用事，不經大腦的話，處女座男人對於女人常說一些短視、不客觀的話，感覺很不耐煩。他對你的批評可能會讓你無法招架。

對處女座的男人來說，美麗的頭腦要比美麗的臉蛋重要的多。當你慢慢的習慣了他的個性，而他也愈來愈喜歡你，你們之間的愛火就開始慢慢燃燒了。處女座男子的愛火一旦真正被點燃，那將會燒得很久很久，甚至一輩子。你只要想到這一點，你就會認為所有的努力都是有代價的了。

他可能會讓你等待很久，才向你表白。不過處女座的男人一旦認定你之後，他會很清楚的表達他對你的感情以及他未來的計劃。很多處女座的男人都為了結婚訂下三年、或五年計劃，存錢、買房子、買車子，他的愛很誠懇，很持久。

嫁給一個處女座的男子真的很幸福。我有一個好朋友，當初跟她那個處女座老公談戀愛的時侯，我們大家反對的要死。每次一起出去吃飯的時侯，也總是東挑西嫌的，一會兒說盤子洗的不乾淨，一會兒又說菜不夠新鮮。我們一群三姑六婆在聊天，他每次都唱反調，反正你下的任何結論，他肯定都挑得出毛病。當然，最後我的朋友還是不顧我們的反對，嫁給了那個處女座的男人。他們辛苦了幾年，買了房子、車子，而且在家裡他會幫忙她做家事，很少應酬，忠實可靠。我們很慶幸她當初沒有聽我們的餿主意。

處女座的老公真的有很多優點：他不像多數男人那麼不愛整潔，他不會亂發脾氣，他不會到處留情，讓你擔心。當你生病的時侯他會給你細心的照料，他很勤勞，很踏實，你不必煩惱今天吃完牛排之後，明天會不會連陽春麵都沒有了。

他的記性很好，幾乎不太可能忘記你的生日，或是結婚紀念日。只要你記住自己作妻子的本份（把家弄乾淨，把他肚子餵飽），他不是個太苛求的丈夫，而且他很願意幫你的忙。你可以發展自己的事業，他會經常給你很好的建議，就算偶爾嘮叨瑣碎，我想也應該是可以原諒的。

處女座的男人不會表現的像個醋罈子，但是內心卻有這強烈的佔有慾，「忠實」他而言是最重要的。你的任何一點點背叛的行為，他都不會原諒。處女座男人的妻子，最好不要經常晚上出去遊蕩。當一個處女座男人決定與你斬斷情緣時，他可是乾淨俐落的讓你心碎哦，很多做妻子的人都會羨慕你擁有如此勤奮、細心、忠實又體貼的好丈夫，只要你保持著當初他選擇你的那些「美德」，你的未來就是一片坦途。對了，最好不要隨便邀請朋友到家裡來玩，尤其是帶著一串小孩或是抱著小狗的朋友。

處女座的男人與「性」

挑剔的處女座男人，在性愛上也是追求完美的，因而很重視技巧。他非常在意自己的表現，擔心自己做得不夠好，不能讓對方滿意。處女座的男人在性的表現上很少是自私的，他們往往把女方的感覺擺在第一位。所以你的反應對他來說太重要了。如果能在他很有信心的情況下進行，或許會有比較激情的表現。

處女座的爸爸

他是一個很有責任感的父親，他會不惜犧牲自己的嗜好多花一些時間在孩子身上。教他們功課，送他們去學鋼琴，帶他們去看展覽。他的耐性恐怕連你都自嘆不如。處女座的父親通常也會給孩子很嚴格的管教。他會認為孩子不只應該在知識上得到教育；生活的禮節習慣，也都非常重要。有了一個處女座的老公，你真的可以輕鬆做個母親，你唯一要做得就是讓孩子知道爸爸、媽媽都愛他，因為處女座求完美的個性可能給孩子壓力太大。你得做他們之間的緩衝。

不過，很多處女座的男人都沒有強烈的「作爸爸」願望。

2007-07-01T07:03:00.001-07:00

射手星座的女人

田希仁

如果說射手座的男人常有些「唐吉訶德」傾向的話，那麼射手座的女人就很容易有「南丁格爾」情結。射手座的女人經常會愛上一個家人都反對、朋友們也不贊同的對象。因為熱情又有正義感的她總會覺得----如果我都不了解、不支持他，他還能相信誰呢！射手座的女子往往對世界充滿了好奇、缺乏戒心。尤其是在她們年紀尚輕的時侯。她滿心真誠的尋找著心靈契合的伴侶。結果經常是衝動的跳入愛河之後，才發現原來只是一條臭水溝。

還好射手座的女孩通常都有著天真樂觀的個性。愛情的挫折不會輕易的將她擊倒。把眼淚擦乾，她很快又有了再試一次的勇氣。不過，江山易改本性難移，失敗的教訓並不容易把她訓練得世故一些。因此，失戀的故事可能得反覆上演，直到有一天，那個真的懂得珍惜她的男人出現。

因此，或許你曾經聽過射手座的女子遊戲愛情、逃避婚姻的傳聞。這實在是大男人主義歪曲事實的說法。射手座女子的觀念、行為，或許並不那麼傳統、守舊。但是，對於感情，她們的確是非常誠懇的。

如果你想要成為她的情人，你必須先成為她的好朋友，彼此要有許多相同的樂趣和看法。她的愛情往往是從友誼中滋生的。有時侯連她自己也很難分清楚其中的差異。她的個性通常很獨立，不是那種事事都願意被你安排的女孩。她非常追求自由，不喜歡別人給她太多的束縳。但這絕不表示她放蕩不拘。射手座是個具有貴族氣息的星座。射手座的女孩通常自律性很高，崇尚人類高尚的情操，她相信人人生來平等、自由，人與人之間應相互信賴、尊重。因此，她不喜歡任何人給她訂下什麼規矩。當然她也絕對會給你應有的尊重和自由。

射手座女子通常並不是長輩們心目中「標準媳婦兒」的典型。你很難教一個射手座的女子信服「天下無不是的父母」，或是「孝就是順」之類的道理。她當然認為對長輩應要尊重、要敬愛。但絕不能迂腐到一昧服從的地步。不論是什麼人，都得要講道理，是非黑白總得弄清楚，不能合情合理的事，射手座的女子恕難從命。你不要寄望她因為愛你，就必須要無條件的接受你所有的親戚。有時侯表面上的親暱對她來說都很困難。射手座的女子幾乎都無法忍受「偽善」及「虛情假意」。她可不是個好演員，如果她不喜歡你，他肯定會讓你看出來。對於有些射手座的女子來說，這根本是她應盡的義務。

因此，如果你是個大男人主義的男人。射手座女子可能不太適合你。同時，你恐怕也會受不了她心直口快的毛病。她可能是個遠近知名的直腸子，經常可以在大庭廣眾問一些讓你下不了台的問題。也許她是個比較內向含蓄的射手座，當她聽到你們說了一些她無法贊同的話，她會板下面孔表示抗議。你最好記得，當你帶著一個率直的射手座女孩應酬時，最好不要說一些太不接近事實的話。如果你硬要誇獎老闆那個掛著兩條鼻涕、又哭又鬧的小孩可愛的話，她搞不好會跟你說：「你馬屁拍得太過分了吧！」要不然她可能白你一眼掉頭就走，拒絕與你這麼虛偽的人為伍。請不要用一種世故的眼去苛責她，你應該懂得珍惜這難能可貴的率直天真。

至於有些人說射手座的女孩有拒絕婚姻的傾向。其實，那只是她對失去的恐懼。如果你真的能夠讓她了解，你絕不會是一個像舍監一樣的男人；你更不會無理的要求她接受你們家所有的親戚。我相信她是不會拒絕你的。其實，她內心迫切渴望找到一個能夠了解她、信賴她、珍惜她的伴侶，與她共度此生。射手座的女子是非常忠實的。而且，她也會這樣的信賴你。因此，如果你讓她發現了你對她的不忠，將造成她極大的傷心和憤怒。

其實，射手座的女子真的很需要你好好的疼愛她。因為，往往她受到傷害的機會很大。她的天真直率，使她很容易相信人。而她的直言無諱又很容易得罪人。所以，她總是會在自己也不明究理的情況下吃些暗虧。而愛她的方式並不需要小心呵護，時時叮嚀，她最需要的是你的尊重、了解和鼓勵，對於樂觀、獨立的射手座女子來說，這就足以支持她繼續用光明天真的人生觀與現實世故的社會戰鬥了。

多數的射手座女子在婚後仍然會選擇作個職業婦女。你該了解，一個追求自由的人，當然會希望擁有經濟上的獨立。而且，射手座女子於生活品質的要求，通常也挺有貴族氣的。很少會是那種精打細算、省吃減用的家庭主婦。至於家中瑣碎的事，憑良心說，她並不十分熱衷，但是她會懂得善盡自己的本份，通常她都能做個手腳俐落的太太，只要你不要擺出一副理所當然的大男人姿態。

星期假日的時侯，記得帶她出去吃頓飯，呼吸一下自由新鮮的空氣，暫時擺脫一下婚姻生活的模式。她會永遠心甘情願的，做你聰明可愛，卻有點粗心大意的妻子。而且她既不會疑神疑鬼，也不會限制你的自由。比起很多男人來，你真是幸運多了。

射手座的女人與「性」

射手座的女子可以成為非常有趣的性伴侶。她有著追求刺激、充滿好奇的天真特質。她不會拘泥於形式、地點或是時間。她可以配合對方，創造出各種不同氣氛和方式的性交場面，態度明朗而大方。

但是對於過度執拗、激情，或是喜歡長時間沉溺於性愛的對象會感到不耐煩。

射手座的女人與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：是性向相合的對象，但常常會有爭得面紅耳赤的場面出現。還好彼此都心直口快不會記恨，不至於傷到真感情。
2. 金牛座：妳的直言無諱恐怕教他有些吃不消。而他傳統的男性觀念，可能無法讓妳信服。
3. 雙子座：和他相處妳會覺得十分快樂，許多方面彼此都能配合得很好。或許正因為如此，妳會安於現狀，缺乏步向地毯另一端的動力。
4. 巨蟹座：妳的直率往往會刺傷了他而不自知。經常會有他生悶氣，而妳一頭霧水的情況。
5. 獅子座：彼此都是熱情明朗的典型。但是要妳屈服於獅子座男人的羽翼之下，似乎有一點困難。
6. 處女座：你真的知道他對妳很好，不過他的方式有些讓妳吃不消。妳的率直天真，總會讓他有點擔心。
7. 天秤座：你們會相處愉快，秤座男人不會在乎妳獨立自由的主張，而妳的方式也不會給他太大壓力。
8. 天蠍座：他有著吸引妳的魅力，勾引著妳的好奇。但是真正在一起的結果，往往會是表面上妳佔上風，事實上有苦說不出來。
9. 射手座：相同星座的你們，自然很容易引起共鳴和信賴。但在意見相左的時侯，就比較沒有緩衝的餘地。
10. 摩羯座：他是崇尚傳統的，與妳的人生觀有很大的差別。雖然可以互補，但比較難以引起共鳴。
11. 水瓶座：你們會成為很好的朋友。妳所有天真想法他都能理解，但想要激起愛的火花可能比較困難。
12. 雙魚座：他是很容易引發妳「南丁格爾」情結的男人，雖然個性不同，但妳總會有想要陪伴他、照顧他的念頭。

2007-07-01T07:02:00.002-07:00

射手星座的男人

田希仁

射手座的圖型，是個半人半馬的弓箭手，用這樣的圖型來形容射手座的男人真是太貼切了。拿著弓箭的手永遠瞄準遠方，然後駿馬一般向前奔馳，那就是「他」。

射手座的男人興趣很多，涉獵很廣泛，但恐怕每一樣都不會研究得很徹底。正因為他的興趣廣泛，跟很多人都可能有交集，因此他會有許多不同類型的朋友。有的朋友陪他聊政治，有的陪他打球，有的跟他一塊作生意。他很忙，很少有射手座的男人會給人一種閒著沒事做的感覺。尤其當他突然對什麼新鮮事物發生興趣的時侯，可能全心投入好一陣子，其他的事情（包括你）全被暫時拋在腦後去了。

當你剛開始跟一位射手座男人交往時，會有一段蜜月期----你是最讓他感興趣的人。之後，你是否能讓他保持熱度，就得看你的本事了，因為讓一個射手座的男人把心思長期專注於談情說愛上，的確是很困難的事。

他是個絕對的樂觀主義，心中有無數遠大的理想，卻經常容易忽略眼前的問題，因此常在加速向前衝的時侯，一不小心就栽到水溝裡去了，在他身邊的女人偶爾提醒一下他的粗心是很好的，但如果在他對你高談闊論他遠大計劃時，潑他一盆冷水，那就真是讓他討厭極了。其實，你真的不必太過擔之他的「安危」，因為樂觀的射手座男子，並不容易被一些小挫敗擊倒，反而事實的教訓會幫助他成長，讓他下一次小心點。

很多射手座的男人都有點「不信邪」，當你嚴厲的告訴他什麼事不可行的時侯，他卻偏要試一下才甘心。我不知道你碰到這種情況了沒有？如果有，請千萬不要落井下石，在旁邊說風涼話，你當心他會惱羞成怒哦！最好換一種方式，你可以說：「你做的比我原先預計的好多了，你真有一套！下一次只要把…改一下，保證萬無一失。」

他肯定會覺得你太夠意思，太了解他了。射手座的男人很少真的覺得沮喪。萬一不幸發生這種情況，當然就是你表現的時侯囉！

很多人說射手座的男人花心，其實我倒覺得應該說他是很喜歡跟很多女人真心交往，花言巧語的欺騙不是他的方法。前面我就說過，他是很容易與人發生交集的，對女生當然也是一樣，一旦他感覺跟某個女生有些投契的地方，他就會很愉快，很真誠的付出他的友誼和感情。其實射手座的男人愈成熟，就愈希望找到一個真正與他心靈相投的伴侶，只可惜他們多半都不是細細觀察，慢慢投入的類型，因此總是很容易開始，很容易失望，於是很容易結束，射手座的男人很少會存心始亂終棄的。

就像是一壼茶倒滿了很多杯子，你能說哪一杯不是茶嗎？對每一個人他都很真誠，如想要真正擁有他，只有把自己變成個超級大杯子，讓他把所有的茶全倒進來囉！

首先，你要興緻勃勃的聽他說遠大的計劃，偶爾提醒他一些細節，讓他驚訝你的智慧。

第二，你要會陪他玩，多數射手座男子對戶外運動都很有興趣，當他帶你去參加社交場合時，千萬別擺張老K臉。

第三，射手座男人很愛跟朋友辯論，你要很感興趣的聽，然後在適當時機幫個腔，使他理論立於不敗之地。更重要的是，千萬不要限制他的自由。對於多數射手座的男人來說，自由是他們的寶貝，「不自由毋寧死」，他愛你是真的，願意和你廝守終生也是真的，但是他不會因此放棄他追求自由的權利。射手座的男人，絕不是可以被拴在腰帶上的丈夫，這一點你一定不要忘記。

射手座的男往往不會詳細的向你報告行蹤，尤其是事前，他更不會一副徵求你批准的態度。如果你東問西問，他很有翻臉的可能。有位射手座的男人，因為晚上臨時有事，不能陪女朋友吃晚飯，於是他打了個電話給他的女友。

「喂！今天晚上有事，不能陪你吃飯了。」

「哦！什麼事啊？」

「公事！」

「什麼公事啊？」

「關你什麼事啊？」他有點火大了。

「跟什麼人一起去？」

「要你管？」

「我也要跟你去！」女朋友也火大了。

「不行！」

「為什麼不行！」

「我說不行就是不行！」

卡的一聲，就把電話給掛了。

當然，你可能沒有這麼倒楣，碰上這麼一個壞脾氣的射手座男人。不過，我還是勸你不要做個福爾摩斯，你的射手座男人恐怕沒有亞森羅蘋的幽默感。

你愈給他自由，他愈坦白。

有時侯射手座男人的直率也會讓人有點受不了，他的直腸子有時會傷你的心，有時會讓你下不了台。如果想要愉快的相處，你必須學習適應，而且欣賞他不會拐彎的坦率性格。

當然你也有自由發展你的世界。他通常忙碌的沒時間去限制你。想要欺瞞一個射手座的男人，是件很容易的事，但是如果讓他發現，將會造成無法彌補的裂痕，「真誠」是他最重視的相處之道。他會尊重你的自由一如尊重他己的一樣，你會有很大的空間發揮自己的事業和興趣。但是我仍然建議你多方面盡量配合他，否則他什麼時侯掉進了別人的情網你都不知道！

射手座的男人與「性」

射手座的男人多數可稱得上箇中高手。雖然平時看起來很有紳士風度，少有動手動腳的輕浮舉動，但是在性愛中的表現激情而且有技巧。如果你能製造一個高貴的氣氛（射手座男人通常有點貴族氣質），選擇一個舒適的場所，然後給予熱情的回應，你們會相處得很愉快。

你要記得，射手座的男子追求的絕不只是肉體的結合，而是心智上的交集。

射手座的爸爸

他是兒子心目中的好夥伴，女兒心目中的天才老爸；雖然他直言無諱的方式有時讓孩子很尷尬，他的急性子會讓孩子們覺得有點壓力，但是他們仍然會覺得他很可愛。內向的孩子會比較難跟他溝通，因為他往往強調直話直說。悶葫蘆一樣的小孩會讓他心急，甚至失去耐心。他痛恨孩子說謊，這一點你得時時提醒你的小孩。你要幫助他跟孩子們之間更愉快的溝通，但不要因為孩子佔據你們太多獨處的時間。

2007-07-01T07:02:00.001-07:00

金牛星座的男人

田希仁

妳的他是金牛座的嗎？恭喜妳啊！你真是太幸運了，沒任何星座的男人比金牛座的男人更適合做老公了（就實際的觀點來說）。

金牛座的男人做事向來不急躁，談戀愛當然也不會囉！他不會見妳一面，就莽莽撞撞的投進愛情的陷阱。當他看中一個女孩之後，他會觀察很久再決定到底要不要追求。我有個高中同學嫁了個金牛座的老公，他們是大學的同學，其實早在大一的時侯他就對她很有好感，卻硬是整整觀察了三年才展開追求。那時侯他已經對他從小到大的經歷，以及家庭背景，有相當的了解了。

如果你因此而以為金牛座的人太實際，太不羅曼蒂克了，那你可就錯囉！當他一旦打定主意，他將採取一切溫柔又甜蜜的方式，高級的餐館、精緻的禮物、送你上下班，這些一樣都不會少。

金牛座的浪漫既不空洞，也不會太過激情，他不是那種滿嘴甜言蜜語，實際上什麼都不曾為你做的男人。也不是那種整天黏著你，一分鐘也不肯離開你的男人。金牛座男人的浪漫方式會讓女生很有安全感，那是一種介於情人與父親之間的感覺，像是一副可以依靠的肩膀，讓人覺得溫暖而舒適。怎麼樣？很令人響往吧？那麼你得先通過他的審核才行。

你要記得，金牛座的男人絕不會喜歡一個高談闊論，行為開放的女子，他要的是一個端莊的淑女，一個賢妻良母的女人。他可不想浪費時間玩刺激的戀愛遊戲。所以囉！如果你是個新女性主義的女孩，你就可能不太適合他了。你是不是願意為了愛情而收斂一點呢？跟他在一起的時侯，尤其在他的朋友面前，不要不停的發表意見，非必要的時侯，最好少開口，保持微笑，端莊的坐在他的身旁。他會不時的回頭看看你，而且，以後他會很喜歡帶你一起出席社交場合。

當他向妳求婚的時侯，他一定已經對你們的未來做好了完整的計劃。至於怎麼買房子，如何存錢，以及他目前的財務狀況，他都會讓你有所了解，你不會滿心的惶恐不安，通常金牛座的男人會讓你很有安全感的走進結婚禮堂。

從結婚的第一天開始，請不要再作風花雪月的愛情夢，金牛座的婚姻生活是穩定而實際的，請你要把時間花在為他準備一個溫暖舒適的家，而不是作夢和鬧情緒上面。

你放心，他不會要你作一個整天忙碌，累得像個黃臉婆一樣的妻子，他會盡力給你最好的生活條件，只是，拜託你，當她忙了一天之後，給他一個溫暖的窩，不要在他面前嘰喳喳聒噪不休。

多數時侯金牛座的男人不會把太多工作上的情緒帶回家，你在跟他談戀愛的時侯就該發現這一點了，當他在外面受到挫折，或是工作進行不順利，心情不好的時侯，通常他會扳著一張臉，一句話也不說。你最好幫他沖杯熱茶，把沙發墊子放好，讓他安安靜靜的休息一下。

金牛座男人的個性是實際而勤勉的，他不會被情緒左右得太久。至於你的情緒，你最好也能學著自己處理。婚後的他可能會把心思都放在工作上，而無法細心的體會你的心情。不要小孩子氣的認為他不愛你了，想一想，他一切的努力不全是了你們美好的將來嗎？女人總不能一輩子追求浪漫的愛情嘛！

對於金牛座的男人來說，「戀愛」和「婚姻」是兩種截不同的階段。偶爾在他工作之餘，心情好的時侯。你可以撒嬌，如果真的無理取鬧那就不妙囉！

還有一點是很重要的，那就是----隨時記得，他是一家之主；在所有場合，請給他絕對的尊重，不要跟他唱反調。

你該知道，「牛脾氣」是什麼意思吧！一開始我就告訴過你，金牛座的男人很少會喜歡一個高談闊論的女人。尤其難以忍受一個喜歡發表謬論的妻子。當你在公眾場合吱喳不停的時侯，回頭看一下你的牛座老公，他的臉色鐵定已經很難看了。

有一次同學會，我那個同學帶著他的牛座老公一塊出席，你知道，一大堆女生在一起總是說個不停，他扳著臉坐在一邊，後來發現太冷落他了，就請他一起加入我們的話題。他正說得起勁的時侯，坐在他身旁的太太突然開玩笑的插了一句嘴----「你得了吧，少吹牛了。」

他居然立刻站起來說：

「我先告辭了！」然後掉頭就走了。

我那個同學嚇的追了出去，我們也愣了半天說不出話來。

所以你可得記住，跟你的金牛座老公參加社交場合時，言行舉止要注意，否則他會讓你當場就下不了台的。

回娘家？這個方法恐怕對他不是很管用，我勸你最好不要輕易嘗試除非你真的不想回來了。相信我，就算你真的回娘家，等自己火氣一過，想想他的種種好處，說不定你拎個皮箱自己回來了，何必呢？

金牛座的男人是很「家居」型的，他非常追求家庭的和諧，對於家人他有很強的佔有慾，除非在他覺得自己的家庭幸福受威脅，或是他一家之主的尊嚴受挑戰的時侯，他會不發脾氣之外，一般正常的情況下他都是溫柔而仁慈的，更重要的是--他忠實可靠。

做一個成熟實際的女人，你會覺得有個金牛座的老公真的太棒了！

金牛座的男人與「性」

當你的金牛座男人跟你通過了精神戀愛階段時，他會認為身體上的密切配合也是很重要的，他很少只要求柏拉圖式的戀愛。

他的「性」觀念不會很隨便，因為他很重視心靈和肉體融合的感覺。他對愛情的佔有慾很高，因此他會很在意你的反應，如果你在做愛時心不在焉，他很可能會勃然大恕。大體上說來，金牛座的男人在性方面的表現是體貼的；他喜歡把「性」變成一件愉快的藝術，而不是只是生理上的發洩。如果你們在這方面不能配合得很好，很可能會影響你們之間的愛情。給他溫柔熱情的回應，他會表現的很好。

金牛座的爸爸

當你的金牛座男人做了爸爸以後，他會是一個溫暖又有耐心的父親，他對小孩慷慨極了，而且他會盡一切努力安排孩子的未來，大概小孩兩三歲的時侯，他就開始為孩子進入明星小學舖路了。金牛座很重視物質的，你要小心他在這一方面會把孩子寵壞。當然你還要教會小孩尊重他是一家之主，這樣父子關係才會永遠和諧。

當他發脾氣的時侯，千萬記得要告訴孩子，不能頂嘴。

2007-07-01T07:01:00.002-07:00

金牛座的女人

田希仁

如果你決心要娶一個金牛座的女人回家，我會起立向你致敬--你真的是太明智了。

說得恭維一點，金牛座的女人應該是屬於社會中流砥柱型的人物。她們的性情穩定、溫和，做起事來踏實而努力。她們幾乎不可能會是個愛鬧脾氣的嬌縱大小姐，更不會哭哭啼啼的情緒化。她們實際，而且懂得預算，所以你大可以放心的是，她絕不會是個揮霍無度的少奶奶。還有一點，會讓很多男人羨慕的，那就是你的金牛座女人不是個醋罈子，她不會因為你看了哪個女人一眼，或是多說了一句讚美的話就大發脾氣。多數時侯，她真的是非常有肚量的。不過，如果你因為如此，而隨心所欲，輕易造次的話，後果恐怕就不堪設想囉！

「忠實」應該算是牛座女子對感情的第一要求。我說過她並不會小氣的在意你的一舉一動，但是，你可得有個限度，她對於感情的佔有慾望極高，千萬不要背叛她，對於很多金牛座的女子來說，這可是她們律法中的唯一死刑。你得切記：不要吃定了她的脾氣溫和、性情穩定！當你真的觸怒她的時侯，你會深切的體會到什麼叫「雷霆」大火，奉勸你別試為妙。

其實金牛座的女人不只是對愛情的佔有慾很強，對友情也同樣有這種傾向。對於她的好朋友，她忠實而慷慨，有時甚至到了溺愛的地步。但是她也會要求她的朋友對她絕對忠誠，否則她就會失望、憤怒，有時侯，她的標準甚至有點盲目。

好了！既然你知道她對於「忠實」有著絕對的要求，那你也大可放心，她會絕對忠實的對待你囉！你的金牛座女人絕對不會在你遭遇困難的時侯離你而去，她會堅強的陪著你度過難關。在面對痛苦挫折的時侯，金牛座的女人往往勇敢的令人佩服。她們很少看起來就是一副精明幹練的樣子，但是她們的確有一股堅毅的氣質。

許多年前，我認識一個金牛座的女孩，剛從商職畢業，父親車禍去世，母親臥病在床，還有三個弟妹仍在就學，她必須獨立負擔家計，因此她白天在一家小貿易公司當會計，晚上在餐廳唱。為了節省表演的置裝費用，她總是買些亮珠子回去，趁夜釘在一些舊衣服上面。我從來沒看過她臉上有著憂傷的表情，她總是靜靜地完成每一件事。那份堅毅的精神令我難忘。前些時侯在路上遇到她，她已經結了婚，現在在幫著先生作生意，弟妹們都大學畢業了，母親身體也健朗。我常常在想，電視上的家庭倫理劇的女主角，一定都是依照金牛座女人的個性寫的。

像這樣的賢妻良母，你怎麼能不花點工夫把她娶回家呢？首先，你必須要記得，實際的金牛座女子，追求的是實實在在的感覺。我不是說她不浪漫，是實上在愛情中的金牛座是既浪漫又性感的。只是你必須要用看得到、聽得到、聞得到、觸摸得到的實際感觀享受，引導出她的浪漫氣質才行。

千萬不要一嘴蒜味的去跟她約會，可能的話最好刷個牙保持口氣清香。穿一套色調協調的衣服。在金星守護下的金牛座女子，是非常重視美感的。衣料的質感也很重要，她喜歡觸感很好的質料。你看大多數金牛座的女人，總是穿著式樣簡單，但是質感舒適的服裝。她們幾乎不太可能選擇時髦，但看起來廉價的衣服。因此，你自然不必穿得太「譁眾取寵」囉！

有機會的話，不妨帶她去聽一場音樂會（當然，重搖滾通常不太適合牛座的女人）。邀請她去吃一頓口味道地、氣氛優雅的晚餐。飯後，在月光下散散步。你很快就會看見一頭溫柔浪漫的小母牛了。金牛座的女人都很喜歡大自然，因此，有時侯請她到郊外走走，也是非常好的提議。

以上所提供的方法，自然是投其所好。但是你們之間交談的內容卻是更重要的。你不必在她面前吹噓自己的事業日進斗金，前途無量，擺譜耍闊並不是吸引她的方式。她情願嫁一個殷實、有理想的小商人，也不願選擇一個一擲千金的暴發戶。你應該相信，她是有耐性陪著你腳踏實地，為前途奮鬥的。還有，你得記得，最好不要在外人面前批評她，這種感覺對她來說有點接近背叛，很容易引起她的慍怒不安。

金牛座的女人恐怕沒有太大的興趣，陪你聊一些「形而上」的學問，她會對那些對人生有實際幫助的知識此較感興趣。她不會喜歡浪費時間在「空談」上面。所以，請不要老是用一些似是而非的話去煩她，不要說她不夠「知性」，等你的人生遭遇到問題的時侯，你就會發現，她知道的可多囉！

如果你硬要說金牛座的女子有什麼缺點，那麼對我這個急性子的獅子座來說，就只是「動作慢」了。說她動作慢或許並不是很恰當，應該說，半牛座的女人非常堅持她所做事情的步調。絕對的按步就班。而且非常不喜歡別人催促她。比方說，當你向她詢問一些事情的結果的時侯，金牛座的她很少會直接把結果告訴你，她會習慣地將事情發生的前因後果，依照步驟慢慢地說給你聽。如果你不耐煩，她會很難過，覺得自己不受尊重。

我有個金牛座的同事，就經常處於我的壓迫之下，每次我問她事情，她總是不急不徐的慢慢講，而我總是不耐煩的跟她說：「告訴我結論吧！」因此她每次跟我說完話就很有挫折感。其實我也很愧疚自己的沒有修養，再怎麼說她也是一番好意嘛！不過說也奇怪，截至目前為止，我們每次交談的結果，還是那個老樣子，這恐怕就是星座的宿命吧！

當然，我希望你不會像我這麼急躁，金牛座的做事方法，對於這個快速的社會，其實是挺有緩衝作用的，只要你懂得尊重她，我保證你周圍的朋友都會羨慕你！畢竟，能擁有這樣溫和又懂得分寸的女人是何其幸運呢！還有，你的銀行存款會上漲的很快！「存錢」，可是金牛座女人的看家本領！

金牛座的女人與「性」

金牛座女人在性愛的表現上是比較保守的。但在金星守護下的她，實際上內心非常渴望浪漫。多數金牛座女子的性慾都很高，但卻羞於採取主動。對於對方的表現，總是會全力的配合。她傾向於喜歡比較長時間的調情、性交，持久力相當的好，對於草草了事的性愛不感性趣。金牛座的女子如果願意大膽的把自已的喜惡、需要讓對方知道，對於愉快的性生活是有正面幫助的。

金牛座的女人與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：妳可能會覺得他有一點點「臭屁」。他在工作上的衝勁令妳欣賞，但是他的急躁會令妳不安。
2. 金牛座：這似乎是建立安定幸福家庭的保證，但往往兩個太相像的人相處，會有一種「不夠勁兒」的感覺。。
3. 雙子座：他總是新鮮有趣，但總是給你一種靠不住的感覺。
4. 巨蟹座：溫柔的他給你一種「家」的感覺，但妳得多體貼他情緒上的起伏。
5. 獅子座：妳或許會覺得他的愛太過燦爛而無法持久，他做事的方法讓妳有點擔心。
6. 處女座：在各方面來說，他都是很讓妳放心的。只是那點吹毛求疵的習慣，有些叫人吃不消。
7. 天秤座：同樣在金星守護下的他，有著吸引妳的特質，在他面前妳會變成愛撒嬌的小女孩，這樣的改變讓妳自已有些擔心。
8. 天蠍座：他那像火又像冰的個性讓你有些害怕，但堅毅執著的氣質卻讓你不得不欣賞。通常你會選擇先保持距離，以策安全。
9. 射手座：你們的個性截然不同，他是令你好奇、驚訝，大不嘆吃不消的典型。
10. 摩羯座：雖然他實在不怎麼有情趣，或許不能給妳浪漫的愛情，但卻是妳心目中理想可靠的伴侶。
11. 水瓶座：妳覺得他思路太過飄忽，而他或許覺得妳太過實際了，不妨學習對方完全不同的氣質吧。
12. 雙魚座：他總是那麼溫和，那麼善解人意，唯一讓妳擔心的是，他的想法會不會離現實太遠了呢？

2007-07-01T07:01:00.001-07:00

牡羊星座的男人

田希仁

如果你愛上了一個牡羊座的他，那麼，在你還沒有確定他已經愛上你之前，請不要太過主動對他表示好感。因為對這火星之子來說，世上最有趣的事莫過於「挑戰和征服」。要是由你來採取主動攻勢，那豈不是太無趣了嗎？牡羊座的男人不是很難了解的，只要你稍微冷靜一點，留心的觀察，你不難發現他喜歡女孩什麼樣打扮，什麼樣的感覺。你不妨投其所好，讓他把眼光不由自主的停留在你身上。讓他覺得你對他有些好感，但不要讓他太自信的以為你的一切穿著打扮全是為了他，你應該有一點點傲氣。

當然，我也不是要你冷若冰霜（直率的牡羊不會喜歡太假仙的女生），你該盡量發揮你的優點。

很多牡羊座男人，都像個喜歡炫耀自己玩具的小男生，希望他身邊的女人，美麗、溫柔、聰明、可愛、大方，集所有優點於一身。就好像要比賽誰的機器人功能比較多一樣。你不必擔心自己太能幹會把他們嚇跑，多數牡羊座的男人會以自己的女朋友，或是老婆的成就為傲。他很可能會當著大家的面誇獎你，把你優異的成就告示眾人。不要覺得不好意思，你應該覺得高興才對，這表示他真的重視你，而且開始把你當作自己的人了。在別人面前你可以盡量做一個獨立、能幹的女強人，在他面前才顯露出傳統的小女人本色。如果你能在所有人的面前都是「第一名」，只有在他前退居第二的話，那你就是他心目中的完美女性了。

牡羊座心中理想的愛情是有著濃厚童話色彩的，他喜歡感覺自已像個白馬王子一樣（雖然他或許不怎麼樣帥）。所以，拜託你也得有個公主的樣子（當然你也不見得非要很美）。當你跟他在一起的時侯，請不要嘮嘮叨叨，不要邋邋遢遢、不要哭哭啼啼、不要潑婦罵街，這些醜態會破壞他童話愛情的美感，難保他不會棄你而去，尋找另一個白雪公主囉！

很多牡羊座的男人會給人一種花心的感覺。他始終在尋找夢中的白雪公主，可是天真的他往往衝動的闖入情網之後，又覺得滿心的失望，而每一次愛情的破滅都會造成他很大的傷痛。至於他失戀的原因，一來可能是這個女孩的個性和他距離太遠；二來是因為他自己的個性太自我中心，讓女人覺得受不了。

你可能常常會覺得他好自私，一點都不為你著想。其實，他並不是不為你想，而是他根本沒有想到，他天生就不是那種心思細密的人。

他的反擊力很強，當你們吵架的時侯，他可能會說一些很讓你傷心的話，相信我，他真的不是故意的，那是牡羊座的直覺反應，吵架就是要吵贏嘛！他很可能一說出口就後悔了，可是經常很難拉下臉來，衷心的道歉。不要跟他生氣，放他一馬我保證他心裡會很感激，對你加倍的好。

其實真的要離開一個牡羊座的男人也不容易，他總是會在你氣得半死，決心要離開他的時侯，做一些很天真、很可愛的事，讓你覺得於心不忍。不要跟他冷戰，這種招式不是把一個牡羊座的男人逼瘋，就是把他給逼跑，問題既不能解決，對你也沒有什麼好處，對不對。

想要真正得到一個牡羊座的男人，在開始的時侯的確要付出許多，除了要具備足以吸引他的優點之外，你還要無怨無尤的接受他的缺點，原諒他的錯誤。直接又衝動的牡羊座，往往會在外面遇到一些挫折，這時侯，你要讓他知道你是永遠支持他的，永遠是跟他一國的，那就很有機會白頭偕老了。

當你真正成為他的妻子，你會相信你所付出的一切是有代價的。牡羊座的男人很有責任感，一旦他娶了你，他會把照顧你當作是他終生的職責，他會寵你，他會覺得你過得好他才有面子。他雖不會很細心的體會你的情緒，但是他也不會在家事或金錢上，對你有什麼限制和要求。而且除非你執意要離開他，否則牡羊座的男人很少會離棄他的妻子。他的個性的確很自私，不過如果他把你包含在他自私範圍之內的時侯，那你就真的有褔了。

我有一位好朋友嫁了一個牡羊座的男人，他們剛開始交往的時侯，所有的朋友都反對，因為那個男人實在太花了，女朋友一個接一個的換個不停；就連他們交往的時侯，仍然不斷的傳出他和別的女生拍拖的消息。

可是我的朋友卻不為所動，她從來不跟他吵鬧，也不調查他的行蹤。甚至有一次我們在路上碰到他牽著一個女生的手，她還是跟他笑一笑點個頭，又跟我們繼續逛街了。不過，從這一次之後，我們再也沒有聽說那個男生的誹聞，沒過多久，他們結婚了。他每天按時上下班，努力的工作，他的事業發展的很快，偶爾出去應酬也是很早就回家了，賺的錢多數都交給了老婆。上回遇到那位朋友的時侯，他滿臉洋溢著幸褔的光采，我們很好奇，不知道他是用什麼方法馴服那隻花心的牡羊。她說那次在路上遇到他之後，她寫了一封信給他，把他的風流韻事一一列出來，表示所有的事情她都心知肚明。然後她告訴他，她認為自己的容忍已經到了極限，如果再有類似的事情發生，她將永遠的離開他。這一招才真的獵到了牡羊座男子的心。

所以囉！不要害怕你會把你的牡羊男子寵壞了，你對他的愛愈多，包容愈多，他就愈離不開你。偶爾發個小脾氣，撒撒嬌是可以的，真的跟他生氣可就划不來了。牡羊座的男人很少是成熟世故的，他的童心一世不改。

對了，牡羊座的他花錢是很大方的，對你當然也是有求必應，你可得替他守著一點。他跟朋友在一起的時侯總是有搶著付帳的毛病，那是他天生喜歡做老大的習慣，恐怕一輩子都很難改。如果能力負擔得起，你就由得他去吧！不要在朋友面前讓他下不了台哦！記著：永遠讓他覺得他你最愛的王子，那麼就算你已兩髮斑白，你仍是他之目中的寶貝公主。

牡羊座的男人與「性」

牡羊座的男人通常在「性」方面，仍保持了他的自我本位和孩子氣，他的性慾通常很強，當他有所要求，而你卻拒絕時，他會覺得非常掃興，甚至於生氣。他不會很喜歡調情，希望立刻進入戰場。牡羊座的男人多半在這一方面很有自信，他始終在等待你的讚美。他的性愛方式是激烈的，或許你會覺得他不夠有情調，因為女性總是喜歡事前的調情和事後的枕邊細語。為了你們的性生活愉快，建議你不妨讓他負責主戲，而前後段調情由你主導。

你應該試著學習他，去享受「性」，而不只是配合而已。對於牡羊座的男人來說，「性」是有趣的，如果你讓他覺得索然無味，他很可能在外面尋求滿足。不過，這不表示他變心了，他通常不會把「愛情」和「性」混為一談。

牡羊座的爸爸

當你的牡羊座男人做了爸爸之後，你會發現他根本就跟孩子一樣叫你「媽咪！」。他的孩子氣表露無遺。

牡羊座的男人通常寵孩子的情況比教育孩子多。他可能會對孩子過度保護，你得注意不要讓他影響了小孩的獨立性。他會比較像孩子的「老大」而像「爸爸」。千萬不要因為孩子而忽略他，不管在任何情況下，他都希望他是你心裡的「最愛」。

2007-07-01T07:00:00.000-07:00

牡羊座的女人

田希仁

如果你期待一個林黛玉般的女孩來滿足你的男子氣概，碰到了她，你可真是門兒都沒有了，識相的話，趕快找個窗子開溜吧！在火星守護下的牡羊座女子，通常是積極而且堅強的。像小鳥依人、楚楚可憐這一類的形容詞很難加諸在她身上。

牡羊座的女子應該算得上十二個星座中，獨立性最強的女性。她絕對不是那種整天守在家裡，等著你來接她、送她，完全缺乏獨立行動能力的典型。對於大多數的牡羊座女孩來說，她寧願相信如果沒有你在身邊礙手礙腳，她辦事效率或許要高得多。聽我這麼說，你或許會以為這樣的女人是不需要男人的！那可就錯啦！自信而驕傲的牡羊座女性確有著堅強的獨立生存能力。但她們內心都深深地渴望著她夢中的白馬王子快點出現呢！很難相信吧！看起來那麼銳利的她，其實是充滿著童話般夢想的。而對所有的牡羊座女子來說，她們心裡最大的矛盾就是渴望征服對方，又期待著被對方征服的微妙心裡。

你現在可能有些擔心，不知道該如何扮演好自已的角色了，是嗎？別慌！先把你的「真心」準備好，以後的辦法就好商量了，雖然有一點點辛苦，不過保證值得。

首先，你必須認清，牡羊座的女子基本上是「英雄主義」的。她會傾心於一個令她佩服的男人。她要嫁一個讓她引以為傲的丈夫。她或許會比較欣賞事業有成的男人，但這並不表示她是個拜金主義者。家財萬貫的花花公子是不會讓她心動的，滿腔理想的熱血青年反而會受她的青睞。因此，如果你愛上了一個牡羊座的女子，請先不必展開熱烈的追求。哈巴狗一樣的男人會讓她既討厭又害怕，她深怕給你一個禮貌的微笑之後，你就會死纏著她不放了。你最好先讓她了解你的才幹、你的魅力，引起她對你的好奇（或者應該說引起她征服你的興趣），等你感受到她對你真有好感之後，你再誠懇的對她表示愛意，那麼前途就大有可為了！

你要像個「大男人」的樣子（我說過她很英雄主義），但是你絕不能對她頤指氣使。你一定要真心的關懷她，但絕對不要太縱容她。我想你應該用一種「英雄惜英雄」的態度來待你的牡羊座女人，才是比較適當的。

絕大多數的牡羊座女子都很好強，她們堅持要在對方的心目中保持最重要的地位。當然她也會把你擺在她心中最重要的位置。而且她很忠實、很大方。她願意與你分享她的一切。當然，她也會認為你應該與她分享一切，包括你的秘密。欺騙你的牡羊座女人，有如犯了欺君之罪一樣的嚴重。這一點你可千萬要記住，她情願聽你令她心碎的懺悔，也不要接受美麗的謊言。你最好少在她面前誇獎其她的女孩，尤其是那種由衷的讚美，極可能會引起雷霆大火。

我有好幾位牡羊座的好友，每次有聚會的時候，我一定只和她們的另一半保持禮貌性的交談，儘量避免談笑風生的場面。或許，你也會察覺，她的朋友也在刻意跟你保持一些距離，你可別以為大家都是敬鬼神而遠之。這是因為牡羊座的女人在朋友圈中，多半是大姐頭類型的人物，她很講意氣，很樂意幫助別人，因此，同性的朋友才不願意引起不必要的誤會。牡羊座的女人確實有點霸道，不過這也是她個性中可愛之處。遇到事情，她常常會挺身而出，她對朋友講義氣，對你也絕對如此。牡羊座的女人是會為愛人拚命的。

我有個經商的朋友娶了位能幹的牡羊座妻子。婚後，她的確成功的扮演著賢內助的角色，使他原本就蒸蒸日上的事業，更加飛黃騰達。我這個朋友什麼都好，既有才幹又顧家，只可惜風流本性始終改不了，不過索性都是逢場作戲，沒有驚動到太座大人，沒想到有一回遇上了一個厲害角色。這個女人對他死纏不放。尋死要活，搞到最後，他實在沒辦法了，只好老實向太太招供。或許很多女人會傷痛欲絕的跑回娘家去，要不就是跟老公又吵又鬧。我這個朋友的太太可沒這麼軟弱，她先是把我的朋友好好的數落一頓，然後問清楚了那個女人的住處，立刻趕到那兒去。她跟那個女人說：「妳要死要活，是妳的事，如果妳再敢找我老公，我就告妳，妳最好不要得寸進尺，否則我就讓妳死的很難看！」

只花了三分鐘，這位牡羊座的妻子就把困擾老公兩個多月的問題解決了！誰敢說她不是賢內助呢！牡羊座女人永遠胳臂朝內，槍口朝外的態度是非常令人激賞的，但是你千萬要記住你們是一體的，吃裡扒外的男人可就要吃不了兜著走囉！

由於她們那麼積極堅強的個性，許多牡羊座的女子都會給人一種尖銳、而且愛找麻煩的印象。在表面上，她們是不會讓別人（尤其是男人）佔便宜的。很多人會認為牡羊座的女人總是尖嘴利牙的得理不饒人。正因為如此，她們常常會吃些暗虧，受到挫折，她們總是比其他的女孩活得辛苦一些。其實，你應該明白，她們的內心多半是正直、善良，而且脆弱的。只要你真心的關懷她，在她受了委屈的時侯，給她一個溫暖的懷抱，她會成為你一生忠實可靠的伴侶。

牡羊座的女人幾乎都可以成為出色的職業婦女，也同時能做稱職的家庭主婦。事實上，讓她擁有自已的事業對你們的婚姻是有幫助的。當她儘量在工作上發揮了她的好勝心和征服慾之後，回到家裡做綿羊的機會就比較大了。如果要一個精力旺盛的牡羊座女子，把心思全放在「你」的身上，我擔心你會有點受不了的。至於家庭，你大可放心，她雖然柴米油鹽之類的瑣事，不是那麼有興趣，但好強的她，不會讓自已成為一個失敗的主婦的。

還有件事你該慶幸，那就是我很少看到一個邋遢的牡羊座妻子，她們大多都在婚後依然保持光鮮亮麗，不願意別人譏笑她老公娶了個黃臉婆。就算偶爾懶散一下，只要老公稍加提醒，她們立刻就會警覺。我有個產後稍微發福的牡羊座女友，就因為老公說了一句「以前我最欣賞妳那雙修長的腿了。」她硬是兩個月減肥了二十磅。就憑她這股堅強的毅力，你能不相信她會全力以赴的做個好妻子嗎？

牡羊座的女人與「性」

在性愛方面，牡羊座的女人多數是激情熱烈的，她們很少會是纏綿悱惻、細火慢燉的類型。拖拖拉拉、瑣瑣碎碎的男人，會讓她覺得很不耐煩。在性愛的場面中，她依然保持著自信、明朗的氣質。牡羊座的女人很乾脆，「Yes」「No」分得很清楚，很少有什麼半推半就的情況。

牡羊座的女子與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：或許有一些單調，但基本上的看法多數一致，步調很容易配合。不過妳得要懂得「第二名」哲學才好哦！
2. 金牛座：妳會欣賞她的腳踏實地，卻受不了他的不溫不火，而他對妳的大女人主義，恐怕是不敢恭維，妳要學習「沈默是金」。
3. 雙子座：他會讓妳覺得十分有趣，但試圖掌握他會讓妳覺得沒有安全感，更會令他窒息。
4. 巨蟹座：他的溫體貼會讓妳覺得窩心，他的情緒化會讓妳覺得他有些軟弱，而妳尖銳的言詞卻很容易剌傷他。
5. 獅子座：他會讓妳覺得真的遇上了夢中的王子，但妳必學習作個公主的樣子，如果硬要作皇太后，那麼愛情就要消失囉。
6. 處女座：你們彼此有著奇特的吸引力，雖然有太多地方你們完全不同。或許是他不厭其煩的叮嚀，讓妳了解了他真實的關心。而妳的明朗直率，照亮了他原本太過平實單調的生命。
7. 天秤座：他會引起妳征服他的慾望。爾後妳會覺得他的溫柔纏綿無法配合妳熱情的步調。而他也會害怕妳稍嫌霸道的個性。
8. 天蠍座：表面上妳似乎總是佔上風，事實上，妳可討不了便宜。你們彼此都在享受戰爭的剌激，忍受傷痛的煎熬。
9. 射手座：這是個歡喜冤家的搭配，吵吵好好，有如扮家家酒一樣。你喜歡充滿理想的他，又生氣酷愛自由的他。而他欣賞妳始終同一戰線的義氣，卻又受不了妳管得太多。

1. 摩羯座：如果妳堅持要做家裡的風紀股長，那麼這個男人是不能接受的。他是忠實可靠的，但他也是保守而固執的。
2. 水瓶座：妳是熾烈的，他是涼涼的，他對妳很好，但始終沒有熱烈的追求，妳很難掌握他，這就是他一直吸引妳的原因吧！
3. 雙魚座：他的羅曼蒂克令人響往，但他的情緒起伏讓妳吃不消。妳的直言無諱可能會把他嚇跑。如果想要他妳得做隻綿羊才行。

2007-07-01T06:59:00.003-07:00

巨蟹星座的男人

田希仁

我不知道你遇見的是個什麼樣的巨蟹座，單就外在給人的感覺，他們基本上分為兩大類：一是溫和親切，絲毫不給人壓迫感，另一種則彆扭挑剔，讓人覺得很「難搞」的樣子。

但是不論他是屬於哪一類，當你們真的深入交往之後，你都會覺得他的個性陰晴不定，難以捉摸。他有時侯溫柔體貼，有時冷漠，有時仁慈善良，有時嚴苛得不近人情。但是，只要他是個巨蟹座的男子，他必定有一顆溫柔而敏感的心。他的多變，並不是個性如此，而是他的情緒太容易受外界事物的影響，想要真的了解他並不是件容易的事。

保護自己是巨蟹座的本能。他很少會一下子讓你了解他太多，他很少會把自己的情緒或感情赤裸的表白。他本能的保護著自的脆弱多情的心，你要給他很多安全感。大多數的巨蟹男子都很害羞，很害怕自己被拒絕。就算他在追求你的時侯，他也盡量做到好像不是在追求你的樣子。

當他電話來約妳的時侯，幾乎很少會立刻切入主題，他總是會在跟妳聊了半天，繞了好幾個圈子之後，才說：「聽說有一家新開的義大利菜不錯，我們要不要一起去吃吃看？」

巨蟹座的追求方式是不具有攻擊性的，他的態度始終很和緩。可是，如果你真的有事不能去，或是你那天不想出門的話。你拒絕他的方式可千萬要很委婉，否則，你很可能因此傷害到他。當他不安的時侯，可能有兩種反應，一種是像寄居蟹似的躲進殼裡去，另一種則是像大螃蟹一樣用鉗子亂咬人。

巨蟹座的男人很在意別人對他的尊重。如果你是個粗心大意的女生，你可能常常弄不懂他為什麼突然扳著一張臉，他太敏感了，你的一個輕蔑的眼神，或是一句玩笑話，都可能讓那個好不容易提起勇氣的巨蟹情人，馬上躲進殼子裡去。想要讓他再勇敢的走出來，恐怕得下好一番功夫囉。

如果你是個急性子的女孩，那麼巨蟹座的追求方式，可能會讓你有些不耐煩。他可能一天跟你打了好幾通電話，晚上陪妳吃飯，飯後跟你散步，然後帶你到他家，把他從小到大的獎狀、照片、收集，全搬出來給你看，全部看完了之後，你回家的時間也就到了。如果你也是個害羞含蓄的人，那你們恐怕得重複這樣的節目無數次。我誠懇的建議你，如果你真的喜歡他，不妨稍微主動一點，給他一點「明顯」的暗示(真的要很「明顯」，否則害羞的巨蟹男子，還是會覺得沒把握)。你們之間的交往會進展的很快。馬上就會看到他熱情纏綿的一面了。

跟敏感而且情緒化的巨蟹座男人相處，溫柔的對他是唯一的方式。

當你們的感情進展到一個階段之後，當他對你的感情愈來愈深的時侯，他會感覺不安。他會一再的試探你，他喜歡你不斷的證明自己對他的感情。不要不耐煩，這一切都表示他真的在乎你。在他覺安全的情況下，他是個最細心，最體貼的男人。

當你們鬧彆扭的時侯，「哭」跟「撒嬌」是比較好的方式，很少有一個巨蟹座的男人能夠對著一雙淚汪汪的眼睛發脾氣。你們馬上就可以和解了，而且往往是不戰而勝。

千萬不要兇著一張臉對他大吼大叫，這樣一來造成的傷害往往比原先的意見不合更嚴重。他會覺得你不尊重他，不愛他了，你從原告變成被告的情況，可能常會發生。巨蟹座男人生氣的時侯是很難取悅的，請不要自找麻煩。

嫁給巨蟹座的老公，是件輕鬆愉快的事，第一，他是個喜歡做家事的居家男人，但是千萬別在他做家事的時侯，蹺個腿在客廳裡看電視，那太傷他的心了，請在他身邊用溫柔感謝的眼光看著他，他會做得非常起勁。他很有金錢觀念，多數巨蟹座的男人對賺錢的興趣比花錢高得多，因為金錢往往會給他安全感，他並不吝嗇，但是，他不會喜歡你花錢去買一些沒「價值」的東西。如果你花了很多錢去買流行的飾品，他會覺得有點浪費。他寧願幫你買一顆鑽石，因為鑽石起碼可以「保值」。對他而言，「價值感」是很重要的，你最好培養自己正確的花錢觀念。

對了！千萬不要隨便丟他的舊東西，對懷舊的巨蟹座來說，一本舊書，或是一個破鬧鐘，都可能是他的無價之寶。我認識很多巨蟹座的男人都有收集的嗜好，有的收藏古董、還有的收集火柴盒。

對人講述他的收集品的來源，對他來說是一大樂事，你最好能分享他的嗜好，如果你實在沒興趣，至少不要在他重複地把那些「舊東西」搬出來欣賞的時侯，嘮嘮叨叨的數落個沒完。

緬懷過去的人、事、物，對他是種享受，也是一輩子改不了的習慣。其實，你應該很高興。對懷舊的他來說你可能也是愈老愈值錢呢！很多巨蟹座男人對母親有著依戀的情感。溫柔的母親可能是他成長過程中最大的依賴，在你們的交往過程中，你可能不時的聽到他提起：「我媽媽…」。

不要沒道理的吃醋，不要故意唱反調。聰明的你，最好不要製造婆媳問題，你要尊重你的婆婆，讓他教你怎麼照顧你的螃蟹，那不就是化阻力為助力了嗎？偶爾你可能會覺得缺乏成就感，因為巨蟹座的男人通常都把自己照顧得太好了。我認識的每一個蟹座男人，幾乎都是皮鞋擦得雪亮，襯衫和西褲上的線條燙得平平整整的，他們做家事的本領常常比太太高明。如果你熱心的幫他做這些事，他可能會嫌你做得不夠快，不夠好呢。不要生氣，你應該樂得輕鬆才對啊！不過還是要記得常常誇獎他的能幹，常常表示出樂於為他服務的樣子，你會過得既輕鬆，又愉快。

永遠記得「溫柔」就是你最有力的武器。

巨蟹座的男人與「性」

巨蟹座的男人在「性」的方面，仍然保持了一貫的靦腆，因此他很少會有粗暴的表現，也很難有大膽的調情。但是他始終很進入情況，如果你要求的是非常「完整」而且激情的性愛，你應該居於主導的地位：讓他感覺到你對他的渴望，將會是莫大的鼓舞。如果他真的愛你，巨蟹座的男人在這一方面是非常忠實的。

巨蟹座的爸爸

他對孩子的照顧可以說是無微不至，他的細心和關懷，讓孩子很清楚的感覺到無限的愛。

他對孩子的耐性可能還遠超過你。很少男人能像蟹座的男人，在孩子身上花那麼多的時間，正因為如此，當孩子漸漸長大不再那麼需要他的時侯，他會覺得難過，甚至不願面對這樣的事實。

孩子可能會開始埋怨他給他們的限制太多了，你應該從一開始就盡量開導他，避免這樣的情況發生，而且你要不斷的提醒他，就算有一天孩子長大了，離開了，你還是會永遠陪在他身邊的。

2007-07-01T06:59:00.001-07:00

巨蟹星座的女人

田希仁

下筆寫巨蟹座的女人，我非常擔心自己不夠客觀。從小到大，身邊總是有好幾個巨蟹座的好友，我似乎對這個星座下出生的女子，有著特別的感情。我想，那或許是她們溫暖的個性，很容易贏得友誼的緣故。而當彼此真的成為朋友之後，就是你一會兒陪她高興，一會兒陪她傷心的日子了。我有時覺得她們善解人意的可愛，有時又氣她們敏感、情緒化的莫名其妙。而至於想要跟她們談戀愛的你呢！這樣的感受恐怕比我有過之而無不及！

溫和又體貼的巨蟹座女子，很容易給人「戀愛」的感覺。如果你是一個追求「愛的感覺」的人，選擇她，你肯定不會失望。巨蟹座的女人通常會給男人一種「如果失去你的愛，我的人生便毫無意義」的信心。這真是很多男人夢寐以求的感受。不過，如果你只是個把戀愛當遊戲的人，請千萬不要去招惹她，因為，第一，這對一個真情真意的巨蟹女子來說真是太殘了，巨蟹座的女人是玩真的，感情絕不是她們輕易褻瀆的東西；第二，對於某些蟹座的女子來說，如果她的愛上你，想要擺脫她可沒有這麼容易。你應該知道被螃蟹鉗住想脫身有多難的，是不是？她的纏鬥精神會讓你非常驚訝，我看過一個背叛巨蟹座女子的男人的下場。此起《致命的吸引力》好不到那兒去。當然，只有極少數的蟹座女子會有如此殺傷力，不過，你還是別心存僥倖為妙。

她的溫柔體貼，以及全心全意的愛會讓你感動的不得了，很少有女人會讓你覺得自己是那麼的重要。但是她的情緒化也很可能弄得你幾乎瘋掉。她非常沒有安全感，敏感而且容易受傷。常常你的一句無心之言，就會弄得她淚流滿面，或者生氣不安。蟹座的女人有兩種，當然正常的時侯都如溫暖的太陽一樣可愛，但是鬧起情緒的時侯，一種是帶雨梨花型，另一種就是定時炸彈型。如果你遇上的是前者，情況比較幸運，平常多帶兩包面紙就好了。若是後者，恐怕精神壓力就比較大些了。

讓她心情陰晴不定的原因有千百種，可能是因為她忽然覺得你好久不曾擁抱她了。也可能是你剛才對她女朋友說話的語氣太溫柔了。甚至可能是你剛才開玩笑，說她新燙的頭髮像鳥窩。對了！我忘了提醒你，最好不要隨便批評，或是揶揄你那蟹座的小女人，她幾乎脆弱的經不起一絲絲愛人對她的挑剔。總而言之，包括月亮的陰晴圓缺、海水的潮汐，都可能是影響她情緒的原因，而她最大的隱憂，就是她始終在擔心，擔心自己是不是夠好，擔心你是不是不再愛她了，她經常需要你的證實。所以我認為，對你而言，最簡單的方法就是直接告訴她吧！

我有個巨蟹座朋友的老公告訴我，她每天起碼問他十次「你還愛我嗎？」而我另一個個性比較強烈的蟹座朋友乾脆直接要求她的老公每天要說二十遍「我愛妳」。你很難相信對不對？但是我發誓，這是千真萬確的。

我想，除了真心愛她，沒有更好的相處之道了，但你必須切記愛她的方法絕不是姑息。當她鬧情緒的時侯，給她溫柔的安慰，等她心情平穩下來之後，你必須很誠懇的告訴她，她過度的情緒化，對你造成了什麼樣的傷害！把你真實的感受讓她知道，她是真心愛你的，她會知道應該適度的修正自己。千萬不要一昧的息事寧人，你會把她寵壞的。蟹座女子有個奇怪的特性，那就是如果你不告訴她「夠了」，她就會不斷的嘗試，看你能夠容忍她到什麼地步。她似乎很難明白什麼叫「適可而止」。到最後她的情緒化會到了自己都無法控制的地步，當然，你也終究會忍無可忍的。

我有幾個蟹座朋友的婚姻，就是這樣出問題的！到最後她當後悔當初自己太任性。但是憑良心說，那個姑息養奸的丈夫，多少也該負些責任。怎麼能在寵壞她之後，再到外面去尋求溫柔的慰藉呢？說也奇怪，當巨蟹座的女子感情出了問題後，她們採取的行動也會讓你大為警訝；在傷心難過之餘，蟹座的女子很可能會去告訴丈夫的新歡，應該做什麼菜才合他的口味；她可能會從洗衣店把他洗好的西裝送到「他們」的住處；她更可能用私房錢幫他付信用卡的帳單。你不相信嗎？我再發誓，這是真的。當我的蟹座朋友告訴我她們的偉大事蹟時，我也幾乎昏倒。她們就是這樣，有的時侯可惡的過分，有的時侯又好的過份。她需要你寵她，她也相對的寵你。對蟹座女子來說，寵壞一個男人似乎是佔有他的最好辦法，即使你今天離開了她，等你想清楚了，遲早還是會回到她身邊的，因為沒人會像她那樣愛你了。

所以，你應該明白，你必須學習用適當的方法愛她。如果你懂得相處之道，她會是個不可多得的妻子。你可以一生享受愛情的甜蜜，她會為你們的家一無保留的付出。蟹座的女性還有一個特點，那就是平時她雖然一副脆弱、情緒化，一副沒有你就活不下去的樣子，但是真的當你們遭遇到現實中的問題，連你都絕望助的時侯，她會變成一個堅強又有韌性的女人。你可以像孩子投進母親懷抱一樣的去依賴她，她會細心的醫療你的傷口，堅強的陪你共度難關。多數巨蟹座的女子都很有金錢觀念，懂得量入為出的道理。（除非她有一個揮霍的月座或上升星座）通常她只會在心情沮喪（覺得你不愛他）的時侯，才會亂花錢來平撫內心不安的情緒。為了你的荷包著想，常常給她「愛的感覺」才是明智之舉。

請用一種成熟而且負責的態度去愛她！不要在寵壞她之後，再責怪她！真心的愛一隻蟹子你會得到豐富無比的回饋。我衷心的希望我的每一位蟹座好友，都能遇到一位好男人。

巨蟹座的女人與「性」

巨蟹座女子的性愛是有些靦腆害羞的，很難把性愛當成一種遊戲！如果對方有著玩樂的態度，會讓她覺得不安，甚至生氣。她是要在場所隱蔽，對方非常誠懇投入的情況下，才能被引導進入情況。但一旦進入情況之後，是能夠全然耽溺其中的。巨蟹座女子的性愛可以十分激情，但是可能比較缺乏技巧和幽默感。

巨蟹座的女人與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：妳會喜歡他鮮活直率的個性，但是粗大意的他，似乎總是對妳的情緒視若無睹。
2. 金牛座：他可以提供你堅實可靠的肩膀。他也會欣賞妳的溫柔細緻。不過，你也得慢慢學習他實際的人生態度。
3. 雙子座：他那高人一等的表達愛的方式，可能讓妳心悅誠服。但他的多變，肯定讓原本缺乏安全感的妳，更加忐忑不安。
4. 巨蟹座：相同星座的你們自然很容易彼此了解。唯一擔心的是，兩個人同時陷入情緒低潮時，恐怕得花很多的時間才可恢復。
5. 獅子座：妳會喜歡他樂觀明朗的氣習，但是妳偶爾會討厭他誇大的個性給妳帶來的壓迫感。而妳的情緒化，他可能有些不耐煩。
6. 處女座：他很容易成為妳信賴的朋友，但在愛情方面妳可能會覺得他不夠浪漫。
7. 天秤座：妳很輕易就會迷戀於秤座男人的風采下，他很可能是那個寵壞妳，又失望的離妳而去的人。
8. 天蠍座：你全然付出的愛會得到天蠍座男人的信賴，而他的熱情總能滿足妳內心的不安。
9. 射手座：他不是個能讓妳安心的對象，雖然跟他相處的氣氛總是活潑有趣。
10. 摩羯座：他堅強的意志力會讓妳信服，但他通常不是懂得處理妳多變情緒的男人。
11. 水瓶座：他的平靜和冷漠，可能會讓妳覺得寂寞的發狂，但是你們卻可以成為談得來的好朋友。
12. 雙魚座：魚座的男人多情本性會讓妳十分窩心。而蟹座女子的母性特質，也正是雙魚男人深切需要的。

2007-07-01T06:57:00.001-07:00

水瓶星座的女人

田希仁

水瓶座女子的守護星是天王星。她所追隨的這顆星星是我們（多數人）一生都不曾見到的。在你有了這一個概念之後，以後看到水瓶座女子做一些你無法理解的事情的時侯，你就應該不那麼意外了。

水瓶座的女子堅持追求自由。但這並不表示她們的行為大膽開放，拒絕接受傳統教條的束縛。她所追求的自由是精神上、思想上的。她可能今天研究心理學，過兩天去學爵士舞，下個星期到醫院當義工。她好像可以屬於社會上任何一個族群，但又不是真正屬於那一個族群。她屬於她自己，似乎沒有任何人可以完全的佔有她。

但她也從來不會霸道的想要佔有別人。對於所有的事情，她似乎都有自己的標準，不受傳統的約束和影響。她很有「她的」原則，而且忠於原則。一如戀愛中的她，絕對忠於自己的情人一樣。

其實，到目前為止，我依然無法完全理解水瓶座的女子，雖然對她們的行為已經見怪不怪了，但經常還是有很多的「不明白」。幾年前我有一個秘書，她是個典型的瓶座女孩，有著平穩的個性，超然的態度。處理事情完全有著自己的步驟，但結果當然會儘量合乎我的要求。我曾經試圖要求她依照我的方法做事，她沒有表示反對意見，不過，過了幾天我發現她還是依然故我。我便不再多說，以示對她的尊重。

我非常欣賞這個女孩，因為她雖然年紀很輕，但是非常有主見，處事態度謙和有禮。對於任何事都很熱心的去了解，去學習，更好的是，她不像時下一般年輕女孩那麼浮躁，愛鬧情緒。每次我情緒激動的對她敘述事情的時侯，她始終保持冷靜的聽，實在讓我不得不誇獎她的修養到家。有一陣子她剛和男友分手，對方的表現有些依依不捨，惱羞成怒，而她卻一直保持理性平靜。我有點驚訝瓶座女子處理感情的淡然態度。後來，有幾次她突然告訴我，她覺得自己沒有把事情做好，並沒有幫我什麼忙。我只當作是她工作情緒的低潮，安慰她幾句便不以為意了。沒想到有一個周未，下了班，我送她上了計程車之後，她便從此消失蹤影了。

剛開始的時侯我真的很難過，因為我們一直相處的很愉快，我始終當她是個小妹妹一樣，究竟發生了什麼事，非得這麼不告而別呢？至今我仍不知道原因，不過心理上似乎模模糊糊的有些理解了。或許她有苦衷，或許她不想麻煩我，或許…。既然瓶座的女子不喜歡多做解釋，那我們又何必把她弄得水落石出呢？不過，我不再為她擔心了，我相信她會找到自己想走的路。

對許多瓶座女子來說，人生都是一場無盡的探索。各各階層的人，各種五花八門的事，都應該被了解、被關懷。因此；如果你有個瓶座的情人，你大可放心，她一定不會有太多時間黏著你。事實上，她或許還擔心你會無時無刻黏著她呢。

瓶座的女人幾乎都不是「金權主義者」，一個男人是否擁有財富、地位並不是那麼重要。外表是否英俊瀟灑也不是她最重視的條件。她要尋找的是（在她心目中）有智慧、有胸襟，可以陪她一起追尋「人間道」的男人。喜歡吃醋，佔有慾太強，太偏激，太保守的人，絕不是她心目中的理想伴侶。

你會發現她的朋友不少，而且，各種型都可能出現。因為瓶座女子是擁有自己的道德法則，同時也尊重別人不同法則的。她喜歡跟各樣的朋友相處，而且也都能相處融冾。但有時侯她又會選擇作個獨行俠。遠離家人、朋友，甚至遠離你。請大方一點，給她一些自我的空間和時間，霸佔她的軀殼沒有什麼好處。不要疑神疑鬼，在她沒有和你分手之前，瓶座女子會保持她的忠實。而且她只相信自己對你的評價，別人的看法是無法動搖她的。不要寄望她會把一切的行蹤、所有的想法，一字不漏的向你報告。瓶座的女人不會喜歡說謊，但她堅持任何人都有「保留一點」的權利。當然，這樣的女子也不會要求你交出行程表和自白書的。瓶座女子的「不多疑」，是她的另一項美德。

她的服裝穿著可能經常令你目瞪口呆。有時侯高貴典雅，有時侯性感動人，有時侯俏皮可愛。不過，她的打扮通常是憑感覺，而不是看場合的。還有一項更了不起的本領，瓶座女子常會把所有你異想不到的東西組合在一起。高勝美是個很可愛的瓶座女孩，不過，以前我並不知道。有一回我們一起參加一個節目的錄影，她穿了一件剪裁特別的黑洋裝，配了一雙黑色的厚底鞋，胸前掛了一條十字架的項鍊，左手戴了一串好大的佛珠。我猜想她大概是個瓶座女子，忍不住開口問她。果然沒錯。我心裡一陣得意。

我想對於這樣明理懂事的水瓶座女孩，你唯一可以抱怨的就是她不夠熱情。她好像永遠都是涼涼的，從來沒有熱情如火的表現。關於這一點，我跟我的瓶座女友討論時，她們深深覺得冤枉，她們說「外表的冷漠或許是表達方式的不同。但是，她們的內心是溫暖而需要熱情的。」這樣的解釋，我完全可以接受，相信你也應該能了解。更何況，她的淡然態度絲毫不影響她的美麗和女人味。水瓶座下出現的美女非常多。

我一直覺得水瓶座的女性是非常合乎現代需要的妻子。她既不是大女人主義，也不是傳統宿命女子。她懂得在婚姻之中保留自我、尊重別人。或許她常會在你們的談話中，冒出一句與主題完全無關的話。我相信你終究會習慣那只是她的邏輯推演方式和你不大一樣。久而久之你反而會期待這種與眾不同的樂趣。

水瓶座的女人與「性」

水瓶座的女子多數是不會強調肉慾的。她並不排斥「性愛」，但不會視之為不可缺乏的享受。她或許有著豐富的性知識（一如她喜歡吸收其他的知識一樣），但卻很難有著豐富的激情。水瓶座女子可以在性愛的場面中熱情的回應對方，但自己的內心卻往往保持冷靜。

許多水瓶座的女子對於自己的淡然有些煩惱，潛意識中，偶爾也渴望能擁有激情纏綿的感受。

水瓶座的女人與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：妳們的個性有著互補的作用，妳的冷靜可以安撫他的急躁，欣賞他的衝勁，包容他的粗心。
2. 金牛座：你們對事情的看法很容易產生摩擦，一起面對實際的生活或許不適合，但可以做相互了解的朋友。
3. 雙子座：你們擁有著相同的知性態度，處世的方法也很能配合，可以做朋友，也可能成為情人。
4. 巨蟹座：對於感情，你們有著完全不同的期待，因此，很容易令對方感到失望。
5. 獅子座：彼此之間會相互吸引，妳可以很有技巧的馴服一隻獅子。但切記要經常給他一點「愛的感覺」。
6. 處女座：對於他的聽耳提面命，妳往往可以充耳不聞。但對於他經常要求妳的解釋，妳會有些不耐煩。
7. 天秤座：這是非常理想的搭配。天秤座男子對其他星座的女人來說似乎難以掌握。但對妳來說，真是易如反掌。
8. 天蠍座：彼此或許可以相互吸引，但是相處起來可能不是那麼融洽，是容易起摩擦的組合。
9. 射手座：可以成為志同道合的愉快伴侶。相處的氣氛非常好，成為佳偶的機率很高。
10. 摩羯座：在交往的過程中，往往會是妳比較懂得體諒他。他的抑鬱、保守、固執，會讓妳覺得自己應該多付出一些關懷和愛心。

11. 水瓶座：瓶座的男子自然在各方面都能與你相互配合了解，但彼此的關係會顯得太平淡而缺乏熱情。
12. 雙魚座：不要以自己知性的態度去看雙魚座男子的世界。你們或許不太容易起共嗚，但發生衝突的機會也不大。

2007-07-01T06:55:00.001-07:00

水瓶星座的男人

田希仁

我常常笑水瓶座的男人是消防隊隊員，想要跟他們燃起熊熊愛火實在有點困難，就算妳一廂情願的燒得火熱，他也會澆你一頭冷水，請你冷靜一點。

對於博愛又知性的水瓶座來說，所有的關係都是從朋友開始的，每個人都可以成為他的朋友，因為每個人都有不同的特質和優點，值得他去探討、去了解。所以，你最好是一個寶藏，讓他有不斷挖掘的興趣。水瓶座的男人不會在意他身邊的女伴是不是很漂亮，打扮是不是很入時，家世是不是很顯赫！一些事俗的條件並不見得一定能吸引到一個水瓶座的男子，你的個性和內涵才是他重視的。水瓶座的愛情非常需要友情做基礎。

在他面前你大可表現真實的自我，他是個追求真實人性的人。他不會害怕你的多變或是情緒化，那只會讓他更想深入了解你。

說得更露骨一點，「多變」和「情緒」可以成為你吸引他的一種方式，我說過水瓶座是喜歡探究真理的，你愈奇怪，他愈想要弄清楚你是什麼樣的人。（當然，重要的是，在多變的外表下，你必需有些內涵，否則當他了解你之後，就會覺得索然無味了。）

很多水瓶座的人都喜歡了解別人的內心世界，進而幫助別人解決人生的困惑。做別人的心理醫師是他的樂趣。

等待他向你表白「他愛你」是有一點困難，也需要一點時間的。當你發現他對你特別好，或者特別不好的時侯，你就可以知道他對你的感覺有些不一樣了，一般的情況下，水瓶座的男人多半都希望自己對所有的朋友一視同仁。因此愛上你的感覺會讓他有些不安（似乎潛意識裡他覺得自己不該被侷限於這種小情小愛裡面）。他可能消失個幾天，你不必在意，等他想清楚再來找你的時侯，你就有一個溫柔體貼的情人了。

你可能會覺得你們之間的進展有一些緩慢，水瓶座的男人很少是肉慾主事的。他們可以停留在柏拉圖式的精神戀愛中，好長一段時間，有時侯連你都會覺得不耐煩，開始懷疑自己是不是缺乏女性魅力了。千萬不要！許多水瓶座男子不敢輕舉妄動，是害怕肉體關係會破壞彼此之間的友誼（你知道愛人之間的友誼對他說是很重要的），其實他內心說不定對靈肉之間的結合也很好奇呢！所以，除非掌握事實証據，否則，不要輕易懷疑自己，當然，更不要懷疑他。

如果你想用激將法來刺激他前進的腳步，恐怕不會是很好的辦法，有時侯很可能會讓自己下不了台，如果你告訴你那個久久不採取行動的水瓶座男人，有另外一個男人正對你展開熱烈的攻勢，而且他的人品學識都是一流，對你一往情深。他很可能先是愣了一會兒，然後平靜的對你說：「我想，如果我是你的話，我也會選擇他的。我祝福妳。」

說完之後，黯然離去。這下子，糗不著的可能就是你囉！

或許你會有些難過他的冷漠無情。其實不然，只是平靜的水瓶座男人很少讓人看到他內心的悲哀。他情緒的確會因你而波動，只是他很快的用理智的方式讓自己平靜下來。

期待看到他一副沒有你就活不下去的樣子，是一件非常愚蠢，而且幼稚的事。

不要希望你的瓶座男人會像獅座男人一樣，在戀愛的過程中，不斷的用名貴的禮物討妳開心。瓶座的男人是知性而且感性的，對他們而言，一束鮮艷的玫瑰，比不上寫滿智慧語言的卡片。水瓶座的男人的確不怎麼浪漫，但卻溫和而體貼，很少男人會像他那樣耐心的聽你說心事，冷靜的替你分析。

多數水瓶座男人對婚姻實在沒什麼興趣，柴米油鹽的世界對他來說似乎太小了，他情願把時間花在一些他們認為更有意義的事情上，許多瓶座男人內心總渴望能作一些對社會人類有貢獻的事。所以想讓他陪你走到地毯的那一端，你恐怕得動點腦筋，讓他對婚姻產生一探竟的好奇，是讓他走進禮堂的好方法。常常讓他陪你去參加婚禮，或是經常告訴他別的朋友結婚的消息，都可能會刺激他對婚姻的好奇心。當然對於一些婚姻失敗的消息，最好少提。不按牌理出牌的水瓶座（應該說他們有自己的邏輯）雖然偶然讓你失望，但也會經常帶給你驚喜。而且他將可以做你一輩子的好朋友呢！

婚後，他不會是個難伺侯的老公，對於你烹飪和作家事的技術都不會挑剔，你的行動自由他也不會過於干涉，當然你最好不要讓自己變成一個世儈、俗氣的三姑六婆，那他可能會有一點受不了。只要你把妻子份內的事情做好，他會是個很和氣的老公。瓶座的男人多半不是多情種子，應該很值得你信任，只不過「了解別人」是他的興趣，男女不拘，這一點可能婚後也改不了。你實在不必疑神疑鬼，造成不必要的爭執。

水瓶座的男人與「性」

性愛對於水瓶座的男人來說，可能是更深入了解你，也是更深入了解性愛本質的方式。他可能會努力增加自己的性知識，或加強自己的性技巧，以給予對方滿足感。對他本身來說，當然也會從其中獲得愉悅的感受，但是他往往控制得很好，不會有太過衝動和激情的表現。如果你不苛求對方一定要渾然忘我的話，瓶座的男人應該是很不錯的伴侶。

水瓶座的爸爸

你的瓶座男人會是孩子心目中講道理的好爸爸，他不會對孩子過份的嚴格，也不會太過溺愛，他很像孩子們「大朋友」，願意聽孩子們的心事和夢想，更願意為他們排解糾紛。不過水瓶座的爸爸不會喜歡孩子太黏他，尤其是他需要獨自思考的時侯。這一點，你要注意，不要讓孩子無時無刻的打擾

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天蠍星座的男人

田希仁

你的心是玻璃做的嗎？如果是的，快逃吧！否則就準一支掃把來掃玻璃碎片好了。

天蠍座的男人是杯烈酒，既使有些外表看來溫和淡然，他依是一杯看起來像白開水的高梁酒，在你毫無防備的一飲而盡之後，馬上就醉的分不清方向了。

他是無敵鐵金鋼，唯一免於被他打敗的方式，就是永遠不跟他作戰，你有兩種方式，一是無怨無悔的愛他，再不就是把自己練成金鋼不壞之身。

天蠍座的男人帶魔鬼般的魅力，讓你有如被催眠一樣的被他吸引，他忽而熱情如火，忽而冷漠的像冰，如果你跟他挑起戰端，倒楣的準是自己。吵架的時侯，他會口不擇言，每一句話都讓你心碎，你一定會恨死他了。可是等他怒火平熄，他彎下腰吻你淌血的心，那種甜蜜又立刻麻碎了所有的疼痛，他就有這種能耐，愛上他，就請準備強壯的心臟坐愛情雲霄飛車吧！去問問那些曾經為天蠍座男人瘋狂，又為他們心碎的女人。他的魅力究竟在哪裡？我想他們會告訴你----是他的眼神。

天蠍座男人有一眼刺穿你的本領。他似乎一眼就看出了你渴望些什麼，害怕些什麼，在他面前你似乎不需要什麼告白和辯解，偽裝是沒有什麼用的。除非你對這個蠍座的男人完全不來電，否則在你的眼光與他交會的剎那，你就註定難逃這場驚心動魄的愛情歷險。

很多深經世故的女人在蠍座男人放肆的眼睛下也會覺得羞愧，就好像是當眾被剝了衣服一樣的感覺。

他總能輕易的掌握你的弱點，如果你不信邪，想要跟他鬥法，最好的結果也頂多是兩敗俱傷，不過這種情況不太多，多數時侯都是他冷冷地看著你遍體鱗傷的躲在角落哭泣。

我有一位好朋友，有著漂亮的臉蛋。迷人的身材，出眾的學歷還有聰明的頭腦，她和那個蠍座的男人的戀愛是一見鍾情，立刻墜入情網，沒有多久他們就訂了婚。但是由於她從小就是那麼的優秀，總是被捧在手裡的，因此，難免有些頤指氣使的大小姐脾氣，她想要駕馭其他的一切。但她卻忽視了蠍座男人驚人的好勝心。許多年來，那個男人對的壞脾氣一直容忍，有些時侯連我們都覺得她實在有些過份。一直到他們結婚的前一個月，連喜帖都印好了，她突然告訴她：「你大概不會嫁給我了，因為我做了對不起你的事。」

我那位好強的朋友就完全被打敗了。真的，如果他告訴她：「我變心了，不想娶你了。」她或許會覺得好過些，因為她會覺得這樣的男人不值得留戀，傷痛很快就會過去，面對親友也有比較好的說辭。但他卻把這個難題交給她去解決。短短幾天，她的傲氣和神采全看不到了，在我們面前哭得像個淚人兒似的。最後，她們解除了婚約，她決定的，因此所有來自父母的壓力和心內的煎熬，全都得自己承擔。

想要傷害一個蠍座的男人真的很難，因為真的很少有人比他能忍，比他不怕痛。想清楚了嗎？如果想逃，請務必消失的徹底。如果決心守著他，就請你最好心悅臣服，不要引起他任何對你挑釁的意念。

其實天蠍座的男人除了對異性有著難以解釋的吸引力之外，他的個性的確也有著獨特的優點。他堅強而有韌性，他勇敢的面對失敗，他堅持自己的主張，不怕所有的反對和阻撓。對於他所選擇的工作，有著永不熄滅的熱情，不管是看他，或是陪他作任何事都很過癮。

當天蠍座男人專注於某一件事情的時侯，給人一種自信而且堅決的感覺，那種全力投入，勢在必得的表情真的非常迷人。他在面對挫折時的堅強勇敢會讓你覺得驕傲。雖然有時他故意找麻煩的令人討厭（他們多少有些潛在的虐待狂傾向），但是你仍得承認他討厭的很可愛。

天蠍座男人的醋勁，也跟他所有其他的情緒一樣的強烈。這一點你可千萬要小心，一旦燃起他嫉妒之火，你恐怕會很難收拾。「星星之火，足以燎原」你總知道吧！不過，他引起你吃醋的機會可能多的不勝枚舉，而你的憤怒、淚水、甚至尋死尋活，恐怕對他起不了什麼作用，在這一方面你除了給他完全的信賴之外，就是讓自己有十足的自信。不過憑良心說，天蠍座的男人都挺有定力的，他誘惑別人很容易，別人想誘惑他恐怕沒有這麼簡單。不要光聽他說的狠話，想想他為你做的一切，其實他對你也挺好的，不是嗎？只是堅持用他的方式愛你罷了！做一個成熟勇敢的女人，你才真的能體會到天蠍座男人的熱情和刺激，無人可比。

如果你決定嫁給一個蠍座的男人，請終生記得----絕不要有統馭他的慾望，我朋友的例子應該給你很大的警惕，放棄你的驕傲，不要在意表面上誰佔了上風。

天蠍座的男人與「性」

在這一方面，蠍座男人有著足以將你溶化的熱情，他的表現方式往往是激烈的。通常蠍座男人總有著足以征服對方的精力。他是追求勝利感的，在這方面也是一樣。如果你的反應冷淡會讓他立刻感覺索然無味。他可能在性愛進行的過程中，冷冷的看著你，不必害羞，更不用害怕。蠍座的男人經常面似冰，心似火，他只是喜歡欣賞勝利的成果罷了。

天蠍座的爸爸

天蠍座的父親是個實際的教育家，他愛孩子，卻不會把孩子寵壞，他不會允許小孩欺騙他（當然想騙他也不是容易的事）。他會教育孩子現實生活的法則，幫助孩子獨立。有的蠍座父親會顯得太過嚴苛了一點，雖然這一切都是為孩子好，而且多數時侯孩子長大了都會感激他，但是，你還是應該適時地，委婉的提醒他，除了教育之外，孩子更需要溫暖的父愛。

2007-06-29T10:58:00.000-07:00

天蠍星座的女人

田希仁

擁有神秘魅力的蠍座女子，常被其他女性視為愛情的威脅者。她並不一定很美，但通常她的一顰一笑，就會讓男人心裡小鹿亂撞。她似乎有著一種激發異性內之深處原始慾望的力量。簡單而俗氣的說，就是一種性感。（瞧我說話的口氣，顯然就有點妒意子！）

有些天蠍座女子在外型和眼神中就傳達出「勾魂懾魄」的氣質。例如：崔苔菁、林青霞等超級巨星，就是這種既美麗又迷人的類型而我所見到多數的蠍座女子，尤其在年紀很輕的時侯，常常會像一隻純潔可愛的小白兔，滿眼無邪的性感。不過，如果你因此而有了浪漫一下又何妨的念頭的話，那你可就打錯如意算盤了。通常她敏銳的眼神立刻就能看穿你的心意。不過，就算你狡猾的騙到她的愛情，戲弄蠍座女子感情的男人是肯定會得到教訓的。你多少總看過一兩部女性復仇的電影吧！那些不顧一切報復變心男友的女主角該會給你一些警惕。

很抱歉！我絕對不是說所的蠍座女子都是那麼的狠心、殘酷。我只是想讓你明白幾乎每一個蠍座女子都有著寧為玉碎的堅決態度。她可以柔媚的像水，也可以激烈的像火。對我而言，那就是一種魅力（令女人嫉妒的魅力）。

當然，或許你還是不太相信我的話。因為有好多蠍座女子都是一付迷迷糊糊傻大姐的樣子。跟朋友在一起的時侯也經常給人佔點便宜。如果你真當她是個傻瓜，我恐怕笨的人就你自己了。蠍座女人向來對她喜歡的人是有些縱容的，因此，她多半不太會跟好朋友計較。而對於一些小事情，她是懶得傷腦筋的。其實，她心裡可是清楚的很，如果你太得寸進尺，那你就準備自討沒趣了。

說了半天，我都在強調蠍座女子有仇必報的特性，忘了告訴你，有恩必報也是她們的共同點。只要你真心對待她，她可不會少給你一分。在感情上她慷慨得很，一點都不佔人便宜。而且，要是有人對不起你，她肯定跟你同仇敵愾。記得我在初中剛轉較到一個新學校時，碰到一些適應上的困難，和幾個喜歡欺負「菜鳥」的同學，當時就全靠著一位天蠍座的同學給我撐腰，替我主持公道。

在很多情況之下，蠍座的女人表現出的勇敢令男人望塵莫及。假如她真心的愛上妳，即使全世界反對，都不會讓她動搖。無論你們前途有多坎坷，她會陪你一起闖，而且絕不叫苦。她的堅韌會讓你覺得自己好像擁有了百萬雄師。當一個蠍座女人對你承諾「至死不渝」的時侯，她是認真的，而且她真的可以做到。

蠍座女子還有一點讓我佩服的地方是，她們抑制緒的本事。你幾乎看不到一個涕泗縱橫、情緒崩潰的蠍座女子。我不是說他們不會，而是她通常不會讓你看到。即使她的心情傷痛到自殺的邊緣，如果她不想讓你知道的話，你還是什麼都看不出來。在遭遇強烈打擊的時侯，蠍座的女人可以冷靜的像冰。我認識的一個蠍座女人帶了兩個孩子站在意外死亡的丈夫的屍首旁邊，一滴眼淚也沒掉，沉默的處理著善後的事宜。憑良心說，我欣賞蠍座的女子，她們愛的方式，那麼好強，那麼有擔當。這也是為什麼多數蠍座女子會活得比別人辛苦的原因了。

當然，想要擁有如此強烈而熾熱的愛，你勢必得忍受她一些個性上的小缺點。第一，蠍座的女子是有一點多疑的。她似乎想要探知你一切的秘密，她無法忍受你一絲一毫的隱瞞，更不要說是欺騙了。關於這一點，你最好不要自找麻煩。騙她可不是件容易的事。我有位蠍座的好友，非常不屑的接受了我給她「褔爾摩斯」的封號。蠍座女人有刺探秘密的原始慾望和本事。不過，至於她的秘密，她可以守口如瓶。你最好不要好奇。她是那種可以守一輩子的女人，沉得住氣極了。

第二，蠍座女子在吵架的時侯，可是句句話都像刀，殺得你遍體鱗傷。除非她發現你刀槍不入，她或許會想別的辦法修理你。比方說「冷戰」，這也是蠍座女人的看家本領之一（我說過她絕對沉得住氣）。總之，如果你激怒了她，或是你做錯了事，她認為你該得到一些教訓的話，她勢必會找到懲罰你的方式，直到她認為你確實得到了你「應得的」，方可善罷干休。

我有個朋友曾把他和他蠍座妻子吵架的經過說給我聽，他說「她發脾氣，我就不講話。她更火大，我就去睡覺！她把音響開得很大聲，不准我睡，我就說『那我出去好了』她居然把門反鎖，不讓我出去。耗到半夜，直到我認真面對她提出來的問題，誠懇的提出解釋，她才放我去睡覺。

怎麼樣，蠍座女子鬧彆扭的耐力果然驚人吧！所以我奉勸你在碰到這種情況的時侯，趁早棄甲投降，她或許會恕你自首無罪。不要覺得她有點欺人太甚，那是她難以控制的激烈本性。但是，當戰火平熄的時侯，她又會像溫柔的毛毯一樣，把你緊緊的包圍起來，保證你很快就會忘記她剛才那個可惡的樣子。

蠍座的女子對自己的男人的確有一點支配慾，那是她事事都想參與的目的，絕不是為了要凌駕於你之上，成為你的女王，她只是想要全力的幫助你走向成功之路，因此才會事事都為你打算。如果你沒有照她的意思去做，她會有一種恨鐵不成鋼的失望。她渴你是一個堅強、勇敢又有智慧的男人。卻又擔心你會太過獨立而離她太遠。這一切的矛盾、多疑，以及強烈的佔有慾，全是因為愛你才如此啊！

蠍座的女人沒有平淡的愛，若不是全部，就是沒有。而她對你的要求也是如此。趕快想清楚，這是一場驚心動魄的愛情，錯過它，可就機會難求哦！

蠍座的女人與「性」

在星象學中，天蠍座掌理的是人體的性器官。因此，天蠍座的人通常是最具有「性」吸引力的。

蠍座的女人一如蠍座男人一樣，在性愛方面的表現是熱情而激烈的。精力十分旺盛，持久力很好，能給對方一種全心投入的成就感。而自己本身也懂得在性愛之中得到極大的樂趣。喜愛長時間、激烈纏綿的性愛，冷靜平淡的對手會讓她覺得掃興。

天蠍座的女人與十二個星座的男人

1. 牡羊座：冤家型的組合。他是個讓妳心疼又被妳寵壞的大男孩。但頑皮的他卻總是讓妳又氣又傷心。
2. 金牛座：你們都很重視對方，對彼此也有相當的信賴和尊重。但有些時侯在意見溝通上常發生阻礙。
3. 雙子座：那通常不是妳可以相信而付出感情的對象，彼此不太容易有非常深刻的交往。
4. 巨蟹座：你們在感情上可以配合的很好，彼此誠懇而全心的付出。不過，在氣勢上往往是妳佔上風的。
5. 獅子座：彼此深深的吸引，卻在相處的過程中發現個性上有太多的不同。往往會成為相愛又互相折磨的伴侶。
6. 處女座：妳會享他對妳無微不至的叮嚀，欣賞他嘮嘮叨叨的樣子。在他面前，妳一會兒像母親，一會兒像是個頑皮的小女孩。
7. 天秤座：妳們多半保持一些距離。秤座的面面俱到會讓妳覺得不夠真實。而妳的愛怨分明可能無法與他取得共鳴。
8. 天蠍座：這可高手過招，有好戲看了。你們好的時侯如膠似漆，不好的時侯就像是三世仇家。
9. 射手座：你們愛的方式差別很大。雖然彼此之間有吸引力，結果往往是妳氣得半死，而他跑得不知蹤影。
10. 摩羯座：你們的結合對彼此都很有幫助，你們都是有堅強意志的人，相互配合很容易開創美好前途。
11. 水瓶座：對於事情的看法，你們差距很大，如要長相廝守最好妳能學會尊重他的空間。
12. 雙魚座：你們的心靈很容易相通，彼此能完全體會到對方的愛。在生活上，妳通常得要扮演照顧他的角色。

2007-06-29T03:48:00.000-07:00

Dragon found in Balik Pulau, Penang..

I received this email.. from a friend.. and i doubt this..
Is it a prank???I wish someone could tell me..

2007-06-28T07:09:00.001-07:00

"Importance of having Breakfast"

Breakfast can help prevent strokes, heart attack and sudden death.
Advice on not to skip breakfast!

Healthy living
For those who always skip breakfast, you should stop that habit now! You've heard many times that "Breakfast is the most important meal of the day." Now, recent research confirms that one of the worst practices you can develop may be avoiding breakfast.

Why?

Because the frequency of heart attack, sudden death, and stroke peaks between 6:00a.m. and noon , with the highest incidence being
between 8: 00a.m. and 10:00a.m.What mechanism within the body could account for this significant jump in sudden death in the early
morning hours?

We may have an Answer.

Platelet, tiny elements in the blood that keep us from bleeding to Death if we get a cut, can clump together inside our arteries due to cholesterol or laque buildup in the artery lining. It is in the morning hours that platelets become the most activated and tend to form these internal blood clots at the greatest frequency.

However, eating even a very light breakfast prevents the morning platelet activation that is associated with heart attacks and strokes. Studies performed at Memorial University in St.Johns, Newfoundland found that eating a light, very low-fat breakfast was critical in modifying the morning platelet activation. Subjects in the study consumed either low-fat or fat-free yogurt, orange juice, fruit, and a source of protein coming from yogurt or fat-free milk. So if you skip breakfast, it's important that you change this practice immediately in light of this research. Develop a simple plan to eat cereal, such as oatmeal or Bran Flakes, along with six ounces of grape juice or orange juice, and perhaps a piece of fruit. This simple plan will keep your platelets from sticking together, keep blood clots from forming, and perhaps head off a potential Heart Attack or stroke. So never ever skip breakfast.

2007-06-28T07:03:00.001-07:00

Serious Accident - 12 Dead, 16 Still Missing :P

2007-06-28T06:50:00.000-07:00

天秤星座的男人
田希仁
天秤座的男人有種與生俱來的風采，即使他長得不帥，也多半擁有著溫和儒雅的氣質，有很多偶像級的男明星都是天秤座的，更何況他是個戀愛專家，你會愛上他，一點也不奇怪，一開始的時候你會覺得一切都太完美了，等真正進入狀況，你才會發現要努力的事情還不少呢！
他喜歡一切美好的事物。擁擠，雜亂，壓力，都會破壞他內心的平衡感（那是他最重視的感覺）。所以，不要老是讓他陪你去逛夜市，不要帶他去跟你一大堆三姑六婆的朋友吃飯，不要在他面前像個阿巴桑，不要一天問他幾十次「你愛我嗎？」或許他只會變得冷漠，不曾抱怨。所以很可能一直到他棄你而去，你仍不明白問題出在那裡。
我有好幾個朋友都是天秤座男人的手下敗將。剛開始談戀愛的時侯，一切實在都太美了。每次聽他們說，我心裡都免不了有一絲的妒意。尤其其中一位遇見天秤座男子的朋友是第一次談戀愛，對於天秤座完美的戀愛技巧更是無招架之力。每天早上，他打電話叫她起床，中午帶著玫瑰花到公司接她吃飯，晚上開車載她去兜風，月光下散步，吻別後送她回家。她剛洗完澡，又接到他的電話。所有文藝愛情片中男主角會做的事，天秤座的男人都會發揮得更好。
戀愛中的女人總是喜歡撒嬌，尤其碰到這麼溫柔體貼的男人，當然更容易變本加厲囉！沒事兒就發個小脾氣，不然又吵著要分手。當然這都不是真心的，她只是喜歡看那個秤座男子痴痴挽留，衷心討好的樣子，她覺得自己是被寵愛著的，而那個秤座男人從來不曾抱怨什麼，直到有一天，她又在鬧脾氣了，她寫了一封信給他，表示她覺得他不再像以前那麼愛他了，她不想再繼續下去。過了幾天，那個秤座男人居然沒有了消息，她忍不住了，打了通電話給他。電話那邊傳來一個冷漠的聲音：「我想妳說得對，我已經不愛你了，我們分手吧！」
你能想像那種從雲端摔到水泥地上的滋味嗎？天秤座男人的變心，常常完全沒有任何示警的行動。其實他自已也弄不清楚到底是什麼破壞了他內心的平衡。他看不透自己的內心，正如他看不透你的內心一樣。我常常覺得天秤座男人很容易把女人寵壞，然後又在真的寵壞她之後告訴她—妳太壞了。
通常當你在鬧彆扭的時侯，也只是一味的想挽回原本和諧愉快的狀況，也並不想深入探究原因，而他自己在心裡上的不愉快，他也同樣的不追根究底，卻會想辦法讓自己平衡過來。平衡的方法可能有兩種，一種是再找一個溫柔的情人，另一種是乾脆躲開你遠遠的，你可千萬不要太粗心大意，有恃無恐哦！我說他是戀愛專家，那是純技術性的。他的理性告訴他事情的對錯與方向，但他無法體會事情發生的內在因素，和你的情緒反應。你得要做自己的，同時做他的心理醫生才行。
天秤座男人在做決定的時侯總是有些猶豫不決，在感情方面更是如此。由於他是戀愛聖手，喜歡他的女生自然很多，那外遇的機率當然也就會比較高囉！可是天秤座的男人是喜歡皆大歡喜的，他很怕對不起別人，或者是造成別人的不快樂。要他主動說出離開妳的決定，真的是有點困難。所以拖到最後，通常都是女方作的決定。
我有個嫁了位天秤座老公的好友，就是如此中計的。我不得不承認她的確是個被寵壞的妻子，尤其是在懷孕之後更是有一點神經質。當她發現老公有外遇的時侯，她正挺著八個月的大肚子。那位天秤座的老公真的滿心愧疚，一再表示不會棄她於不顧。但是對於外面的那個女人，他也不能不負責任。僵持了幾個月，他總是兩邊討好，我的朋友終於受不了，提出離婚。她老公在簽字的時侯還說：「是你要離婚的，不是我哦！」他既不必愧疚，問題又解決了。要是我的朋友當初勇敢一點，忍一口氣，告訴他：「如果你再跟那個女人鬼混，我就去告你！」或許他們現在還會愉快的生活在一起呢。
很多時侯，他需要你堅決的態度，天秤座的男人真的經常如此。只要跟自己無關的事，他都能給予公平客觀的判斷，一旦碰到切身的問題，他的天秤就左右搖擺，難以做決定。甚至心情惡劣，亂發脾氣。這時侯你只要一把抓住那個天秤，告訴他你的決定，事情就搞定了。他保證會對你滿心感謝。天秤的男人基本上說來真的是很好相處的，他很少會對你做出不太合理的要求，如果作他的妻子，你只要把家裡弄得整齊，把自己打理的清爽，他不會很難伺侯。如果你不要沒事鬧情緒，發脾氣，你們會有很愉快，很浪漫的婚姻生活。天秤座男人始終是一付殷勤體貼的樣子，他的風流會僅限於研究戀愛技巧的調情，不會真的造成嚴重的影響。你的佔有慾和嫉妒心只要別大到讓他窒息的地步，他會很尊重你的。如果你懂得在平時做個善解人意的小女人，遇到事情的時侯做個果敢的女強人，那個明星一般的男人就一輩子跑不掉了！
天秤座的男人與「性」
天秤座男人在性愛方面的技巧，可能比不上他的戀愛技巧那樣出類拔萃。在這方面，他是有些放縱自己的。你可能會覺得他不太貼你的感覺。不要自己一個人生悶氣，把你的感受和需要告訴他，你們會配合得比較愉快。
天秤座的爸爸
天秤座的父親會是孩子心目中的「包青天」。他總是會以非常公正的態度處理孩子聽們的爭端。他不會是個容易發脾氣的爸爸，當孩子犯錯的時侯，他會耐心的聽他們的理由。不過很多天秤座父親喜歡辯論和演說的習慣，會讓孩子們覺得很頭疼。他會是個好爸爸，但是不會因為孩子而忽略你。

2007-06-28T06:47:00.000-07:00

天秤星座的女人
田希仁
在我的好朋友之中，天秤座的女子不算少數。由於她們個性隨和穩定，而且本身又很喜歡交朋友，因此，往往都是人緣絕佳的典型。我喜歡跟我的秤座女友們一聊天、出遊、逛街，甚至於討論些「正經事」。唯一不願意找她們的，就是「訴苦」、「發牢騷」。
很多時侯我們會很情緒化的，對於周圍的人、事、物，有著一大堆的抱怨。很想找一個會跟自己「同仇敵愾」的人吐吐苦水。這時侯，你最好別去煩一個秤座的女人。因為，理性而公正的她是不會跟你一個鼻孔出氣的。蟹座或是魚座的女人或許會完全感染你的情緒；牡羊座的或獅子座的女人可能會想個辦法幫你出氣；瓶座的女人可能一言不發地靜心聆聽。而秤座的女人呢？她會把事從到尾替你整理一次，然後告訴你，有哪些地方是你的不對，哪些地方是對方理虧。接下來應該如何應對，辦法一…辦法二…。她是不負責處理情緒的，但是，她的確可以幫助你處理問題。因此，遇到了疑難雜症可以找她，莫名的情緒就另請高明吧。
如果你想追求一個秤座女子，這是你該有的第一個概念。
天秤座是出現美女機率最高的一個星座。事實上，秤座的女人多數都能擁有著一種優雅的氣質。她們幾乎可以說是「男人」和「女人」的綜合體。在外表上總是掌握了優雅精緻的女人味，而思想上又有著豐富邏輯觀念的男性智慧。更理想的是，秤座女人很少會有搶著出風頭的表現。她們往往懂得把自己的智慧隱藏在怡人的女性溫柔之後，絕不讓它尖銳地刺傷男性的自尊。因此，無論是對同性或是異性而言，她們都是不可多得的好伴侶。
至於該如何才能贏得芳心呢？當然，首先你得是個很合乎邏輯的男人。太過於固執、偏激、情緒化的人，都不是秤座女子心目中的好伴侶。對於大多數的秤座女子來說，人生第一重要的事莫過於找個「好伴兒」。「孤單」是她的第一恐懼。所有美好的事物都因有人分享而真的有意義。可想而知，秤座女人對於選擇她的「伴兒」尤其是終生的伴侶，該是多麼嚴謹啦。
你最好是有著高尚品味的男人，因為多數的秤座女子都是對於「美感」極有鑑賞力的。穿著紅毛衣綠褲子，戴著紫色小帽的男人恐怕會跟秤座的女人緣分薄些。生活習慣不佳、油頭垢面的男人機會也不大。當然，風度翩翩、文質彬彬的男性，肯定會是秤座女子的最愛。
再者，如果你是一個不喜歡女人說話的男人，那你恐怕也不適合天秤座的女人。我絕不是說她們喜歡吱喳個不停。事實上還真的很少有秤座的女人會給人聒噪的印象。只是幾乎所有的秤座女性都擁有著天生的辯才。她很會說話，很喜歡與人討論，分析事情條條有理。而且很多時侯，的確能給你一些幫助。因為，她往往喜歡從各種角度去分析事情，找出一個客觀而公正的結論。
秤座女性不喜歡太過情緒化的人，當然她本身也絕不是愛鬧情緒的人。因為她是那麼的「講道理」。她喜歡跟別人講道理，更時時刻刻跟自己講道理。但是人總歸是有情緒的，而世間的事（尤其是感情的事），也不是每一樣都有道理說得通的。在這樣的時侯，秤座女子的秤臂就大幅的搖擺起來了。你不必緊張，更不必不費唇舌的跟她講道理（那可是她的專常）。多一點溫柔體貼，多些甜蜜愛意。很快的，她就會恢復原本的均衡美感了。
很多秤座女生在情緒不穩定的時侯，會有暴飲暴食的傾向。我有個秤座女友，經常在我們之間扮演婚姻愛情顧問的角色。她的理性客觀深得我們的信賴。沒想到有一天她竟然愛上了一個朋友們都反對，而且客觀條件確實大有問題的男人。我們的勸阻，自然沒多大用處。因為每次辯論起來，大家都不是她的對手。所有的缺點都能給她說成優點。不料，半年之後，那個男人竟突然棄她而去，娶了個富家小姐。剛遭到這個打擊的時侯，她沮喪的樣子，讓朋友都擔心她會從此消沉下去。大家都自動輪流陪在她身邊。兩個月的暴飲暴食，她胖了十三公斤，但心情卻漸漸平靜了下來，不久後認識了現在的「他」，一切的一切，包括身材，就全都恢復了。
對於面對多變的人世，秤座的女子有著極佳的平衡感。幾乎任何情況之下，她總能找到讓自己心裡平衡的辦法。這一點，對於她的男伴來說，實在是不可多得的優點。也正因如此，許多秤座女性在婚後都能成為丈夫事業上的好幫手。我說過，秤座女子極為重視「伴侶」的觀念，所以，她們不論在生活上，或是在事業上，都致力做一個好的合夥人。而且，秤座女性絕不會跟你搶著做董事長。
如果你在事業上並不需要她的協助，我仍然建議你讓她在婚後自由發展她的事業。一來，單純的家庭主婦生活，對於聰明的秤座女人來說似乎太無聊了些。她恐怕會需要更多的玩伴來排遣她的孤單感。而且，把你自己變成她唯一的辯論對象，顯然有點自討沒趣。二來，秤座女人通常都需要「足夠」金錢，去滿足她追「美」的慾望。我不能說秤座女子一定有些揮霍。但我肯定絕大多數秤座女子的品味都不「便宜」。所以，讓她能夠自給自足，你會輕鬆不少。更何況她們確實都是很有工作能力的。
她是個以夫為重的女人。她可以做一個溫柔可愛的小妻子，也可以是陪你共創事業的哥兒們。她可靠而不自誇。給你最好的建議，卻永遠不搶你的風采。她的穩定性很夠，沒有許多女人任性、驕縱、不可理喻的缺點，她是許多丈夫們又敬又愛的妻子典型。只要你偶爾有耐性，聽她振振有辭的訓你一小時（這種情況，憑良心說並不太多）。當有人使她的秤臂強烈搖擺的時侯，給她溫柔浪漫的安慰，尤其她在大吃大喝的時侯，你就該意識到，這是你該有所表現的時侯了。對她來說，你的耐心關懷就是萬靈丹，只要適時服下，她立刻就能恢復原本均衡優雅的形象。難怪有好多人說說，能娶到一個天秤座的女人，真是「褔氣」啦！
天秤座的女人與「性」
秤座的女人是喜歡「戀愛」的女人，非常講究「愛」的技巧。在「性」的方面也是如此。
秤座的女人不喜歡粗糙而缺乏情調的性交。與其如此她情願放棄而追求其他的樂趣。她十分重視彼此間的配合。相互的調情對她來說是非常重要的。秤座女子雖不會在性愛中扮演主動攻擊的角色。但是一旦置身其中，則會全力的配合與要求。是屬於重視感觀刺激的典型。
天秤座的女人與十二個星座的男人
1. 牡羊座：他做事的急進方式與妳的再三權衡有很大的不同。若能互補倒是對彼此都有幫助。否則就容易起衝突。
2. 金牛座：對於「美」的追求，你們是能夠有共嗚的。但他對妳來說似乎有時太執拗了些。
3. 雙子座：你們都是屬於風向的知性典型，許多想法可以不謀而合。彼此的關係也不會太過黏。
4. 巨蟹座：對妳來說，他似乎太感情用事了些。而你的理性與冷靜，有時會讓他誤會妳漠不關心。
5. 獅子座：他落落大方的態度基本上是能吸引妳的。如果有共同的興趣，彼此可成為共享人生的快樂伙伴。
6. 處女座：大體上說來，他通常不會是妳欣賞的典型。而妳的「大道理」，他往往不以為然。
7. 天秤座：一般來說，這是才子佳人型的組合。但是當心你們總在彼此都說了一大堆看法之後，卻始終難以作結論
8. 天蠍座：對妳來說，他們的個性似乎太強烈了些。「寧為玉碎」的人生觀，是不屬於追求和平的天秤座的。
9. 射手座：你們是很容易玩的來的好朋。不過射手座的男人喜歡說服別人的習慣，妳恐怕有一點不太適應。
10. 摩羯座：你們做人處世的基本觀念簡直完全不同，妳很難理解他的固執和偏見。而他或許會認為妳不夠有原則。
11. 水瓶座：以星象學來，這算是最適合妳的星座，他往往有著以不變應變的態度，以及接納各種不同看法的雅量。你們可以在擁有自我空間的情況下，愉快相處。
12. 雙魚座：情緒起伏大的他，性格上和妳差距很大。雖然有些時侯你們在一起會覺得很過癮，但多數時侯仍下步調不一的。

2007-06-22T11:29:00.000-07:00

WHAT IS MARRIAGE???*

** 1. Marriage is not a word. It's a sentence (a life sentence).

2. Marriage is love. Love is blind. Therefore marriage is an institution for
the blind.

3. Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor's Degree and
the woman gets her masters.

4. Marriage is a three-ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring and
suffering.

5. Married life is full of excitement and frustration: In the first year of
marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the
woman speaks and the man listens.In the third year, they both speak and the
NEIGHBOUR listens.

6. Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with
friends.Youorder what you want, and when you see what the other person
has, you wish
you had ordered that instead.

7. There was this man who muttered a few words in the church and found
himself married. A year later he muttered something in his sleep and found
himself divorced.

8. A happy marriage is a matter of giving and taking; the husband gives and
the wife takes.

9. Son: How much does it cost to get married, Dad? Father: I don't know son,
I'm still paying for it.

10. Son: Is it true Dad? I heard that in ancient China, a man doesn't know
his wife until he marries her. Father: That happens everywhere, son,
EVERYWHERE!

11. Love is one long sweet dream, and marriage is the alarm clock.

12. They say that when a man holds a woman's hand before marriage, it is
love; after marriage it is self-defense.

13. When a newly married man looks happy, we know why. But when a 10-year
married man looks happy, we wonder why.

14. There was this lover who said that he would go through hell for her.
They got married, and now he is going through HELL.

16. When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him
keep her.

17. Eighty percent of married men cheat in America, the rest cheat in
Europe.

18. After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin. They just
can't face each other, but they still stay together.

19. Marriage is man and a woman become one. The trouble starts when they try
to decide which one.

20. Before marriage, a man yearns for the woman he loves. After the marriage
the "Y" becomes silent.

21. I married Miss right; I just didn't know her first name was Always.

22. It's not true that married men live longer than single men, it only
seems longer.

23. Losing a wife can be hard. In my case, it was almost impossible.

24. A man was complaining to a friend: I HAD IT ALL-MONEY, A BEAUTIFUL
HOUSE, THE LOVE OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, THEN POW! IT WAS ALL GONE. WHAT
HAPPENED, asked his friend. He says MY WIFE FOUND OUT.

25. WIFE: Let's go out and have some fun tonight. HUSBAND: OK, but if you
get home before I do, leave the hallway
Lights on.

26. At a cocktail party, one woman said to another: AREN'T YOU WEARING YOUR
RING ON THE WRONG FINGER? The other replied, YES, I, AM. I MARRIED THE WRONG
MAN.

27. Man is incomplete until he gets married, then he is finished.

28. It doesn't matter how often a married man changes his job, he still ends
up with the same boss.

29. A man inserted an ad in the paper - WIFE WANTED. The next day he
received a hundred of letters and they all said the same thing - YOU CAN
HAVE MINE.

30. When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of
one thing - either the car is new or the wife is.

2007-06-22T11:20:00.000-07:00

What does Love means...defined by 4 to 8 year olds :)

This is so sweet!!!!
Slow down for three minutes to read this.
A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, "What does love mean?"
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think
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"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore.
So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

Rebecca- age 8

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"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.
You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."
Billy - age 4
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"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."
Karl - age 5
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"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your french fries without making them give you any of theirs."
Chrissy - age 6
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"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."
Terri - age 4
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"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."
Danny - age 7
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"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.
My Mommy and Daddy are like that . They look gross when they kiss"
Emily - age 8
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"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."
Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
------------------------------... "If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,"
Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)
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"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."
Noelle - age 7
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"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."
Tommy - age 6
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"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."
Cindy - age 8
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"My mommy loves me more than anybody .
You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night."
Clare - age 6
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"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."
Elaine- age 5
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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Brad Pitt."
Chris - age 7
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"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."
Mary Ann - age 4
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"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."
Lauren - age 4
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"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image)
Karen - age 7
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"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."
Jessica - age 8
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And the final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.
The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.
When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,
"Nothing, I just helped him cry"

2007-06-22T10:40:00.000-07:00

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON

Pay attention to what
you read. After you have finished reading it, you will know the
reason it was sent to you. Here goes:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that
person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to
meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you
through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to
aid you physically, emotion there for the reason you need them to
be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring
the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk
away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we
must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled,
their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and
now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has
come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace
or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never
done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe
it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must
build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job
is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have
learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a
season or a lifetime.

2007-06-22T10:39:00.000-07:00

Liver Damage

Good rest and sound sleep is very
Important... if u don't sleep well,
The toxic in your body will accumulate..
Affecting your health and your mood...

The main causes of liver damage are:
1. Sleeping too late and waking up too late are the main cause.
2. Not urinating in the morning.
3. Too much eating.
4. Skipping breakfast.
5. Consuming too much medication.
6. Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring, and artificial sweetener.
7. Consuming unhealthy cooking oil. As much as possible reduce cooking oil use when frying, which includes even the best cooking oils like olive oil. Do not consume fried foods when you are tired, except if the body is very fit.
8. Consuming overly done foods also add to the burden of liver. Veggies should be eaten raw or cooked 3-5 parts. Fried veggies should be finished in one sitting, do not store.

We just have to adopt a good daily lifestyle and eating habits. Maintaining good eating habits and time condition are very important for our body to absorb and get rid of unnecessary chemicals according to "schedule."

Because: Evening at 9 - 11pm : is the time for eliminating unnecessary/ toxic chemicals (de-toxification) from the antibody system (lymph nodes). This time duration should be spent by relaxing or listening to music. If during this time a housewife is still in an unrelaxed state such as washing the dishes or monitoring children doing their homework, this will have a negative impact on her health.

Evening at 11pm - 1am : The de-toxification process in the liver, and ideally should be done in a deep sleep state. Early morning 1 - 3am : de-toxification process in the gall, also ideally done in a deep sleep state.

Early morning 3 - 5am : de-toxification in the lungs. Therefore there will sometimes be a severe cough for cough sufferers during this time. Since the de-toxification process had reached the respiratory tract, there is no need to take cough medicine so as not to interfere with toxin removal process.
Morning 5 - 7am : de-toxification in the colon, you should empty your bowel.

Morning 7 - 9am : Absorption of nutrients in the small intestine, you should be having breakfast at this time. Breakfast should be earlier, before 6:30am, for those who are sick. Breakfast before 7:30am is very beneficial to those wanting to stay fit. Those who always skip breakfast, they should change their habits, and it is still better to eat breakfast late until 9 -10am rather than no meal at all. Sleeping so late and waking up too late will disrupt the process of removing unnecessary chemicals. Aside from that, midnight to 4am is the time when the bone marrow produces blood.

Therefore, have a good sleep and don't sleep late.

2007-06-22T09:41:00.000-07:00

Coffee or Cups???

" The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems,but those who learn to live with things that
are less than perfect."

* A group of graduates, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor.
* Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.
* Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
* When all the students had a cup of coffee, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones.
* While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.
* Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee.
* In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink.
* What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you
consciously went for the best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.
* Now consider this:
- Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups.
- They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we
live.
- Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee
God has provided us. Enjoy your coffee!."

* The happiest people don't have the best of everything.
* They just make the best of everything."

1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.
5. Leave the rest to God.

You are the miracle, my friend;
Your life either shines a light OR casts a shadow!
Shine a light & Enjoy the Coffee!!!

2007-06-08T10:51:00.000-07:00

After so long since i last blogged, around half year... so many many things had happened, eight months to be exact. During these eight months, i lost more than i gain. I never thought that i will had to experience it for another few years to come.. Last November, someone special walked into my life and i will never going to forget it. His name is Choon Hock but later then he got his english name , Cavan.. hardly got people has such name.. maybe that's the one of the reason he is special to me. Before this, whenever i was alone in KL, Cavan can be considered as one of my closest friends. We shared our experiences, play, had fun teasing one another, studied together, stared at the dark night together and ended up, he came in and joined my life. I have never thought of that. It is great to have him around. Unfortunately, happiness won't last long. I gained one important person in life and i had to lose my the other important person in my life. Chinese New Year eve, i guess that was when all the devils started their fight in attacking my grandmother. People says, on the first day of cny, it's very bad luck to break anything. I believed that, while i was preparing to pray before 12 am, in a hurry condition, i accidentally broke two bowls, and i knew something bad was about to happen but i never knew that, it came so fast. The next day, was CNY, i went to visit my granny in hospital as my granny underwent cataract surgery and the nurses said that, my granny lost her conscious around 12 am, which means the same time i broke the bowls and since that days my granny's conditions got worsen from day 1 of Chinese New Year till the last day of Chinese New Year as a result from Septicemia, or bacteria infections leading to multiple organs failure. I really had a nightmare Chinese New Year and i thought i will never going to experience it for another few years and maybe get to know Cavan. Tomorrow, 10th of June 2007, will be the 100th day since i last saw my granny. I really do miss my granny and i really wish i could communicate and talk to her but it just impossible.

We can never guess what will happen the next day, life brief candle.. from William Shakespeare

Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow,
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day
To the last syllable of recorded time,
And all our yesterays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death.  Out, out, brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more; it is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.

We can never guess when the wind is going to blow off the candle and no matter what going to happen

tomorrow, we got to be strong and appreciate what we have today. For today, i really wanna tell those that i love, my family members, friends and Cavan that i really love u guys and even if i do not mention it, i still wanna say i'm proud to have you guys part of my life. Thanks for everything, and sorry.. if i ever did anything wrong especially to my parents. Take Care.. n you too, Cavan.. i'm glad to have you by my side..

To my granny, you are my one and only best granny in my life, and you will always live strong and healty in my heart. Here I wish you happy no matter where you go... and i will always love ya too.. Miss ya a million years.. Granny, you were and are the best!!

Best regards,

Josephine Tan

2006-10-21T00:21:00.000-07:00

A Broken Heart

Season by season,

Came and gone,

And yet Fate has seem to be tearing us apart,

As if tearing my heart apart into thousand of pieces

That can never be attached back,

Year after Year,

Passes and went away,

Thou never send care and love.

Far away, I waited as if there were no ending.

Month after month,

Wind blowing,

Rain pouring,

Sun shines,

I doubt that,

Will ever a dog turn back to look at a cat?

Day after day,

Life still has tomorrow,

Grasses green,

Suffering

makes my heart grew even stronger,

And everything between thee and I,

Seems meaningful no more.

* Josephine Tan, 2006 *

2006-10-10T04:50:00.000-07:00

End of 18 is the beginning of 19...

i just hate it when there is no proper internet connection especially when i wanna post something like blogs and it just got disconnected. It irritates me very much but i still cannot do anything but to rewrite all over. But unfortunately i just can remember certain part of it. Let me flash back, it all happened on 6th of October.. and i guess, i will never going to forget about it. That will be the one of the most memorable day that i ever had. I thought i was going to be alone, all by myself in a big city. Though i'm 400 over kms away from penang, home, family and all my fella friends in penang, one that very day, i'm very touched my gang in KL as they have never forgotten me. I'm very grateful and thankful to God as He presenting me a lot of valuable things that cannot be bought by cash. That's the most valuable things that i ever have in my life. Relationship between my family and i, and not forgotten..Friendships..

This year October 6th and 7th, are two very special days for me and i think i can only have it only once in every 18 years. On the 6th, was the Mid Autumn Festival and that is my birthday according to the lunar calendar while 7th is my real birthday. I never knew my friends in kl will did something special for me. I really appreciate for what they have done for me and i feel bad for thinking the other way round about them. Life can never be better without a gang of friends that really know the meaning of LIFE and i'm glad that i get to know them in the very first place. That night, i was thinking that, as long as everyone could gather around like a reunion or maybe celebrate mooncake festival together, i am satisfy and happy as our finals are just around the corner. While we were gathering for a dinner, My friends took out present one by one for me. I was so surprise and happy that they remember my birthday and celebrated for me. The most important thing for me is not getting any birthday celebration or presents or whether they know my birthday or not, all i ever one is just to see happily for dinner and in their life. We had a great time chatting, and taking photos.

After dinner, we went to the nearest condo and play there. We lighted candles around the fountain and i can say that, that's the most romantic birthday that i ever had in this 19 years. Although the candles can only last for about a very short while, for me it's like still flamming brightly in my heart.(Oh ya, I'm really sorry that all of us got to clean up the wax around the fountain.. really hard work though) We really had a great time playing at that condo, especially when we all agreed to make sure one of my guy friend, CH jump into the pool. In order to make sure he really jumps, we ran around chasing him to get his belonging and make sure he jumps. At last i managed to get his phone and keys.

After we decided to call off the day, SK chased CH to around the pool and got him down the water. What we least expected was SK went into the water too and they both were like wet chickens. haha.. just kidding.. and i really had a wonderful moment that night, even now when i think back, it's still as sweet as it just happened right now.

Lastly, i wanna thanks all my friends who had wished me.. and attended the party, and the dedications on that little lovely cards. I really going to miss everyone of you guys when next next sems comes.. Oh ya, really got to thank Poh Han for going around the supermarket a few times in order to get that lovely semiquaver chain. I'm keep it as if i'm keeping my golden retriever.. Thanks Alex the Tai lou, Yang Lin the gal gal, Mei Zhi, Chin Wei, SunKish, Jin Wan and others. Thanks for the wonderful night.. i guess i'm not too late to say thank you.
Thanks to all my friends and relatives over in Penang and Perak respectively for the sms wishes, and guess what, i'm going back to Penang in weeks time.. very soon... and i'll grab this two months holiday to meet every one of you in Penang.. haha.. just cannot wait for it.

Before i end my blog, i really wanna say a huge thank you and love ya all to my fela friends from disted and now in Monash.. especially Saik Su and Khee Chaw(Kicap)... well, it's kinda disappointing for me not to be able to meet you guys that day when u guys came over to Cheras as Kicap was blur about the location of the BBQ party. I was like so excited finally get to meet my old friends in KL.. but then it's ok.. if we din get to meet this time, we'll still have plenty of time in the future.. right?? Thanks Saik Su for everything, and my best online buddy all this while.

To those in Penang, remember to wait for me... i don't wanna miss any fun..and to those in KL, all the best in Finals... and after the finals, we'll rock man..

So, that was how my sweet 18th has gone while welcoming my 19th the last teen in my life.. growing older and older from day to day...

Take care.

Regards,

Josephine Tan

2006-09-29T03:43:00.000-07:00

hello there,

As for the first time user of this blog, i just wanna say that anyone are welcome to visit my blog here as to share with everyone how is it my days go by. I may not post blogs all the time as i may have something more important stuff to catch on but i promise whenever i have the time i will update the blog as there will no point for creating a blog without using it. Am i right?

Lastly, i just wanna say something if anyone would like to view, or add comment whether's bad or good.. i'm willing to take and your responses are mostly welcomed. Thank you and Take care.

Regards,

Josephine Tan